Sweeping statements.

All or everyone ..... lol so wrong ! Its a big world out there you know.

Translate this tishie language please?

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Its when people say everyone does this or all people do that its so funny as its so far from the truth.....

Each person is an individual and behaves as such.

Very true, I see what you mean now

I am aware that most everyone does sweep now and again, but I try to avoid anything that even resembles housework.

I am not a tin of baked beans so please don't put a label on me!

I make my life hard for myself by thinking with statement like 'everyone thinks....'

It does sound like you are telling people off here, what was your post in regard to?

well we as a society suck at accepting individuals. I learned it in my life

I just wanted to point out we over generalise, a bit like the phrase 'I have told you a MILLION times not to exagerate ! '

Hi Tishie

I guess I'm guilty of generalizing sometimes, especially when I'm overwhelmed with disappointment in mankind. It's particularly frustrating when I'm told it's an individual/isolated problem and not to worry - but I see it everywhere I go, and I have to live with the consequences. It frustrated me as a kid, and it continues to frustrate me today.

That being said, it's not your problem - it's mine. I hope none of my sweeping statements have upset you.

Kathy ...... Its not about any one individual !

I know how easy it is to get into that trap of over generalizing.....especially in a fight with my husand.....looking back when I was with him......I would find myself so frustrated by the things I continually found him doing that I would say "you do this all the time".....when it really wasn't ALL the time....but by the end....it really FELT like it was.

When the world around us feels that everyone is doing something.....we tend to not think about the rest of the world that isn't touching us when we are so focused on the hurt we are feeling.

It is important not to overgeneralize like that as it does give others something to dispute because it never really is ALL or NEVER or EVERYONE or NO ONE.....& people start to NOT listen when over generalizations are used as it tends to give less credibility to what we are saying.

Good point Tishie

Due to my borderline disorder, I do this CONSTANTLY with regard to relationships. If i even SUSPECT im about to get abandoned(and trust me, sometimes im TOTALLY irrational) I throw out wild generalizations and exaggerations. Im way way better at handling it now, but still struggle sometimes.

For example, if he is 30 min late calling me, Im automatically thinking "Thats it! Hes breaking up with me.. EVERYONE ALWAYS breaks up with ME." or "Of course, he must hate me" or" SEE? Proof that guys are mean!!"

*note- i dont think all guys are mean at all. I have more male friends than women friends. But when im in that mood, i generalize everything.

Im working on it still, and now i know enough to be able to say "no, thats NOT true. Be patient, dont assume, dont generalize."

I don't think that we do over generalize here though, there must have been something that brought this up for you?

Are you trying to cause a problem where there is none ?

Sometimes it good to look at these things in general.....how we see them in our lives & what our experiences are with them....it doesn't always have to have anything to do with HERE.....sometimes we just like to hear others thoughts & experiences with things like this & HERE is a good safe place to share.......

My two most hated words in the English language : always and never.

Woah! You know, I was trying to be helpful in asking you why you had made a statement about sweeping statements! I happen to agree with you on many levels but wondered if there was anything specific. I did not expect to be accused of trying to cause a problem! You obviously don't know me very well to have said that. I wasn't attacking you, just asking a question which you chose not to answer. I am sorry if you were somehow offended by my question but I do not feel I deserved your above response.

Thank you for your kind answer.

My husband is overly sensitive...with me anyway...so I tend to avoid all sweeping statements because anything I ask him to correct or change he views as a persoanl attack. I have to be very specific with what is bothering me..without exagerrating...and I have to say it VERY softly, almost apologetic and I still get yelled at. He actually did burn our house down but I still got yelled at for informing him that he wouldn't even apologize if he burned down the house..which he didn't and I always felt that I wasn't allowed to get mad at him for it. If I were to use sweepign statements I would be in even worse trouble. They are definitely annoying sometimes, especailly when over exagerrated and over used but I can see how sometimes it's just easier than always having to be super specific...at least in my house. Sorry if I was off topic but I've never been in a forum or anything like it before. I just thought I'd share my experiences.

Catherina,

When it feels like the person is doing something at least the majority of the time....rather than to keep specific track of each & every time it is done or said, it gets tiring & impossible. You must be a saint to be able to tolerate a relationship like that.

Eskielover,
My mom doesn't know everything that goes on with my husband and I because I don't want her to hate him, but just from what she can see she says that I am the "most patient person in the world". I guess everyone has a talent and that is mine...not very interesting but helpful sometimes.