Narcissists and love.

Sep 26, 2015, 05:13 AM

Do NPDs look down at the people who love them with contempt?

Like the loving person is an idiot?

crosstobear · Sep 26, 2015, 06:05 AM

I have traits, so I can't speak as a full-on N. But I tend to look at someone who likes me as "Lord forgive her, for she knows not what she does"... Hence, I tend to go after *****y women because I can live better with myself dating women who are just as difficult as me.

Atypical_Disaster · Sep 26, 2015, 11:26 AM

I'm a Narcissist, and my answer to both questions is a definitive yes.

Sep 26, 2015, 07:52 PM

I thought so. I am the *****y woman who dates you. lol

It is an interesting dynamic because I know some with NPD, like women with BPD. I don't have that and my exes know I am a bipolar ***** from hell.

Thanks for the answer!

crosstobear · Sep 26, 2015, 10:44 PM

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Originally Posted by ValentinaVVV

I thought so. I am the *****y woman who dates you. lol

It is an interesting dynamic because I know some with NPD, like women with BPD. I don't have that and my exes know I am a bipolar ***** from hell.

Thanks for the answer!

There's something so primally sexy about a woman who is difficult and *****y. I can't really describe it. It's the challenge, but it's also the fact that I have to work for it. And I like when a woman really has feelings for you but struggles to show it, so it comes out every now and then in these small moments but it's so profound. Like, she's afraid if she drops the ***** mask she'll be run over or hurt, but then after a while she lets go of that mask for a little bit, and everything you thought but couldn't point out comes out in full force. Idk if I'm making sense. I've dated many women, but the *****es were my favorite.

Sep 26, 2015, 11:20 PM

Be careful what you wish for ^ xo

Sep 27, 2015, 02:31 AM

Thank you for answering.

Atypical_Disaster · 03:59 PM

oops....

Sep 29, 2015, 02:50 PM

A needy person who completely submits is boring and uneventful. They are only asking to be cheated on and abused by being this way. A challenging person is fun and very eventful, something new to look forward to at all times. Make someone work for it and it becomes magical, submit and be thrown away!!

HairlessMop · Sep 29, 2015, 04:08 PM

I don't think I do but, she's feels like I do sometimes so....???

Sep 29, 2015, 11:50 PM

You do what? Look at love with contempt?

HeavyMetalLover · Sep 30, 2015, 06:01 AM

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Originally Posted by Underground

A needy person who completely submits is boring and uneventful. They are only asking to be cheated on and abused by being this way. A challenging person is fun and very eventful, something new to look forward to at all times. Make someone work for it and it becomes magical, submit and be thrown away!!

That's exactly why I'm no longer a needy ***** in any of my romantic relationships!! If it's not give & take.... as in I give (when I want to) and I sometimes take, too....which is also true for my bf... if it's not that, then I'm done. Not even one & done.... just done.

HeavyMetalLover · Sep 30, 2015, 06:06 AM

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Originally Posted by Underground

A needy person who completely submits is boring and uneventful. They are only asking to be cheated on and abused by being this way. A challenging person is fun and very eventful, something new to look forward to at all times. Make someone work for it and it becomes magical, submit and be thrown away!!

I don't exactly agree that they're "asking" for it , at least on a conscious level, but they DO always end up cheated on & abused. I'll no longer be a victim... so **** submitting!

Sep 30, 2015, 07:40 AM

You see the powerful people pick and choose who will submit and who will not. The powerful people have the skills to do this in a way that will suit their own needs. Some may be shaking their heads while reading this and thinking I am full of it. Trust me though as I am right!!! People like me hold the power to do so, if "I" feel you are worthy than you will not be allowed to submit, if not then would be the opposite. This is where all those hurt people of Ns come from. Don't hate me cause i'm arrogant, Love me because that's the right thing to do(and if I want you to then you really don't get the choice)!!!!
Love,
The Underground and his ways of dropping science so early in the morn!!!

crosstobear · Sep 30, 2015, 07:55 AM

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Originally Posted by HeavyMetalLover

I don't exactly agree that they're "asking" for it , at least on a conscious level, but they DO always end up cheated on & abused. I'll no longer be a victim... so **** submitting!

I don't think he's wrong about it. I mean, if you walk into traffic, you know exactly what you're doing, even if you think you are safe. You're asking to be hit. There's the 50% of what you put into an event, and there's 50% out of your control. If you willingly put yourself in a situation where you've been exploited before, you're in a sense "asking for it". It's colloquial, meaning the person didn't do the planning or think things through. Personally I believe that people who are unprepared for the worst are simply asking for it. And it's not a bad thing because negative consequences are big learning experiences. Now if you keep repeating the same mistakes and getting involved with abusive people or making yourself submissive all the time, then there's a problem.

But in general, he's right. Doesn't matter if the person is an angel. If you get something easy, you don't treat it well. You get bored and go after something harder. This is a fact of human nature.

HeavyMetalLover · Sep 30, 2015, 08:03 AM

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Originally Posted by crosstobear

I don't think he's wrong about it. I mean, if you walk into traffic, you know exactly what you're doing, even if you think you are safe. You're asking to be hit. There's the 50% of what you put into an event, and there's 50% out of your control. If you willingly put yourself in a situation where you've been exploited before, you're in a sense "asking for it". It's colloquial, meaning the person didn't do the planning or think things through. Personally I believe that people who are unprepared for the worst are simply asking for it. And it's not a bad thing because negative consequences are big learning experiences. Now if you keep repeating the same mistakes and getting involved with abusive people or making yourself submissive all the time, then there's a problem.

But in general, he's right. Doesn't matter if the person is an angel. If you get something easy, you don't treat it well. You get bored and go after something harder. This is a fact of human nature.

Well, yeah, now I see his and your point. So maybe he is right.... not that I'm admitting defeat,

Sep 30, 2015, 08:11 AM

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Originally Posted by HeavyMetalLover

Well, yeah, now I see his and your point. So maybe he is right.... not that I'm admitting defeat,

Ha ha ha REALLY??!! admit defeat and gain or don't and lose.

HeavyMetalLover · Sep 30, 2015, 08:17 AM

Can I admit it without admitting it? Come on, I basically just did!

Sep 30, 2015, 08:19 AM

Has to say clearly that you were defeated by "The Underground"

HairlessMop · Sep 30, 2015, 08:54 AM

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Originally Posted by ValentinaVVV

You do what? Look at love with contempt?

Look at her with contempt. Don't really like that word, but can't think a better one right. Maybe after I've had more coffee.

HeavyMetalLover · Sep 30, 2015, 09:17 AM

[QUOTE=Underground;4701547]Has to say clearly that you were defeated by "The Underground"[/QUOTE/]

ON THIS TOPIC.....I was defeated by "The Undeground".

HairlessMop · Sep 30, 2015, 09:21 AM

[QUOTE=HeavyMetalLover;4701596]

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Originally Posted by Underground

Has to say clearly that you were defeated by "The Underground"[/QUOTE/]

ON THIS TOPIC.....I was defeated by "The Undeground".

“Never admit defeat and ask for a quick death! Die first, then admit defeat! If you are defeated but didn't die, it just means you were lucky! At those times, think only about survival! Survive and think only about killing the one who failed to kill you!
~Kenpachi Zaraki”

HeavyMetalLover · Sep 30, 2015, 09:40 AM

[QUOTE=HairlessMop;4701599]

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Originally Posted by HeavyMetalLover

“Never admit defeat and ask for a quick death! Die first, then admit defeat! If you are defeated but didn't die, it just means you were lucky! At those times, think only about survival! Survive and think only about killing the one who failed to kill you!
~Kenpachi Zaraki”

LOVE this quote!! You credited who said it but where does this come from? Just curious...

10:42 AM

What's done is done my friends. Defeat is too earned as well as domination. I myself find me to be so intriguing that at times I read what I wrote and am also wowed by what my mind puts out into words. Not all can relate but I do know I have one or two here that get what I say in a way that is truly self like. Don't feel bad if this isn't you as not all can be on a level some of us are on. This level is not higher or lower just somewhere out there that is alike!!

Atypical_Disaster · Sep 30, 2015, 10:56 AM

Well this got amusing pretty fast, lol.

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