[Kismet]

I have some questions to those of you who really enjoy ((((((cyberhugs))))). Do you hug people IRL as readily as you hug people in a cyber community? Why or why not?

[Hope4me2]

nope do not hug people in real life....but hugs here are safe and I truly feel accepted here but in real life that fear of rejection is always around me...

[chitown]

I would say yes and no. I would, only if I knew that that person would not be offended with me hugging them. I feel that everyone who is feeling down needs a hug. And I have been told I am a great hugger, so I will just keep on doing it..
Great question!

[jmo531]

I hug only those close to me. Even then I have a hard time with it. Like Hope said, cyberhugs are safe with no fear of rejection or feeling violated. I hope that makes sense.

[obsids]

Ack.... real physical hugs involve physical contact, which is scary for me. My children and my husband get lots of hugs, and so do my closest friends in RL. Everyone else in 3D generally sees me with my arms folded across my chest.

Online, however, it is safe to hug others.

((((everyone at psych central)))))

[Raynaadi]

I'm weary of hugs in real life because being touched is an issue for me. I'm getting better though. =) Hugs here are easy cuz there's no physical contact. ((((myzen))))) Interesting thread!

~Rayna

[darkeyes]

Hope, I feel that way too, plus, like many, I have this comfort of distance zone, if it someone enters it too soon before I feel comfortable I freeze or withdraw. Social anxiety? Shyness? I do not know.
Hugs with families or close friends, I have no problem, they are an exchange of fondness for each other.
Cyber hugs, felt awkward (sp?) at first, but now aren't so bad, I find them uplifting, and deeply appreciate them.
If there are people that do not want to have cyber hugs, and feel upset from them, it's okay not to accept them. But I personally, have grown to like them, and I say "thank you" to any of you reading this, they have gotten me through some dismal times.

Take care now,
DE

(((((((((( for those who like them )))))))))))

[SittinSpin]

I have the same feelings in real life that leads to cyber hugs, but I do not hug people real life unless I must except for my children and bf etc. In real life I tend to offer that sympathy or warm feeling verbally. Online you have the handicap of people not being able to see you or hear the inflection in your voice, so other means are used like smiley faces and hugs to convey the emotions.

i do alot of hugging. in awkward situations i always ask first. i have been told by friends that my hugs have alot of "healing energy". perhaps i should be hugging myself???LOL
w_i

[Myzen]

Hi folks,

I like hugs, especially from my daughter who does it a lot and then starts tickling me which I can't stand and then she laughs and laughs at my discomfort! Sometimes she jumps on me, and sits on top of me, and she quite heavy now - 24 years old.

That's all we need in life, someone who isn't afraid to tickle us and sit on us. Someone who was so happy with us as a child that they want to go back there, to the happiest times.

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My father was untouchable, completely untouchable. If you were standing behind him and put a hand on his shoulder he would 'flinch' and stiffen right up. I think something really bad happened to him as a child, but he would never say. He would never say anything about his own father or mother.

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Two different stories, and I know which one I would go for.

Cheers, M
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[Raynaadi]

Awww! *jumps on myzen* Tickle fight!!!!

[jbug]

I don't hug IRL. I don't like being hugged irl. I don't like being touched and being hugged requires being touched and I tend to stiffen up. Its nothing against the hugger I just don't like to be touched.

Jbug