I want to say a big "F" fathers day. Use that as you wish, frig, fail, flunk, or other creative words.

Keep your chin up guys

[Rhapsody]

((((((( HUGS ))))))) ~ ~ ~ ~ ((((((( HUGS )))))))

to the people that have been hurt by heartless fathers

((((((( HUGS ))))))) ~ ~ ~ ~ ((((((( HUGS )))))))

[Yoda]

I have difficulty finding a fathers' day card for my biological father because they usually refer to the father as a great influence or other characteristics that my father doesn't have. My biological father has let me down in so many ways.

[Elysium]

Oooh, OUCH!!!

Oh my goodness.....I am so used to not recognizing Father's Day because I don't have a good relationship with mine due to the fact that he was a not so nice parent.

I didn't even realize it was Father's day!! I've been emailing back and forth with my Father throughout the morning and we have been having stressful conversations. I feel really bad now because I didn't even say Happy Father's Day to him.

I don't know though....he wasn't much of a Father and he was quite abusive so even if I said it I'm not sure I would mean it. There's an little internal voice that says "He did the best he could", but there are many other voices that are smashing that little voice with an ugly stick right now.

I feel guilty for not saying Happy Father's Day. I feel like such a bad person, but I really don't want to say it.

I'm sorry!!

[bebop]

Fathers day is actually Sunday hon.

I am so sorry some didn't have a good father.

[Elysium]

Wheewww!! I just realized that Sperm Donor Day was Sunday!!

I feel relieved. Maybe I will be able to send him a little nice email then. But wouldn't that be more mean of me to say something that I don't want to, just to make someone happy?

I don't think he'd care anyway....he'd probably just think that he was finally getting the thanks and appreciation he deserved for being such a loving and understanding father.

[biiv]

feck feck feck. grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr. somehow that keeps scooting right out of my head. im so going to forget and thats just more hassle than its worth. grrrrrrrrrrrrrr. must remember to send a text message. that will be enough to get by with without having to actually talk to him. i just have to remember!!

durr. i knew its the day before or the day after my birthday.

Ugh now i have to go through a crappy day sunday too. Good thing i have a bday inbetween

[biiv]

oh then happy b'day rainbowzz!!!

[Rmdctc]

I dont have the best father either and fathers day is sometimes hard for me if we are not getting along then. I really try to be nice to him even if he is not nice to me. This fathers day we are getting along so i sent him a card and I will call him. But believe me when I say I know how it feels to not want to even think you have a father like that.

[Pup]

Yeah, I'm having difficulty with tomorrow.
I do have a father, but not biologically related to me. He's amazing and I'll be sure to make it special for him (I hope I can do that, he has difficulties with that day too, but for different reasons...)

I'm real unsure and a bit scared of what will happen. Hm. The "biological father", ie; sperm donor, has caused a lot of bad things in my life, and he is really no father to me, this family have been quite cruel to me and quite horrible, tomorrow I am scared they will make me sign a card to send to him, on the other hand, if I don't, I'm scared he'll start something over it and people will be mad/upset at me...

He don't live with me thankfully, so that's a plus.

My best wishes and hope all is well for those who struggle with that day.

he is old, he has cancer, he is frail and not the same scary person
we hold in our memories....as long as we don't carry on a lengthy conversation but then again he is not well enough to do so......
still can't send a card with all the "flowery" niceties but i will call
and wish him a good day at least.
we have come to the point where we recognize he is still a human being
and try to keep neutral.

but there is my H who is a wonderful father to our sons. For HIM I will celebrate with gratitude that our sons were raised with a father who likes to "double date" with them and their wives.

[Fuzzybear]

[susan888]

((((Hugs to all of you))))))

I hear your anger...

I wish my Dad had stayed in this life instead of choosing not too.

Maybe he would have been a disappointment too...I don't know.

The sperm donor day just made my heart hurt.....

[Pup]

Originally Posted by susan888

((((Hugs to all of you))))))

I hear your anger...

I wish my Dad had stayed in this life instead of choosing not too.

Maybe he would have been a disappointment too...I don't know.

The sperm donor day just made my heart hurt.....

You are not someone who would disappoint...
you're amazing...




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[jbug]

I am sorry that this "holiday" is painful for some of you.

I am lucky that even though me and my dad butt heads sometimes we have a decent relationship. I got him a clip for his cellphone and gave it to him last weekend thinking that Father's day was last weekend. He told me today how much he likes it and showed me that he has been using it. He actually went on and on about how great it is. So that made me feel good that I did a good thing.

((((for those hurting this weekend)))))

Jan

[silentandscared]

hugs is all l can offer to you all out there................take care and do something nice for you...............forget the day!!!!

[Fuzzybear]

Originally Posted by silentandscared

hugs is all l can offer to you all out there................take care and do something nice for you...............forget the day!!!!

[nightbird]

I also had an abusive childhood, and even as an adult raising my child alone, he was barely supportive.

Yet, I've been through so much in this life this past year alone... I realized something for myself.

If I give the love and support I need from my Dad to him... maybe he will heal a bit as well. He has to know what he has done, in regards to hurting little children with his anger and uncontrolled tantrums in the past.

I will give him the love I do have, and I hope that he feels accepted, because I do know he was worried sick about my cancer diagnosis, as any father would be, good or lousy... I know he loves me the best he can.

So, I send a humorous card, something about having to lower my I.Q. to be like my brothers, and we could spend time together ... like go fishing, and I burp, he says 'good one'... tee-hee.... something you had to see, it was funny though.

Then I sent a serious one... where the card says that I am grateful for my life and thank you, Dad.

I feel good that I did this because, heck, I need forgiveness in this world too
... and although I did not do what he did, I also hurt those I loved at times.

Heck, who hasn't.

I do know some fathers weren't dads at all, but rather atrocious humans, who weren't really mate-able to begin with, yet somehow fathered children... and for that, I am always appalled and saddened by.

I have the abandoning type, the always said 'no' man, the negative guy who didn't see his girls as little innocent precious things, but rather nuisances, and expenses, so we all left his household in our teens, after feeling like dirt from both parents, and not understanding men at all, or how women were either.

Over the years, he has tried to either put up with us or really wanted to engage us with our kids and all, but it panned out really for my younger siblings, especially the boys.

I was too burdened with all the memories of the hurting he caused our family, and the corporal punishments, and the betrayals to our mom, who flipped out for good over that until her death...

But, my heart has become warm again, and I do so love life and all living things except spiders and predators. (;

I want to be as healthy as possible, and that means I must lose the fears and the past baggage as well, and for me, this is important

... as my fight with cancer is not understandable about such things.

So, I forgive, release, and am explaining to you all, why I do, because maybe someone else is on the fence, and wants to give the Old Man some gratitude because they found something in their heart worth saving, and tossed out the bad in order to live also.

I'm not saying this is possible for everyone... or that this is what others need to do.

I'm saying I do have this road, and on my path, is forgiveness to all in this life, so that I can be whole again after going thru so much... I do not care to revisit such difficulties, so I embrace changing what I have put off or denied, or didn't know existed in me before.

Peace and Love,
Night
xoxo

I am very triggered

not bi anyone her just my him and today

[Fuzzybear]

(((((((((((((((((( nightbird )))))))))))))))))))

[Fuzzybear]

((((((((((((((((( Rainbowzz )))))))))))))))))

ick
grr
feeling split for the first time in a bit.
doesnt usually happen cause usually we are all out at the same time sort of collaberating. sort of. I dont know how else to explain it.

anyways its just hide under a blanket day.

[Fuzzybear]

(((((((((((((( Rainbowzz ))))))))))))))))

[googley]

((((((rainbowzz))))))