[avoice]

Hi everybody would like to first off is to thank every body for there support. Most of you all know my Daughter is pregnut. So today off to work she went. I was talking to her bf. Ask him his plans about this matter. You would not believe his response There moving out in sep I said ok but how you have no movey. He told me they have been saying for awhile. ok I said to him you mean me and my husband have ben struggling to make ends meet letting you not pay anything because we agreed you need to catch up on child support? and all this time you been saving and letting us have stress over bills and everything. My last words to him were I can't believe that and I turned around not facing him anymore looking at the tv. Felling in discusted and he just left.

[Irine]

oh avoice i am sorry you have to go through this! i don`t have any ideas for solution right now, i am much younger, and all that

i can just offer some hugs and prayers!
wish you all the best!

[ECHOES]

Sounds like you have been through rough times recently.

You may have set a good example if they have been saving and not spending.
They are preparing for the arrival of your grandchild. You must be excited!

Since he is behind in child support, your daughter must be carrying at least his second. I can understand your disappointment, especially considering what you and your husband have sacrificed.

I see two sides of this situation.

While i completely agree they should have been giving you SOMETHING if you were struggling - I understand also their desire to save for the birth of their child. In fact, if you can possibly do so, you might take some comfort from this bad situation in the knowledge that at least they were not blowing it on something frivolous like material things they didnt need, or booze, or other bad things. They definetly would have needed to save money, but i see no reason why they couldnt have offered you SOMETHING to help, especially if they knew you were struggling. Perhaps you could make good of the situation by suggesting they help out a small amount - and commend them on saving for their child? Its a compromise, and i know its not perfect, but at least you would receive SOMETHING.

If he cannot afford child support that is NOT your responsibility. If he doesn't have the income he needs to return to the courts and try to negotiate a lower or suspended payment. You cannot just let them slide by free for his previous child support.. though I also agree fully all fathers should pay it, it should be fair at all times and often courts will negotiate an agreement temporarily for this reason.

I am so sorry you seem to be having trouble. Is there any local organizations which might be able to help? Usually the salvation army, churches, or other charities can help with things like food, or bills. You might see if you have an Angel Food Ministries near you - they sell a 50 dollar bag of food for half that price, and its healthy food too.

I hope that things get better soon!

[Rhiannonsmoon]

Hello avoice,

This is not something that would make anyone happy, especially when you have been struggling so much. It is bad that they have seen you struggling and haven't offered any help whatsoever.

Even though they are putting whatever money they have saved to an apartment or house they could have spared a little for you each week even $50 would have helped.

Is he working? or is your daughter the one saving the money?

Rhiannon