Are there usually certain people, or types of people that trigger you
Maybe people that remind remind you of family?

Are there triggers at all?

Sorry I ask so many questions.

[here today]

Originally Posted by ValentinaVVV

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Sorry I ask so many questions.

Honey, ain't no thing. People will either answer or not. You'll never know unless you ask.

[This is me trying out being genuinely nurturing instead of dominating matriarch. Please let me know if it's annoying.]

Aggressive or Gossipy females always remind me of my NPD Mother, I avoid them like the plague

[Atypical_Disaster]

No need to apologize for being inquisitive, I personally like that quality in a person.

For me it depends on how you define the word "trigger". I don't suffer from PTSD so in that sense of the word I don't get "triggered".

There are certainly people and institutions that I dislike strongly, and that make me angry/upset(this one is rare though, my default is anger). But I don't know if that's related to what you mean by being "triggered".

See, My mother would act all innocent and dumb. That was her fakeness. She would manipulate you into feeling sorry for her. So, I hate fake and weak women.

Oh my Mother knows how to play the innocent damsel in distress too, she is a master manipulator, but her true self is aggressive and vindictive.

I think my hyper-vigilant state of being prevents me from being triggered by people to the point where it shakes me. I go into survivor mode.. Once I have identified them, had a brief moment of feeling physically repulsed by their being. I then move on/away as quickly as I can.

It never worked on me either. In fact, I called her out on her fakeness all the time.

I bet she loved that ��

Of course, but not to derail.

So, Parents might be a big "trigger" for people. I don't think anyone needs to have a PD for that!

Exactly and not meaning to carry on but I will add that as the lady was my only female role model I displayed many similar behaviors and attracted so many female friends and acquaintances like her into my life until my late 20's when I found out about PD's . So the tales and people are a long list lol it is all just a boring similar trend and I am no innocent party to it all so I am sure I have triggered many unbeknownst in my time.

Online I find whiny people who are always the victim piss me off, I have had to pull myself back from commenting on threads at times as I know I am a frothing b*^%h and what I really want to say won't be helpful

[TishaBuv]

What triggers the narcissistic people i know to become abusive is criticism of them. They can dish it out, but they can't take it. Whereas criticism directed at me makes me internalize my anger, cry, and beat myself up.

Eventually, I became numb to my Parent's criticism. I know they were projecting. Also, as I got older, I realized that their criticisms were baseless. I seriously am not, stupid or unattractive. I am just not.

I think that is the cure for "healing".

[TishaBuv]

My mother is the master at deep cut downs. It wasn't that she called me ugly or stupid. It was done as a way to manipulate me. For example: i had a boyfriend that she didn't like. She said he was so ugly she couldn't even look at him and if i was even thinking about getting serious with him... well, little girls look like their daddies.