[bruiser]

Hi. I just found this site and registered. I am at a difficult time in my life and don't know where to turn. I don't want to bore anyone with the details, but after doing some research I think I have Schizoid Personality Disorder and my marriage is getting ready to break up. Any ideas? Any suggestions? Thanks

[(JD)]

Welcome to psychcentral bru. I'm thinking you are self diagnosing yourself... please do go to a doctor (MD) to make sure it isn't something physical causing your feelings... and then find a psychologist to see if what you think is correct!

You can post in the Psychosis Forum where more members who experience the same read and post.

Is your spouse understanding of your psychological struggles? Couples counseling can at least help even if the break up is inevitable.

TC and come back and tell us more.

[bruiser]

Thanks. I've been treated for depression for 15 years; I've tried counseling numerous times in the past and it has not helped. I've been married almost 20 years. My husband keeps telling me how cold I am. His main problem is that I don't show my love/affection in and out of the bedroom. I don't enjoy doing much of anything-I work two jobs. I feel overwhelmed a lot of the time. I'm tired of dealing with my family physician and counselors that don't help. I live in a rural area and my insurance acceptance is limited. I don't know what to do next

[(JD)]

Well, it does sound like you are depressed, but did one of your doctors (counselors) diagnose you with anything more than that? It can feel overwhelming when we don't receive the help we expect from the professionals. Have you two ever tried couples counseling? I mean, often it isn't just one person, ya know?

[SeptemberMorn]

Welcome, Bruiser. Make yourself at home.

Have you tried seeing a psychiatrist? You DO have to keep looking for the proper help sometimes. Self-diagnosing isn't a good idea.

Good luck. We're here to listen and support.

[bruiser]

Thanks. We've tried couple counseling twice, with no success. My husband is adamant that everything is my fault. I'm not sure how to find a psychiatrist. I called my health insurance company and all they sent me were the names of counselors. I've had sessions with two different counselors, at three different times, and they all tell me to leave my husband. He is not physically abusive.

[(JD)]

How long did you both go to couples? I can believe the counselors advised you to leave the marriage... maybe if you try a licensed psychologist you can receive real help? (LOL I"m biased that way. )

That he isn't physically abusive is good. I hope neither of you are, nor emotionally abusive. That might mean it's not as big a problem as it appears... TC

[bruiser]

Thanks. We went long enough for him to think the counselor was all on my side. I am trying to find a licensed doctor that accepts my insurance--no luck so far. My family doctor has tried numerous anti-depressants, but I seem to tolerate the side-effects of Prozac better than any others. My biological mother was manic depressive with major mood swings; have had two sisters diagnosed with the same and one sister with epilepsy. I really don't have any close friends-husband doesn't like me discussing our personal life with others.

[Nerak]

Welcome bruiser. You have found a great group of very supportive folks. Post as often as you like.

[heatherm]

Hi Bruiser and welcome!

Your name makes me smile . I teach on a reserve and there is a Great Dane that visits me each day...his name is Bruiser and I call him my gentle giant. He comes up to my elbow

I am sorry for the troubles you are going through right now. There are so many supportive members here and we all have big shoulders. I am now a single mom with 2 boys after a long term relationship breakup(common law - 5 1/2 years) so I understand how you are feeling. We are all here for you.

[bruiser]

Thanks. I wish I could find a reason to smile. Seems like nothing makes me smile/happy anymore.