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Old Aug 22, 2016, 11:59 AM
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Hi just looking for some help to help me with my wifes ocd and depression. She is currently taking anti depressants (for around 2 years) and the doctor has asked her before to see a mental health advisor.

I have been pretty oblivious to it to be honest. Not really knowing what ocd was I just assumed it was something that made you clean or do certain tasks alot. It first started when we moved into our first house with our 2 year old from a flat. At the flat there didnt seem to be any problems maybe something slight but she was happy. When we moved to our first house she felt the need that it always needed it to be presentable but hardly having many visitors i just thought she was silly (in hind site hey).

Then a few years on we tried for another baby and was successful until we she had a miscarrage. It hit us both hard and she went into depression and i wasnt sure really what to do. Argued alot and nearly seperated.

18 months on we was married both of us happy as a pig in ****. Then finally baby number 2. Great all happy again but our 2 bedroom house was no longer big enough. We then moved to a 3 bedroom house and thats when the ocd really kicked in but me still completely oblivious to it like an idiot. Big 3 bedroom house and 2 kids equals alot of mess and housework.

She wont let me help with housework and if i do something its not right and she'll do it herself. At this moment in time she seems really depressed and exhausted. She works full time 40 hours as do i then she goes to the gym. She comes home and everything as to be done, sometimes even putting our kids 2nd to some of the jobs she does like hoovering and mopping and washing up a single cup. From getting home at around 7.30 she wont come to bed until after 1am because shes still doing jobs.

She will say to me sometimes shes really unhappy and cant cope with it all but wont stop or let me help and says she just wants to run anyway from everything and everyone. Im not giving up on her as she is the love of my life and i wont leave her to cope on her own. To be fair as ive been oblivious to it all shes really been coping on her and bottling it all up and not talking to me. I know see this, hopefully better late than never and really need some help as to how to deal with situations and what i can do to help make her happy again.
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Old Aug 22, 2016, 12:34 PM
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Hello jakecdti: Personally the Skeezyks is not aware of anything, in particular, you can do here beyond the things a husband would normally try to do for his wife. In terms of her OCD & depression, she really needs professional help. Perhaps other members, here on PC, will have suggestions for you.

I see this is your first post here on PC. So... welcome to PsychCentral… from the Skeezyks! I hope you find the time you spend here to be of benefit.

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Old Aug 24, 2016, 01:06 PM
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Hello, jakecdti.

My wifes OCD

Sincerely,

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Old Sep 02, 2016, 10:20 PM
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Aaaahhh I take twice as long to wash a single dish if done by hand. Thank god I have a boyfriend who enjoys cleaning and we own a dishwasher. I didn't own one in my previous apartment and took SO LONG to wash dishes. I understand her compulsions and I think it's great you've come to realize them as well and support her. Keep being there for her and I'm sure things will become manageable.
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Old Sep 13, 2016, 12:42 AM
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Keep being supportive and continue to love her, maybe you can start making phone calls tor a psychiatrist or a therapist for her. And do your best to convince her to go. It's a beautiful thing - you refusing to leave her alone while she is going through this. I pray for the best for you!
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Old Sep 18, 2016, 04:00 AM
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It could be that she needs her medication dosage raised. Those with OCD usually require the maximum dosage to be effective. The only thing you can do is be there for her with open arms
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Old Dec 29, 2016, 02:57 AM
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Hello , My advice to you is to continue being supportive and have a chat with her on your feelings and let her know you're here for her and are willing to do anything to help her cope with this; Keep in mind it will not be easy , some days she's gonna want to give up and give in to her disease as will you but as long as you talk her through it and continue to be that supportive backbone it will get easier , I do recommend her seeking counseling as well medication can only help so much .
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