[Lik3]

I have obsessive thoughts about infidelity, though it does not involve me at all. I have never cheated, nor have I been cheated on. So I wonder why I have it, but I have only theories. I know that does not seem to matter, but it does. I feel alone because of this and I wonder if others have obsessive thoughts about things that have nothing to do with their real life? For example, someone who is Buddhist might have obsessive thoughts about being Muslim, yet they don't know any Muslims, never attended a mosque, nor have observed Ramadan for instance That is a bad example and I don't mean to offend any Muslims or Buddhists, but I was trying to explain that my thoughts have nothing to do with my life outside of the mental images and compulsions.

[beauflow]

Lik3- I am sorry to ask for a more detailed, but do you mean obsessiveness thoughts on you being cheated on (even though you have never been cheated on) or you ponder on cheating (even though you never have cheated)
Or do you mean, if others (i.e. friends, family members, co-workers) are cheating or being cheating on

I am sorry I did not get you analogy with the religions.

Some days I ponder about others- but I don't let it go too far, course OCD isn't one of my DX's (i just do little things like touch things, and double lock the car, etc.) I can get obsessed with my thoughts though-

If it is not dealing with you- is there any way to let it fly out the window? I know i ask that and it must be hard with such a thing.. but IDK when I tend to ponder on others, that don't involve me--- i think to myself I have my own worries even if they don't make me feel better (i.e. i need to focus more on my issues, not escape into another's)

[Lik3]

I have wondered why this is happened to me. Why do I have these thoughts? I don't know anyone specifically who has been cheated on or have cheated. I have never cheated. It is a fantasy I guess, but I try to avoid it. It all started when I read some gossip about a woman who cheated only to not be able to move on from the gossip. It was rough that day and ever since I became fascinated and bothered about women, specifically wives, who cheat.

[beauflow]

Gossip- damn it to the under world!!- I swear I see so much crap on TV "you are not the father"..... If I myself watch too much of that, I can get wrapped up with thoughts of my relationship (I am a girl though! lol so mine is the other way around, but then I have had bad things and known people to cheat sadly). It is something that is real, you are smart and know that- thus if it is real it could happen to someone close to you- would that not make sense on why you may think on it?

We are yet humans, and some are dumb humans that make mean things happen. (that is to be funny I hope).

But just because the outside world of others, they have this life- does not mean you have to bring it into yours

Sure it is ok to be curious- but not too curious on things from others right?

I am sorry I can't give you much advice, I am sorry I even replied in a dx place that I don't fit, but I read your post and was curious,, but to say "let it fly out the window" does not help i am sure.

I do wish you well! Hopefully these thoughts will escape you-- perhaps read an article of something you are interested in that is positive

[Lik3]

Sure thing. I wish you well too. I wish I was never so curious. Curiosity killed the cat afterall.

[mindful_of_light]

I have OCD that historically centered on thoughts about being with someone who had another partner, which I considered adulterous thoughts and I thought, according to one isolated passage in the Bible, thoughts were actual adultery. It took a long time to see the the thoughts as just passing thoughts and to stop trying to run from my own head. Once I accepted them as passing thoughts, they gradually occurred much less frequently, and I was able to get on with my life.