[Hidden In Rain]

I'm worried about my friend. I think that she has trich, but when I asked her about it, she seemed slightly panicked. She won't let me see the back of her neck or pull her hair back around me now. I feel horrible that she doesn't trust me. But, I'm also afraid that she is going seriously hurt herself. I don't know what to do. Should I ask her, or wait for her to tell me?

[Hidden In Rain]

She is a great person and I want to help. I'm so afraid that I will make things worse.

[ABS9988]

Hmm, I know when anyone mentions that my lashes are gone or hair is looking sparse, I get very defensive and angry. It stems from intense embarrassment and agitation over the fact that I can't quit doing it.

I wouldn't press too much about it though. It might make her uncomfortable. If you've already mentioned it, I'd wait for her to talk to you about it. If she doesn't, then maybe try talking to her again.

[always_em]

Do not press it too much. The few times a friend or family member has noticed my lack of hair I ended up getting really anxious and flustered and ended up making excuses.

I would just sorta pretend you don't notice anything and continue to be a good friend. Pulling out hair doesn't really cause physical harm, unless she is actually swallowing her hair once it is pulled out. Let her come to you with the problem if she wants to. Otherwise be supportive without pointing out something that makes trichotillomania sufferers extremely nervous.

[lone_twin4]

Make yourself available so she knows she can come to you, but don't be direct at this point. Just say that if she ever would like to talk about anything, you will be there. Then be there