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Jun 16, 2009, 07:57 PM
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Husband is judgmental about depression........"Just get over it". I just want to disappear..................Don't want to do this anymore....So tired of trying to explain it...I suck......
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Jun 16, 2009, 08:11 PM
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************SUSAN**************
 Hope tomorrow is a better day 
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Jun 16, 2009, 09:19 PM
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It's generally pretty hard for people who've never experienced a mental health concern themselves to relate to someone who has or is going through it currently - my favourite book pretty much sums this up in a sentence:
"Every window on alcatraz has a view of San Fransico" The only thing you can really do is try your best, and deal with things at your own pace - I think it's unfair of someone to expect YOU to explain yourself when you're a dark place, particularly when they're supposed to support you no matter what - I've been in this situation with my dad for the last year or so - he just doesn't understand that you can't just "get over it" - I tried using his hip operation as an example - that needed time to heal, and so does the mind (only it's a little more complex) - he still didn't get it I really hope you have a better day tomorrow susan M_V x
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Jun 17, 2009, 12:52 AM
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*sigh* (((((susan))))) I'm so sorry he doesn't get it, if it was that easy don't they think we would just get over it. What part of depression is fun?
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Jun 17, 2009, 01:05 AM
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 Courage, friend. We have a great and glorious purpose in this world in our suffering and our afflictions, particularly those of us with no control over them: we exist to teach others compassion and give them a place to practice it. Sometimes knowing our place(s) in the universe like that can increase our own sense of compassion, and when we look at others with the compassion they have lacked toward us, somehow it ends up covering for us both. But if that bes too abstracted for where you find yourself right now then just rest on our understanding and compassion. Know that you have people here who get it, who understand, who don't judge, and as much as you can, lean on us for that.
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Jun 17, 2009, 10:13 AM
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 (((((((((((((((( Susan ))))))))))))))))
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Jun 17, 2009, 10:14 AM
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We understand, Susan.
If it was as easy as "just getting over it", wouldn't we have done it already?
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Jun 17, 2009, 10:24 AM
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(((((susan888)))))
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Jun 17, 2009, 10:42 AM
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((((((((((((((((((Susan888))))))))))))))))))))
We understand here, I'm sorry he said that to you, it's hurtful when someone doesn't understand, espically one so close to us, but a personal experience I have had before is that people say that when they care and they don't know how to help other wise and care, We are all here for you hun, and we understand, your voice is heard, we are sitting with you in the darkness helping bring you back to the light one step at a time sending gentle hugs and lots of love Sparrow |
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Jun 17, 2009, 07:57 PM
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hugs Susan
I've had this been told to me before with various things. Try and not let it get to you, for it is based upon ignorance. |
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Jun 25, 2009, 10:40 PM
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Jun 25, 2009, 11:16 PM
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((((Susan888)))) you don't suck. I know that people do not understand depression, I for one suffer from this illness and I can not explain it. I can explain how I feel but I can't explain why. Maybe you could have a therapist or doctor explain depression to your husband or print out a few articles from the internet to show him that depression is not a one person (you) illness. Also this is a good website to visit http://www.depressioncenter.org/ it is a depression center at the Univerity of Michigan. Good luck, hope everthing works out.
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Jun 26, 2009, 04:13 AM
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I'm sorry Susan. My husband used to be the same and it was very hard for him to come around.
I hope you find the support you need - it is very hard to struggle with this alone. Sending you strengthening thoughts. (((Susan)))
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