Is this an OCD thing?

After I gave birth to my son I started worrying that I was a good mom. I even went to get therapy because I kept fixating on whether or not I was being a good mom. Then, the community mental health center did not address whether or not I was a good mom but, they decided to find out how to give custody to my son's dad. Well, my son's dad thought that I was a good mom. Is this an OCD thing?

No, anxiety yes, but worrying is not ocd.

OCD is more complicated than just worrying about things. It's rather typical for parents to worry if their parenting is good enough. My daughter is an adult but I still wonder at times if I was and am good parent

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I think all parents wonder if they are doing a good enough job for their child/ren. I don't know enough about OCD. But, to worry incessantly, or ruminate about it constantly might lead to paranoia.

My BF is diagnosed with OCD since youth. Excessive worrying is a part of it but it has to be impacting ones life and daily functioning to be formally diagnosed. I worry a lot but I function just fine. It doesn't impact my life significantly enough.

His functioning is majorly impacted, he does CBT on and off which helps and he is medicated now. He otherwise cannot maintain his job and daily routine.

I doubt just worrying leads to OCD let alone paranoia?


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Just worrying probably wouldn't, but excessive, constant worrying might. Excessive worrying makes my mind come up with some crazy, irrational thoughts. I do not have paranoia, but I can see where that could easily be the next step.

As a mild example, the other day I thought I ticked off my T. I made some comment via email that I thought may have wound up coming out wrong. So for hours, I sat around worrying about what I had wrote and how my T is going to respond negatively to it. I finally came to the conclusion that my T is going to hate me when she reads the email, and she will probably wind up dropping me like a hot potato (so, maybe I do have paranoia!).

Turns out, my T didn't take my comment wrong at all. Even if she had, I know she would never hate me or drop me as a client because of it. When I worry excessively, my mind becomes my worst enemy and becomes quite a trickster. For me, I see excessive worrying leading the way to paranoia on some level as a good possibility.

I actually just read a book called The Other Side of Normal, in which there is an entire chapter dedicated to anxiety. There have been studies that show that after a mother gives birth, the part of the brain that inhibits excessive worrying is lessened. From an evolutionary standpoint, it was so that the mother could be more attuned to her babies cries and be there to meet its needs. However, mothers who are predisposed to anxiety and depression often find that the worrying becomes excessive and symptoms can very much mimic OCD symptoms. I think you should take a look at how much this is interfering with you quality of life. If u are concerned, I would speak to your doctor about it because none of us here can diagnose you. The book is by Jordan Smoller. Very interesting book

When you were diagnosed with scizohrenia did doctor discuss the symptoms with you? Could some symptoms be obsessive thinking that might feel like OCD?

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A lot of your worries seem to be more paranoia based, more so than OCD.

It's also pretty natural for a parent to wonder if they are a good parent or not.

The mental health workers aren't the same people as who would be able to decide if you were a fit parent or not. There would be different workers who work for CPS who make that decision, although the mental health workers may make the request for an investigation if they think that you are a danger or an unfit parent. But they didn't make the decision to take your kids away.

CPS wouldn't take your children away without having cause. Sometimes the reason for the removal is something that is temporary, other times it is more permament. It doesn't mean that CPS thinks the parent doesn't love their child, just that they aren't capable of taking care of the child at that time.

When it comes to custody between parents, the court decides. It's a judge's decision who to give custody to, and how much. They are given testimonials and what not from professionals if there are any involved (such as your mental health workers), from people involved, and the parents. Especially if there is a dispute. But it is the judge who decides who gets custody, NOT your mental health workers.

No, the mental health workers said that I shouldn't be permitted to see my son. They said because I didn't feel like playing their game of lets pretend everyone is a patient. I am sick of it. They said that since I was poor, I should l lose custody of my son. They didn't permit me to get therapy, they just watched my son and said they needed to watch him to make sure he was safe.

You know that you lost custody not due to poverty. Are you taking your Meds?


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My meds have nothing to do with this. I am sick of people saying that I need meds.

If the mental health workers felt your son was unsafe due to your delusions, then they would inform CPS to investigate.

I really think you need to talk to your doctor about your delusions. If you could get in the right combination and are managing the Schizophrenia symptoms, then you have a chance to get your son back. But the more you allow these delusions to control you, the longer it will take.

I have a friend who has paranoid Schizophrenia. He's one of the most awesome guys I've ever met. Once he got on the right meds, his life immensely improved. He's now married and has a son. He's very happy now. You can be too, but you need to stop giving in to your delusions. You know they don't make sense.

They may have said that they didn't think you shouldn't be with your son - but they did not make the decision to remove your son. They could notify the correct authorities with their evidence which would start an investigation.

Many, many people who are poor have children. That is not what gets children removed from their parents.

What are your mental health workers for if it isn't counselling/therapy? There are pdocs who do the meds and diagnosing... and the rest are for various kinds of counselling reasons.

People keep mentioning your meds to you, because we can see the level of delusion/hallucinations you're going through... all the paranoid thoughts. It makes us sad because we can't do anything to help you, except to remind you to take your medication and to point out the disconnections we noticed.