[kvinneakt]

The secret is over.

We were both in the hot tub and in good moods.

I fumbled and stumbled to where there no more fumbling in my repertoire. And said it.

Shock and Awe!

She said: "I know that! Everybody that knows you knows that! Most of our male friends are just the same."

There really is not much else to say.

I guess my life's problems are all solved now.

Ok. Bye.

Wherever you go, there you are

[LMo]

WHAT??????????????

I knew it! I knew it! But you must be so relieved... KV - I'm so happy for you!

But wait... KV... this doesn't mean you're leaving us, does it??? I hope not!

Your friend who is REALLY HAPPY for you!
LMo

We are ALL going to be a-ok!

[darkeyes]

This may now make things more relaxed for you, don't you think? It may sound odd, but maybe this can bring you closer in a different way, sorry I am not doing good tonite in "expressing" but I am happy for you that it went well.
** hugs **
"darkeyes"

In giving advice seek to help, not please your friend
SOLON

[Rapunzel]

I thought all along that she would be okay with it. She loves you for who you are, right? So glad that it went well.

Good for you - that was brave, but you found the right time and sounds like you did everything just right.

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[SeptemberMorn]

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This is me jumping up and down for joy for you!

Mary Alice, I hope you don't mind that I borrowed your little guy from you. I won't do it again! hehehe

<font color=blue>This above all: To thine own self be true. --Shakespeare</font color=blue>

[mj14]

kv, that is just wonderful news! I am so happy that this burden has been lifted from you.

I do realize that it does not mean the end to all of your problems (does anyone have a problem-free life?), but how much better will it be to explore your feelings knowing that your wife loves and accepts you exactly how you are?

*hugs*
mj

[kvinneakt]

99% of the crap in this issue has been what I brought into it. My parents are very nice, but very prejudiced people. Their world is black or white. They do not get the shades. Growing up in their world left me with some of their ways buried into my own psych. I have struggled and mostly succeeded in getting passed these things in my own life. Where I failed most was getting passed them when relating to myself. I am by far my worst critic.

There will be more rocks to lift and see what squirmy things lurk beneath. That is ok. It might be fun.

For now, I feel an emotional vacation is needed. I hope to have a little down time before the October demons start blowing their fire at me.

All of you who have been cheering me on are so greatly appreciated. I don't know what I would have, could have done without you to talk to and listen to. The "real" world has no support groups even remotely as accessable and helpful as this place with you good people.

I hope you don't mind if I hang around. I am still a life long neurotic who always has something to stress about and this is a great place to let it all out.

Wherever you go, there you are

[mj14]

kv, I would be very sad indeed if you were to leave. You bring kindness, intelligence and insight to this forum...things that we can never have enough of. : )

So leave those rocks where they are for now, and take a little break...but know that this is still your home, and you are more than welcome. Besides, how can we get the Psych Central Folk Music Society going without you! : )

*hugs*
mj

[Peanut61]

CONGRATULATIONS, Kvin - I'm so very glad that things went as you had hoped... But you better stay around here with us still, OK? Your friend, Peanut

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[PlanningtoLive]

KV, I am so proud of you.......and what a relief for you both.

I'm glad you're staying as well, I enjoy talking with you.

Sept? I share, so it's ok

Take care******

Mary Alice

[Fuzzybear]

kv, I am so happy for you!!!

Please do stay around here. I truly love reading your insightful posts, and I would hate it if you left.

Take care,
Fuzzy

[SeptemberMorn]

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I didn't think you'd mind because you are so sweet! That's why I went ahead and borrowed him.

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[kvinneakt]

Sept, your recent message in Black Sheep about your family life was what put me over the top. It was the final kick in the butt. A gentle one, but effective.

Most everyone I have talked to here and elsewhere said more or less the same things you did. No big deal!

I copied your message (in Black Sheep) and sent it to my wife as a good example of what I have been hearing.

Tell your husband thanks for his help, too.

Wherever you go, there you are

[SeptemberMorn]

Oh, my! I never meant for it to be a kick in the butt! I just wanted you to feel better about yourself and see that you aren't all that different.

You've made me feel really special with this post!! {{{{Kvin}}}} It's a great validation for me.

You don't know how happy it makes me feel that you finally discussed it with your wife. I just love her answer to you!! It's so good that this problem is behind you. You've earned a much needed emotional break.

Good going!!

<font color=blue>This above all: To thine own self be true. --Shakespeare</font color=blue>

[PlanningtoLive]

Sept?????? You sure you're talking about me? . Been called many things, but that is definitely NOT one of them. Ty though for the compliment [preening].

xoxoxo

Mary Alice

[SeptemberMorn]

hehehe Yes, I'm talking about you, Mary Alice! You scared me there for a minute, though! I'd forgotten what I'd said!

Yes, I think you are sweet! It's right there ... ---------> *

You are kind ... -------> *

You are generous ... --------> *

You are strong!! ... -----------> **

Preen to your heart's content! You deserve it!!


<font color=blue>This above all: To thine own self be true. --Shakespeare</font color=blue>

[Sam]

That's GREAT news KV, but as I (and several others here) has suspected - she already knew and was waiting for you to include her. Amazing isn't it, when you have the ONE mate that loves YOU, and how by including her with your true feelings - it makes everything so much better.

I know the two of you have been together for a long time, and knowing then, knew it would be extremely hard for her to not know.

Now the pressure's off and it is just a matter of settling in with this new knowledge (for the both of you). So, what's the next step, or is there one?

Your friend Sam

[kvinneakt]

Next step!!!

OH NO! Do you mean I have to think about the future now!

this is just too too much....

I really don't know. There is a real sense of filling a vacuum in my being. It is a good thing. Filling that space really is what drove me through all the processes I have been in the past few months.

That done means relaxing a bit. It is kind of like having been thru a heavy class load in college and just wanting to kick back after finals.

As I mentioned before, I am a career neurotic. There are certain to be other stuff that comes up related and not. One thing that worries me is the October demons and not having the meds shield up.

Day at a time, Sheila.

Have you explored the wonderful world of bath fragrances yet? It sounds silly, but it really is a rush. There is something to the idea of aroma therapy and the fullest effect is in a hot shower.

Wherever you go, there you are

[PlanningtoLive]

You are the best, Sept. Thank you so much.

[heatherm]

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I am sorry I just got back online(virus hit my ISP) and saw your post....all I can saw is I am so proud and happy for you

Onwards and upwards


Heather

"The Pessimist complains about the wind, the Optimist expects it to change and the REALIST adjusts his sails." ~~~author unknown

[LadyDragus]

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I am so so glad it all worked out for you KV, and I do hope you stay around. I would miss your smiling face and hearing your nice responses to me..
I hope your life does get better, we all need better days in our lives, and since you are having such a good one, keep it going forever.

<font color=purple>The way to love anything is to realize that it might be lost.
- G.K. Chesterton
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[kvinneakt]

Thanks Lady,

I am pretty muched addicted to this place for now and will be adding my 2 bits now and then.

Wherever you go, there you are

[LadyDragus]

good good

<font color=purple>The way to love anything is to realize that it might be lost.
- G.K. Chesterton
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