[QUEEN OF WANDS]

is it possible to become mentally sick because of your relationship with boyfriend or mother etc as an adult... ? will difficult relations bring out disorders or can you become so distraught in one that u actually change? will the sickness still be there if you are out of the situation?

[Perna]

Relationships and things out in the world don't cause mental illness; our thinking and responses to what goes on, our perspective is what causes problems. Usually we have all that from our genes and experience, nature and nurture, so when we get older and are having adult relationships, problems come from what has come before, in us, not the relationship itself.

[amandalouise]

Originally Posted by Perna

Relationships and things out in the world don't cause mental illness; our thinking and responses to what goes on, our perspective is what causes problems. Usually we have all that from our genes and experience, nature and nurture, so when we get older and are having adult relationships, problems come from what has come before, in us, not the relationship itself.

Im sorry but I have to disagree. the kind of relationsships and life experiences are documented to being causes of many different mental disorders. examples an abusive relationship, childhood, and traumatic encounters out in the world cause the mental disorders Post Traumatic Stress Disorder and the mental disorder Depression, the mental disorders grouped within the mental disorder title of Dissociative disorders like Dissociative Identity Disorder, Dissociative amnesia, Dissociative Disorders Not Otherwise Specified, Dissociative Fugue, mental disorders that are grouped within the title of Panic and anxiety disorders like the mental disorders that are phobias, and can be uderlying factors in mental disorders like the mental disorders Schizophrenia and bipolar disorder.

[amandalouise]

Originally Posted by QUEEN OF WANDS

is it possible to become mentally sick because of your relationship with boyfriend or mother etc as an adult... ? will difficult relations bring out disorders or can you become so distraught in one that u actually change? will the sickness still be there if you are out of the situation?

Yes your relationships can cause mental disorders, and yes if you have a undiagnosed mental disorder already your relationships can aggrivate and bring out more problems associated with having the mental disorder. the mental disorder will be there until you get treatment. the symptoms may lessen when you are out of the abusive relationships but the symptoms / problems can keep popping up in your life unexpectedly until you recieve treatment.

Example a person who has undiagnosed seasonal depression can enter into an abusive relationship. that abuse can cause the person to become withdrawn, depressed, anxious, have nightmares, phobic (post traumatic stress disorder, anxiety disorder, panic disorder) and can make their seasonal depression more severe. finally out of the abusive relationship the person can continue to go through their previos PTSD symptoms plus flashback (reliving the abusive relationships as if its still happening), anxiety, phobias, severe seasonal depression. as time goes by the symptoms lessen but suddenly you are having the same symtomsagain because you saw someone who remined you of the abuser, or something that remided you of the abuse. that will keep popping up for you until you get treatment for it.

[QUEEN OF WANDS]

thank you both very much...i am trying very hard to keep my committment to myself to get treatment..i have my first appointment to be evaluated next thursday and my mind is full of worry,,,of anylizing myself and the choices i have made and the people in my life...if i can actually go and talk...i know which people in my life are toxic i just cant make or let them go...i know alot of my anxiety now is due to my relationship with my boyfriend of four years..i fear what anxiety awaits if i can get out,,ive never been single(2 relationships in 22 years)....again thank you ...trying hard :/

[Rhiannonsmoon]

Hello Queen,

I must agree with Perna what she has written is exactly what the 3rd post says. Our mental illness is with us before it is aparent, and it is responding to certain stimulus that can exacerbate it or bring it out.

Every person I've met or dealt with has gone back to a much younger age to pin point the onset of their symptoms but they have not reacted or responded to that situation particularly as a "causation" of their illness.

I have however met a number of people who wanted their relationship to be the cause of their mental illness so that they had someone to blame, it doesn't work that way. In many, many cases mental illness is hereditary. A case in poingt is that I found out that the mental illness I have, a great uncle I never met, had when he was alive. It wasn't until I told my mum of my symptoms and diagnosis that she actually told me about this great uncle.

Rhiannon