Relationship OCD: Coping With Separation

Long story short, my wife and I are currently separated and my actions are the primary cause. Through our relationship I kept having these random periods of super irrational thoughts about her cheating on me, and this led me to breach her privacy multiple times and snoop through her phone and facebook. I finally visited with a counselor and psychiatrist and he diagnosed me as Pure-O OCD and some sort of delusional jealousy. He prescribed me 400mg of Seroquel. In the past I've also suffered from irrational fears that I've gotten AIDS and that my gf at the time was pregnant everytime we did anything.

Through the counseling and therapy I feel much better about the trust issues regarding my wife and I have been able to control those thoughts. However, I have recently noticed that my mind is now consumed about my wife and I's relationship. She is suffering from her own issues, chronic depression, and is taking medication in an attempt to get better.

Anyways, she sometimes will go a day or two without communicating with me because she is feeling very down and wants to be by herself. Some days she is much better and we will text almost all day. Recently this week we have barely been talking. We went to a counseling session together and it went pretty well, but other than that we have not been communicating much. I asked her last night if everything was okay and if I did something wrong to cause this drop in communication, and she said she is just focusing on trying to improve herself and her own issues. I completely understand that, but thoughts about our relationship have been consuming me. I am constantly worried that I did something wrong or that we are growing apart and are headed towards a divorce. She has told me before that she is doing all this with the end goal of staying together and she still loves me and wants us to work out. She even talks to me about where we should live next year and things like that. However, I am still having issues with this consuming my mind. I start to hate myself for what I did, then I worry about us growing apart and getting a divorce, and I forget all the things that are going well such as our counseling, the fact she now tells me she loves me and gives me a hug, and the fact she talks somewhat about our future.

I guess I am having trouble differentiating between what is natural and what is my OCD. I assume its natural for one to worry about their relationship when their wife is separated, but I think I am taking it too far. If so, I was wondering if anyone had any help or advice for me. Any help would be greatly appreciated! I've only been on medication for about a week so all of this is new to me.

It is really hard at times to tell the difference between natural worrying and ocd. It is understandable about you worrying about your relationship with your wife. Just give your medication time to work and give your counseling time. I wish I could give you an answer about it. Just wanted you to know someone understands your struggle.

You could have some serious anxiety issues as well. It is worth working closely with professionals to diagnose these things.