[Raynaadi]

why does it seem like there is always someone fighting in every thread? i hate it when it gets like this....arrrrg. makes me sad and makes me not want to read anything anymore, even funny stuff. with all of us being sensitive about SOMETHING, why can't we keep it to ourselves when something hits a nerve? no one here posts to be spiteful. someone could say "i broke a nail and it hurt" and it would affect someone. we all have our sensitivities. try to come into the forums with an open mind and know that sometime, something said will hurt unintentionally. there's not much point to turning it into an argument and subjecting everyone else to it. i think these kinds of problems should be kept to private messages. that's partly what they're there for. this constant "bad air" is why so many people have to take so many "breaks". not all of want to hear the arguing. that's what reality tv is for. keep it to PM?

just getting this off my chest. it's getting aggravating around here again.

rayna

[Dolfin]

I agree...makes me want to not read anything posted as wall, Rayna.

I guess some people don't care about the feelings of others when they make a post, whether it will make someone upset or otherwise.

But, if it makes ya feel better, I'll post all the funny e-mails i get, so you can still get some enjoyment outta at least a few threads! LOL

Hugz and Much Love,
Jenn

I don't understand it either. I totally can't handle disagreements or conflict. They freak me out completely. I went off the ole deep end today.

This is true - I am very interested in politics, but I can NOT watch those political discussions where people argue back and forth! It's too upsetting for me!

I need peace. I truely do. Must be something about the way I grew up. I dunno.

emmy

[Raynaadi]

haha thanks dolfin.

i don't think it's so much that people don't care about others' feelings when they make a post. i think it's just that something in a post has the potential to upset at least one person out of the whole group, though inintentionally. i know i've been put off by things in posts, but i let it go, knowing that the poster didn't mean it to be spiteful, instead of lashing out. haha, should get off my soapbox. just really don't want another break.

thanks for the funnies dolfin, i always looking forward to seeing what you post in distractions. =)

[Raynaadi]

em i'm the exact same way. can't stand it. especially when the argument can take place in private. i always try to keep arguments with people in private, even IRL. arguments make my stomach turn and my heart pound. and harsh words make no sense to me. ho hum...sometimes i think it's too much to want peace, even here.

[jmo531]

Bravo Rayna!!!!

I wanted to say something but I was afraid I might "offend". I too come here for support and the last thing I need is arguing back and forth. I know there is conflict to be expected from time to time but I feel like there has been alot more lately. I have enough conflict in my own life I dont need it here too.

Your are right on rayna.

[Raynaadi]

jmo, sometimes i just can't keep it inside anymore. i was afraid of offending too, but seems anything anyone says anymore offends someone. glad to know i wasn't imagining it, and that my concerns aren't unfounded. hope it helps others to know their not alone either.

To me, the interesting thing it is, ...for people who CAN handle arguements...it's fighting is no big deal. It's just what they do to problem solve. So for them it might be healthy to argue back and forth for ages.

But to the ill equiped, ...or injured, or argue-impaired, or whatever "we" are...it's simply overwhelming. That's why I'm glad those ucky posts go "poof".

Maybe when I'm stronger, I could handle it, but not now. That's why I love PsychCentral. It feels safer for me now. ((((docjohn))))

em

[SeptemberMorn]

I like a good argument... IF it has merit! But arguing for ages isn't healthy no matter how I look at it.

I'd better shut up now...

[GreyGoose]

Hmm...I thought I noticed this forum slowing down a bit over the last few days and wondered why (not as many post or replies lately). Not sure what happened or who it involved but it looks like this is one of those "breaks".

[SpazKatt]

Right on sister!

[downsolong]

Hi,

Seems to be my job in life to take opposing views, lol. I really get very tired of it. It's soooo much work to craft a reasonable and convincing arguement in response to a habitually thrown out statement that might not be true at all while being rather harmful in addition. Can't we all just get along? I don't think so without sufficient training in conflict resolution. ~ Down

[oksomaybeimnuts]