[vacantangel]

After 2 months from when she had her stroke, my mom came back to her own home yesterday and will hopefully be able to live there on here own with lots of help provided for her by my sister and I and government agencies. So glad to have my mom back. It's been a looooooooooong and extremely stressful time. Praying that this works out for her. She's so excited to be back home. We didn't think that was ever going to be a possibility but we're taking it one day at a time. I finally have my mommy back!!!

Just one of a few positive things that have happened in my life in the last few days. The others were personal achievements that I was able to conquer on my own.

[jmo531]

((((((((((((((((((AG))))))))))))))))))

This is wonderful news. I am so happy for you.

[sherry13]

(((((((((((((angel)))))))))))))
thinking of you ......
what wondeful news for you and ur family...
keeping you all in my prayers.....

[wi_fighter]

((((((((((((((angelgirl))))))))))))))))

we'll understand if you need to take a lot of time helping your mother. good luck.

[wi_fighter]

Yes, AG, take all the time you need to care for your mom. We'll understand if you need to take a lengthy sabbatical from posting. We'll be here for caregiver support if and when you need it.

is your mother ambulatory? will you be staying in her home to assist her? i know that we took turns staying with my mother when she had her stroke. since she stayed in the hospital/rehab two full months, she must have some paralysis. is she in a wheelchair? my mother was and couldn't speak.....

i saw you mentioned work in a post. where do you work, AG? and what do you do? as you know, i work in a dialysis clinic.....

That's great angel. Glad to hear it.

Ry

[nothemama8]

Now that your Mom is back home we will be here when you get the chance to come back, are your siblings going to help or are you going to be the main caregiver, seeings as she means soooo much to you, I'm sure you'll want to so she gets the best care
Angie

[jetblackaura]

That's great AngelGirl, i'm glad to hear it. I know how you feel, my grandad had a stroke in January and he's starting to get home visits and then he should get home soon. They've put handrails and things in my Nanny's house, so hopefully that will be helpful for him.

I hope your Mum is happy that she's home

[vacantangel]

Thanks for your support everybody. We're just taking this one day at a time to see if this will be successful. My brother is down and is staying with her for several days while she re-adjusts and is making minor amendments to her home to make life easier and safer for her. I didn't think this would ever happen, we were never given any hope of it, in fact, just the opposite. She's doing great but does have some damage from the stroke, some of which may be temporary, some permanent. It's good to finally have her back here.

Thanks again for all the support.

does she have to have help with bathing, eating and such? my mom did and it's hard for just one person to do that much caregiving. i'm sure you'll be relieving your brother often..

[nothemama8]

Yeah I'm sure she'll need your help with bathing, not a guy thing ya know
Angie

[vacantangel]

My mother has not been in the hospital for 2 months. She has been at my brother's home while she recovered enough to be able to go back to her own home to live by herself. She is a very independent woman and that's the way she likes to live her life. She was in the hospital just over 1 week. She is not in a wheelchair, has absolutely no paralysis, speaks fine now, although loses some words here and there at times, but for the most part can carry on a very normal conversation. She gets along fine walking, getting meals, getting dressed, etc. My brother is only here for a few days while she adjusts to living back in her own home. Prior to this, when she was released from the hospital she went to stay with him and his family. She has government assistance for her laundry and house-cleaning needs, as well as to help her with her showering. She prefers the nurse as opposed to a family member. There is little dignity left as you get older. I won't need to be taking a *sabbitical* or going to live with her, she doesn't want nor need that and that would be impossible for me anyway. She wants as much independence as she can possibly have. She has extremely little brain damage from the stroke and we did exercises with her, starting while she was in the hospital to recover some of which was lost. It did affect her eyesight, but we're told by her eye specialist that will improve within 6 to 12 months.

I didn't mention anything about myself working. I reread my post and I don't know to what you're referring. I am on medical disability as I'm unable to work. Some of my time is spent in day treatment group therapy and going to several t and doctor appointments every week. I'm working very hard on my own recovery and my sister picks up the bulk of my mother's care. I help when I can and talk with my mom every day and see her quite often. She is very well cared for and she means the world to me, as well as my siblings. Everything has been very well thought out, planned carefully and attended to so that my mom gets all her needs met in every way with the independence that she wants. Sorry about the confusion about not mentioning before that she has been living with my brother for almost 2 months. Oversight on my part in not mentioning that. I think I answered all the questions presented to me.

[eskielover]

((((((((AngleGirl)))))))),

I am glad your mother was able to come home with so little lacking in her ability to get around her home. This is a hard position to be in, but much easier when they really can take care of themselves.

If you ever do have to provide your mother with OUTSIDE help, please make sure that the help comes from a licensed & bonded service. I never realized how important that was until things turned out so bad last December with my Mother when she came home from the hospital. I have posted about the trauma I went through & am trying to deal with.

I am so glad you have your Mom back. It is wonderful that you can be with her & make sure she is ok. It is also great to have family to share the responsibility with. I do miss my Mother. So many times things happen, & I think about calling only to remember that I can't.

Take care of yourself too...(I didn't & ended up in the medical hospital for about 2 months),
Debbie