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Old May 15, 2010, 04:21 PM
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Anybody on PC have a lot of money and can do whatever they want but still hate their life? Just curious.

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Old May 15, 2010, 05:06 PM
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Nope.

But I have made enough to know that $$ definitely doesn't buy love or happiness. The friends it brings you are shallow, and the more $$ you make, the more people there are out there that want it.

If you are in this situation, I would suggest using the money to make improvements to your life and situation...use it for things that YOU like and benefit from, like paying down some bills and starting an emergency savings account....spoil yourself with some of it. Treat yourself to a new car, or new furniture, and then maybe use some of it to make a difference...like give some to one of your favorite charities...or use it to start a charity. But always pay yourself first...because everyone will always have their hands out until it is gone. And once it's gone...they will be too.
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Old May 15, 2010, 05:08 PM
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Old May 15, 2010, 10:44 PM
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But money does make life alot easierr!!! I worked all my life-from being impoverished as a child, to building what was to give me "just enough" to live out the rest of my life without fear of going hungry again.

Then, I gave it all away--rather threw it all away, because I trusted my own son.

I will build myself back to "just enough" again.....why you got money to give away?.........Use it to make this world a better place!!!--Be well--theo
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Old May 15, 2010, 10:49 PM
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I used to make as much as I could spend. I owned a three bedroom home (for just me and the cats), had a good job, and was ABSOLUTELY MISERABLE! Now, I work contract (always a guessing game) two days a week. I make enough to live and to have some luxuries, but I ain't going around the world anytime soon.

And I have peace. At least some of the time. When the bi-polar isn't driving me nuts.

It's true. Money isn't everything!
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Old May 16, 2010, 10:08 AM
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If your money is making you miserable, I certainly can help you out there....Send some of it my way. I'd be happy to relieve some of your misery.....

In all seriousness...
Nah. I'm not lavishing in luxury, though I'm not homeless, either. (been there, done that), so I've experienced both sides of the coin, so to speak.

I have to admit..(for me and what I have experienced to date), less is definitely more.
Homelessness humbles a person to the point of appreciating what is truly important in life.
It would be interesting to witness all the greedy, wealthy individuals to spend just 1 month homeless in a city unknown to them, unfamiliar to anyone and without ANY resources other than the clothes on their backs.
I wonder the lessons they'd learn.

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Old May 16, 2010, 10:17 AM
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I have enough money to do whatever I want but I don't hate my life :-) I can say that money isn't what makes a difference though; I did live hand-to-mouth for 15+ years and used public mental health services, etc.

It's the attitude/perspective that makes a difference, not the money or even its convenience. One is who one is whether that's rich or poor. It's not easier to be that person just because one has money, in some ways, in fact, it can be harder because one can't use the work of making a living/eating, as an "excuse".
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Old May 16, 2010, 10:35 AM
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Nope.

But I have made enough to know that $$ definitely doesn't buy love or happiness. The friends it brings you are shallow, and the more $$ you make, the more people there are out there that want it.

If you are in this situation, I would suggest using the money to make improvements to your life and situation...use it for things that YOU like and benefit from, like paying down some bills and starting an emergency savings account....spoil yourself with some of it. Treat yourself to a new car, or new furniture, and then maybe use some of it to make a difference...like give some to one of your favorite charities...or use it to start a charity. But always pay yourself first...because everyone will always have their hands out until it is gone. And once it's gone...they will be too.
I love this response. Nicely said, Ely....

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Old May 16, 2010, 10:43 AM
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I have had money now I have none .... Yes I am depressed however I was depressed when I had it lol.... I am happier now because of who I am living with.... I would NEVER go back to what I had.

So money does not make it easier.
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Old May 16, 2010, 12:26 PM
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I have such an intensely happy marriage that our lack of money sometimes seems very unimportant.
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Old May 16, 2010, 05:54 PM
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Nope. I'm lower-middle-class and money doesn't really have an effect on my life greatly.
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Old May 16, 2010, 07:02 PM
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Anybody on PC have a lot of money and can do whatever they want but still hate their life? Just curious.
Not I, on either count, but I still wanted to comment.

I used to know someone, now deceased, who seemed to have more money than they knew what to do with. They'd order stuff like exercise machines from late-night TV ads, then put it in the garage and never actually use it. They seemed to be trying to distract themselves from some kind of discomfort that I didn't see them addressing in any other way.

I used to live on a shoestring until a few months ago. Recently my income increased to where I'm now living on a shoestring and a half. Whenever I find myself with a little "extra" money, I find I prefer to invest it in something I can either build on, or use to build with. For instance:

-- Tools, not so I can say I have a complete set like a collection but to make it possible (or easier) to do otherwise difficult jobs. My idea of a good tool to have is a wide-bladed prybar that can separate two pieces of painted wood without leaving marks on either of them.

-- Until recently, I didn't have a spare computer that would get me very far if my main one were to go down. I just bought a better spare (used, but only 3 years old) and I'm in the process of setting it up for use. I don't expect to be using both computers at the same time so I'll be content to plug and unplug the monitor as needed.

-- Software. My idea of good software is productivity tools like word processing, database programming, technical drawing, and image editing. I'm happy to stay with thoroughly obsolete software as long as it still works with the hardware I have. Heck, I'll even keep obsolete hardware around just because it's what works with my obsolete software!

-- Books, on subjects that I happen to be interested in at the moment. At times in my life I've thought that my interests have changed so much that since I'm moving anyway, I might as well get rid of most of my accumulated books. Ten years later, though, I'll find I've bought half of them again.

-- Clothes, but just enough to look halfway presentable. When I pull jury duty or something, I don't want to have to wear my usual work outfit nor alternate between my two "good" shirts and wash them every other night.

I spend very little money on my cars except for gas and such. Both the car and the truck are over 30 years old and I've been doing almost all the repairs myself.

I don't have much money to give away, but when I do I tend to do it on a whim and ask questions later. I may send 20 bucks for disaster relief and 20 more to a political candidate in a different state who's running against someone I detest.

I certainly wouldn't say I can do whatever I want, but I do find that I want to do just about everything that I do do.

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Old May 16, 2010, 10:20 PM
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I used to have an extremely high paying job - well over 6 figures and I was a miserable workaholic alcoholic. I'm kicking myself now for the amount of money I wasted on booze - could have easily bought and paid off a house. Lost that job.

I'm now working at a much lower paying job, but it's lower stress, and I'm working on sobriety and my mental health. I have enough to live on, save a little towards retirement each month but pretty much every penny is budgeted now. No more annual trips to Europe, or buying antique jewelery whenver i felt like it. But overal I'd have to say I'm healthier and happier. Worrying about money is a new thing for me, so I struggle with that a little bit, but I'm getting more ok with it - I didn't grow up rich.

And I know once I'm healthier mentally and have more sober time, I'll be able to handle a higher stress higher paying job again.

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Old May 18, 2010, 06:50 AM
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I think you need to do some serious insight into what happiness means to you. It is different for everyone. But there are a hell of a lot of people out there who have all the money in the world yet are still unhappy. And vice versa. There is no fool proof recipe. Some of us believe money will lead to happiness, then spend their entire life chasing money in pursuit of happiness, only to find they still haven't arrived where they expected to - yet have probably arrived there with plenty of enemies, yet just a handful (if any) of friends.
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