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Old Jun 17, 2010, 11:30 PM
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I just need hugs and someone to tell me its all going to be okay.

I spent from 10am until 4 pm and then again from 6pm until 11:30 on the phone with various creditors working on my last holdout debts. Not bad conversations with anyone. Everyone I spoke with was extremely, extremely helpful and pleasant. But I have to be very, very careful about information I disclosed yet at the same time very honest about what I could do. In the end, I accomplished everything and more than I wanted to and I am relieved.

But I feel like a wet noodle. I am completely drained and exhausted and I dont know how I am going to get to sleep. Its 12:21 am and I feel way to wired to sleep. Maybe I will take a hot shower and give myself a hug. Or maybe I will tell myself how proud I am of myself that I did this.

Can someone hug me and tell me what a good job I did?

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Old Jun 17, 2010, 11:34 PM
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You did an awesome job!!! Congratulations on getting all that done. I know you have been working on that for a long time. You should be proud of yourself.

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Old Jun 17, 2010, 11:34 PM
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blue, you did such a good job.
everything is going to be okay.
I hope you can get some much needed rest tonight.
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Old Jun 17, 2010, 11:44 PM
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Thanks Googely and Zoo. It means a lot to me. It is somewhat a weight off of me, but I do have to get that better paying job, and soon. So now that is weighing on me.
Another huge debt problem will be resolved very soon by my lawyer. THAT is a HUGE relief. OMG!

Now for that hot shower.
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Old Jun 18, 2010, 04:11 AM
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I just need hugs and someone to tell me its all going to be okay.

I spent from 10am until 4 pm and then again from 6pm until 11:30 on the phone with various creditors working on my last holdout debts. Not bad conversations with anyone. Everyone I spoke with was extremely, extremely helpful and pleasant. But I have to be very, very careful about information I disclosed yet at the same time very honest about what I could do. In the end, I accomplished everything and more than I wanted to and I am relieved.

But I feel like a wet noodle. I am completely drained and exhausted and I dont know how I am going to get to sleep. Its 12:21 am and I feel way to wired to sleep. Maybe I will take a hot shower and give myself a hug. Or maybe I will tell myself how proud I am of myself that I did this.

Can someone hug me and tell me what a good job I did?
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Sounds like a pretty good effort to me. Debts are always a big guilt space!
The beauty of commercial debt is that you don't owe real money to the company officers that you speak to. The fact that everything went well is a testament to your method of dealing. Tired?... No wonder...good effort!
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Old Jun 18, 2010, 04:47 AM
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Great job! I wasn't able to work mine out--bankruptcy was what happened for me--so I know you must have put in a lot of stressful work to get it done. Be proud.

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Old Jun 18, 2010, 06:08 AM
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(((( BLUE )))) You are doing it!!! WAY TO GO!!!! You are tackling that mountain and succeeding! Take some deep breaths and pat yourself on the back. (( HUGS ))
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Old Jun 18, 2010, 06:18 AM
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(((((((((((((blue))))))))))))))))))

You. are. amazing.

What a huge job, and you did it, and did it well!

I hope you slept peacefully

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Old Jun 18, 2010, 06:51 AM
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Hey there - well done!
I'm sure it wasn't easy, but it needed to be done and the end result will be positive
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Old Jun 18, 2010, 07:09 AM
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Thanks MUE, Ima, Tree and Sugar. It really does feel like a mountain. I did sleep (melatonin).

Ima- that is what my lawyer is doing for me for a large chunk of the debt. A large chunk cannot be dealt with that way (my husband's). This is hard. I feel like an idiot for having gotten into this position in the first place
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Old Jun 18, 2010, 07:20 AM
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Lots of hugs sweety. Hand everything over to the moon and have a most beautiful sleep often. Moonlight can be so soothing.
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Old Jun 18, 2010, 07:29 AM
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Old Jun 18, 2010, 08:22 AM
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Blue, I think you are doing an amazing job regarding this financial, hard stuff you have to do. I'm so impressed with your determination to get it all settled!
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Old Jun 18, 2010, 09:30 AM
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Great Job!

That is a very hard task to take on. You have to be so proud of yourself.

Enjoy a relaxing weekend!
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Old Jun 18, 2010, 10:16 AM
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(((((BLUE))))) Great Job!!...
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Old Jun 18, 2010, 10:51 AM
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Great job!! ((((((((BLUE)))))))))

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Old Jun 18, 2010, 03:25 PM
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Great job! I hope things ease up for you soon.
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Old Jun 18, 2010, 08:21 PM
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You did a great job handling things!
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Old Jun 18, 2010, 11:46 PM
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omg! Thank you so much for all of the hugs and encouraging words. I dont know if I could do this without so much encouragement here. It really and truly helps so much.

I met today with the head of my children's school where I owe money I never even considered this stuff with the debt I have. Since they arent threatening me, I dismissed it in my mind. That is my old way of dealing with money and debt issues. I went in to talk to the head of the school and the conversation did not go so well, not terrible, but I got an awful attitude from him. And the cold should when I ran into him twice later on in the day. I find that really awful coming from someone who supposedly runs a school. yuck. Well, he referred me to someone else who I really did not want to go talk to about this. But I figure now that it couldnt be any worse than this guy I talked to. Everyone says he is so nice, really good guy, very confidential etc. Im just nervous. I think this is going to be one of those tasks I will have to take in pieces, step by step.

Step #1- I will respond his email about money that I got a few days ago and ask him if we could talk. I so dont want to do this.
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Old Jun 19, 2010, 05:29 AM
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That is my old way of dealing with money and debt issues.
This attitude is awesome! What a way to make a change. You sound very determined and positive Blue. You've recognized what needs to be changed and you are changing it. Feel proud of yourself!

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I went in to talk to the head of the school and the conversation did not go so well, not terrible, but I got an awful attitude from him. And the cold should when I ran into him twice later on in the day. I find that really awful coming from someone who supposedly runs a school. yuck.
I know it's hard, but try not to let it bother you. You are trying to fix it and that is what important. It is unfortunate that this person couldn't be more understanding, but that does not take away from your efforts and what you are trying to do.

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I think this is going to be one of those tasks I will have to take in pieces, step by step.

Step #1- I will respond his email about money that I got a few days ago and ask him if we could talk. I so dont want to do this.
W0w - good job breaking it down into managable steps Blue!
I admire you, you are very brave and smart. Keep going, one step at t time. You are doing great!

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I so dont want to do this.
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Old Jun 19, 2010, 05:35 AM
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Many many HUGS to you hun! You did alot of foot work and you deserve a break. Much love to you!
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Old Jun 19, 2010, 07:41 AM
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((((BlueMoon))))

You did awsome and I hope that the hot shower did you a world of good to relax you. I hope you got some much deserved and needed sleep. You are doing what you have to do and that is great. Thank you for sharing that with us. We are so proud of you and we are here for you. I hope you have a great day and enjoy it. Rest for the weekend if you can. Monday will come again soon enough. Sending you gentle hugs and loving thoughts. Always.

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Old Jun 19, 2010, 08:17 AM
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Old Jun 19, 2010, 09:45 AM
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Thank you so much for your wonderful support here. I rested up and I am trying not to think about the next step for the coming week and what I will say to this guy I have to meet with. It is SO one step at a time. Any other way feels overwhelming.

I see my post was moved from the Psychotherapy Forum, I dont understand why and I dont think it should have been moved. It is my therapy issue at the moment
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Old Jun 19, 2010, 10:00 AM
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What a wonderful thing you did! And I love that you say you can give yourself a hug. I think that is awesome. Here's one from me too ((((BlueMoon6))))
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