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#51
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You think he leaves to get me to cry? I assumed it was b/c he can't handle me seeming to be more confident or "better than" him... And are you suggesting I play the victim to placate his need for superiority?
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Bi Polar... Borderline... PTSD... Pretty stable for the last four years... Completed lots of therapy... Zoloft for last 15 yrs... Olanzepine and Lamictal most recently... "Whoever fights monsters should see to it that in the process he does not become a monster. And if you gaze long enough into an abyss, the abyss will gaze back into you"... Friedrich Nietzsche |
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#52
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Is leaving him not an option for you?
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#53
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Bi Polar... Borderline... PTSD... Pretty stable for the last four years... Completed lots of therapy... Zoloft for last 15 yrs... Olanzepine and Lamictal most recently... "Whoever fights monsters should see to it that in the process he does not become a monster. And if you gaze long enough into an abyss, the abyss will gaze back into you"... Friedrich Nietzsche |
#54
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As I said though, the relationship ended, so I can't attest to ways in which it helped the health of the relationship, only how it helped me. But I think that when you're in a relationship with someone who tends towards manipulation and control, all kinds of healthy survival could be abetted by creatively engendering those traits as well, in what ways you can live with. Which may not be same ways I could. ![]()
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“We use our minds not to discover facts but to hide them. One of things the screen hides most effectively is the body, our own body, by which I mean, the ins and outs of it, its interiors. Like a veil thrown over the skin to secure its modesty, the screen partially removes from the mind the inner states of the body, those that constitute the flow of life as it wanders in the journey of each day.” — Antonio R. Damasio, “The Feeling of What Happens: Body and Emotion in the Making of Consciousness” (p.28) |
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#55
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Please just go back and read only what I write and you'll be good!!!
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#56
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I think you are caught in a cycle with him and you are enabling him. If you change your reaction, then he has to change his.
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#57
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Bi Polar... Borderline... PTSD... Pretty stable for the last four years... Completed lots of therapy... Zoloft for last 15 yrs... Olanzepine and Lamictal most recently... "Whoever fights monsters should see to it that in the process he does not become a monster. And if you gaze long enough into an abyss, the abyss will gaze back into you"... Friedrich Nietzsche |
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#59
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That's a good question. Depends on how the lover acts.
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What is your guys diagnosis? |
#61
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all very interesting!!!
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Thank goodness I have worked hard and gotten over that, it made life quite awful.
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#63
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Understand. I have felt like an idiot before. I loved a cluster B. He thought i was pitiful for feeling anything for him.
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#64
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Not in my experience. It's more like they get taken for granted and the person w NPD deserves to have the person that loves them engage in acts of sacrifice.
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I have had that experience as well.
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#66
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From my own experience NPD partners look down at everyone as they are in a much higher place. More knowledge, more life experience, more adept at getting themselves out of troubling situations, more capable of acting like nothing is happening and operate from a much higher perspective because they control everything and everyone around them and can decide who stays, who goes on the priority list, who goes on the 'Plan A B or C list. Who deserves to sit at the right hand of the almighty on special occasions. Who deserves to be taught a bit of a lesson.
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#67
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He doesn't have one. But if you meet him and talk to him for just a few min it's completely obvious he is an N... Talks about himself every second he gets, rarely asks questions, and has an aversion to talking about anything with any real depth... He is obsessed with his accomplishments and ideas, is also pretty much a bully who derives pleasure out of putting others down... He only does what HE wants to do and throws a fit if you try to stand up for yourself or your thoughts/wants too... He will threaten to leave if you point out his self-centered behavior and he lacks empathy for the most part...
For the record, I saw these traits emerging AFTER I fell in love with him... I suppose it was his air of confidence, his looks and his demeanor, and affectionate need for me of course, that drew me in... And prob because I have Daddy issues; he resembles my N father... It's kind of a sick and twisted thing but we balance each-other I think... Like my T taught me: I seem to adore the vampires and not only do they feed off me but I'm nourished by their need for me in order to survive...
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Bi Polar... Borderline... PTSD... Pretty stable for the last four years... Completed lots of therapy... Zoloft for last 15 yrs... Olanzepine and Lamictal most recently... "Whoever fights monsters should see to it that in the process he does not become a monster. And if you gaze long enough into an abyss, the abyss will gaze back into you"... Friedrich Nietzsche |
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Interesting concept. The idea of someone with a PD looking down at someone who is emotionally healthy and has self-esteem.
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#69
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True enough. Check out "relational aggression" on Google.
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I understand daddy issues heh, both of my fathers are narcissists... my biological father is dead now though, good riddance! Ha ha ha. |
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