[goodgirl62]

I guess I really messed up. I have agreed to let my 17 yr old daughter go and visit my family in Fla. I should have never agreed to this. I am so afraid my Toxic mother will turn my own daughter away from me. I know some of you have seen my threads and I am in a great deal of pain with my 20 yr old son and my issues with my mother. I could just never do anything right and even my father hates me too. I don't know what I will do if I loose my daughter, she is my bright light. My mother is trying so hard to destroy me and I don't know why? I wanted to get my daughter away from the drama from the 20 yr old son. She seriously needs a break. My daughter is supossed to stay with my sister and brother in law and my 19 yr old son. Now after talking to my brother in law, I can't trust him. He is angry that I have written truthful but difficult emails to my mother in past weeks. He can not understand why I hate my mother so much. Now why would a person at my age be posting this on a forum if I didn't feel great pain in the first place? My daughter will be negativly affected either way. I am not sure what to do here. If I loose my daughter to my vicious mother, I am not sure what I will do.

[skyliner]

Oh this is so painful and I'm deeply sorry for your pain. Hugs from one mom to another.

[jennaorgana]

i can't even imagine what you are going through, but i just want you to know that your daughter loves you and she obviously knows how much she means to you. being a 21-year-old girl with a mother who loves me and a grandmother who hates her, i can slightly commiserate.

maybe if you brief her on the situation, or go to high tea or dinner with her the night before she leaves. make sure you call her everyday and send her little reminders of how much you love her and tell her how much you KNOW she deserves a break.

i just feel your pain as well. i am so sorry.