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Old Sep 07, 2005, 06:12 PM
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My dad wants me to call his gf all the time to start getting to know her and everything, but the problem is I'm doing all the freakin work about it! She doesn't bother to call me or anything! It really makes me mad because I'm doing all the work! I wouldn't be so angry if she was trying on her end, too, but she's not!

My dad expects me to do all the work. I'm sick of it!
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Old Sep 07, 2005, 06:25 PM
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Hi.

It's up to you to decide if and when you will connect with this woman. If he doe not understand...that's unfortunate. Picking our own friends is a very personal thing.

Don't let him stress you out more than u r already.

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Old Sep 07, 2005, 06:29 PM
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Hi,

Dotte has given you most excellent advice. I hope the stress eases soon. It must be very hard on you.

Cheers!

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Old Sep 07, 2005, 06:39 PM
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I just feel so responsible for their relationship and it's not my responsibility at all! It's his! I hate this whole thing!
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Old Sep 07, 2005, 06:42 PM
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You're right. It's his responsibility, not yours at all. Can you talk to him about it?

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Old Sep 07, 2005, 11:44 PM
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Hmmmm this is a tough spot to be in. I understand because I am a product of a step family with both of my parents being remarried. It is not easy.

I dont think it is really fair of your father to ask you to make all of the effort here. Although, in an effort to bring peace with in your family, I do think it is a wise idea for the two of you to get to know eachother better. The fact is, you both have your father in common. You both care for him deeply and I think its only fair that the both of you, jointly make an effort.

My suggestion is, bite the bullet, for your fathers sake. Ask her to a movie, lunch or maybe a few hours at the mall. Talk about things. Get to know eachother. She may surprise you and vise versa.

I know it feels like your the one giving in, but sometimes, we have to be the bigger person. Just my 2 cents

I wish you luck because this is not an easy situation,

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Old Sep 08, 2005, 08:14 AM
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<font color="#000088">Hi there,
Flip side of the coin here. What if your dad's girlfriend isn't calling you because she's afraid to 'pressure' you into feeling obligated to do things with her? Could it be that she's allowing you to set the pace? If you think this is a possibility, the next time you call her, you could tell her that you enjoyed talking with her and ask her to give you a call the next day. She should get the idea that you want to hear from her and if she calls you, then you know she's willing to do her part. If she doesn't maybe you should ask your dad why he thinks she isn't trying to get to know you. Good luck!

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Old Sep 08, 2005, 03:23 PM
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Advice has gone up w/ inflation; so here's my 5 cents

I agree that SHE might not be "doing anything" b/c she's got the "heeby-jeebies" BUT considering she's horning in on your father, I PERSONALLY think she ain't hauling her load of this "relationship" Why not tell your DAD talk to HER & stop making you play the go-between?

Dottie's right, we all chose our own personal friends w/ our hearts -- not d/t "future family conveinence" (sorry, if I misquoted you too bad Dottie! Doing More Than My Share)

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