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Old Jun 11, 2010, 10:50 AM
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I am still at my parents house because dad was worried about me going home still having the wound vac on and not being able to drive was a factor also. He said he was worried about me getting to lonely. I laughed and said I'm not lonely well I kind of lied I do get lonely and hate living by myself with just Tyger and he is always outside it seems like. I think that was one of the reasons I was smoking was I was bored so I smoked and so I am worried about what happens when I go home and I get lonely or bored again. My T and I talked about it a little yesterday and she is going to bring me some cross stitch patterns for me to look through and start my next project. I want to do a magnolia. She said she had a huge stack of patterns and she would be happy to share them with me. I also have my computer, word find books and books to read. I am trying to read the Twilight series right now. Even though the books captivate me when I start to read them I just can't bring myself to start to read. I also sleep. I can also walk there is a walking trail not to far from my apartment. So we came up with some things but how do I deal with the loneliness?

Jan
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Old Jun 11, 2010, 05:37 PM
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Jan,

I can empathize with your problem of loneliness. I've been trying to figure out for myself how to combat it, especially when you are ill and trying to get well. It often feels like no one understands.

When I think of loneliness, the chorus to The Beatles Eleanor Rigby come to mind.

"All the lonely people.
Where do they all come from?
All the lonely people.
Where do they all belong?"

There are other people out there that feel the same. It's just a matter of time before we find them.

Good luck.

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Old Jun 11, 2010, 08:23 PM
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(((Jbug))) I get lonely but enjoy being alone. Isnt that silly? I also have my animals. Is there anyway you can bring Tyger inside. They are such good companions. Sounds like you have some good ideas for keeping busy. You can always hang out with us here if you feel lonely!!!
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Old Jun 11, 2010, 09:38 PM
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Yeah, there are big differences between being alone and being lonely, as I think everyone knows.

Learning to enjoy who you are, enjoying the moment, the day, that you are in is key to combating loneliness. When we feel incomplete we begin to look for other's company to fulfill ourselves, to entertain us, and to keep us from our own realities perhaps?

Give yourself affirmations of who you really are, the good stuff! Realize how far you've come, even with all the trials of your life. You are still progressing and won't always be where you are right now. Even when we end up in a place (figuratively or physically) that we've been before, it isn't that we haven't progressed because we are wiser and more experienced, we are still progressing.

Yes, distraction is good (all those crafts and games.) Keeping yourself from the downward thinking spiral that creates depression is always a good thing. Thinking good thoughts is a good things too. Countering any negative thoughts (like those of being lonely) will negate the poor thinking and help you feel better about yourself too.

Good to see you on.
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Old Jun 11, 2010, 09:51 PM
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Volunteering is so worthwhile. I walk the halls of hospice to say hello to everyone I meet. I ask about their lives. Takes no special skills other than being able to listen and ask questions.

Sending emails to our troops overseas has been of mutual benefit.

One summer, I spent two hours a day stuffing envelopes for various charities.

When walking I make sure to smile and say hello to those approaching since I have been told I normally have a don't-you-dare-talk-to-me demeanor.

Be well.
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