Did I cross paths with a killer, or am I just paranoid?

Ok, so I met a man briefly last summer, and sometimes, I can’t help but wonder about him.
It was a scorching hot day in July, , I was off for the day and I decided to be a bit more daring than my normal introverted self(I guess I have my manic moments) and wore these short shorts and a tank and wandered about town until I found myself in another neighborhood(Haight, SF, CA) I decided to stop in to a bar about 4pm and have a couple drinks before hopping a bus home(My new sandal shoes had given me a slight blister and there’s no way I was walking home) Anyways, After a couple drinks and an appetizer, it was approaching 6:30 and I was getting ready to leave when a man sat down next to me. Granted, I had already had small talk with two friends earlier and played it cool and mostly kept to myself. Well, we hit it off. He had just come here from Florida, he told me stories of the crazy people there (his words) and the gator danger, as well as of how he grew up in New York. The way he told it, it sounded like he was a bit of a loner. Which isn’t necessarily bad, I sort of am too, but also family oriented with some close friends. Well, he was only in SF for a few days until he went to Korea for a year to teach English. I was still being platonic with him until we left the bar and stopped by a few more, by that point we had kissed and were holding hands. Needless to say he rode the bus home with me to my apartment. I’m not the type to have one night stands , so when we got hot and heavy, there were no condoms and we just held each other and fell asleep. I spent the next two days with him, exploring the city with him and going out to eat one night and hanging at my place another. Here’s the weird part:
When we were waiting at a bus stop by ourselves one time, he made a weird comment about how I wasn’t the type of person he’d kill, but the kind he could hang out with (no one I’ve ever known made a ‘joke’ like that) and then I thought of how the night we met he insisted on taking my headshot while at the bar. And so then we kept in touch for a while via Skype, but he seemed more and more sketchy, and then he got a new pic that looked creepy, and he seemed to be drifting away and so that was that. But the day he left, I swear I was in love, and I’m not the type to fall in love easily. So, I don’t know, am I being paranoid? There were some other weird instances I can’t quite think of right now, but I just had to share.

Careful Lablover. Maybe he was just making a commentoff the top of his head to seem cool or a little dangerous, but you never know with people like that. I have met folks who have been kind of like that, and afterward, well, they have left a bad taste in my mouth, like, "what or who have they got buriied in their basement?"

Being careful does not have to mean being paranoid. Some folks are just dangerous, even if not to everyone all the time. HUGGGS, and take care.

Sorry, no one (imo) in his right mind makes a comment or "joke" about killing someone. What kind of thoughts was he having?

Back away from this person immediately.

Gut instincts are important. Of women interviewed, of those who survived tragedy, many of them said they went against their gut instincts.

That's what this type of person does, makes you go against what you know better, that's what they are good at and why they get to do what they do.

Stay safe. You don't need this type of "jokester" in your roster imo!

I don't think he would have "drifted" away if he had any negative plans for you and he wouldn't have just "hung out" for 3 days like that either. He doesn't sound like he's into "living" much less killing, by that I mean he doesn't seem motivated enough to do much of anything? I think he liked you and you liked him and you had a "fun" three days and that's about it. I wouldn't pursue him and I doubt he'll pursue you. Just do a lot of drifting yourself in an opposite direction from his (not be available if he calls, emails, etc.).

((LabLover)) JMHO, but RUN!!! RUN LIKE THE WIND in the opposite direction and don't look back.

run!!!

fast and far

Seems good that he is old news for you, whether paranoia or instinct he is gone. It is possible he has traits of a psychopath. They have no social conscience and rarely a personal one, and they blame others for their own problems, particularly their victims

They can mingle well because being social predators they will hone in on a target and charm them, however they would give nothing away and be the "perfect" personality in order to achieve their aims or desires.

Killers will not show their hand and not to anyone and if they think they have, they will kill the one who could point the finger at them. But this is a tiny tiny sliver of a look through a broken window at the psychopath or sociopathic personality

Whatever the reason you are probably very lucky to be without him

Well, I felt like it was moved a little too fast.. Sometimes you get in the heat of the moment but I wouldn't be letting someone come to my house after the first night, or fall asleep with anyone after the first night even without sex being involved. I'm not trying to be rude to you or anything, because Lord knows I have done things I know I shouldn't and even moved way too fast when I shouldn't, but meeting a stranger like that and having all that happen in three days is very dangerous.. I wouldn't pursue him anymore. I think it's best to just keep away. If I were you I would use this as a lesson to move a lot more slow and steady next time.. I'm not trying to tell you what to do, but this really could be a sign that if you ever let something like that happen again something bad WILL happen...

Take care, and good luck. Hope everything goes good for you!

I think it is advisable to watch what you wear as well. What you wore gives signals to the wrong people (except perhaps on a beach). The right people would just ignore it.

The only reason he drifted away (if that is what he really has done) was because too many people closer by were preoccupying him for his schemes.

I have read other true stories and this type do let slip things about their plans like this one did.

Would you feel safe enough giving his e-mail address to the police? (Would others please guide me here, e.g perhaps the evidence is too vague? Would he guess who gave them the tip off?)

I'm sure you're thankful to providence that there was something about you that was offputting to him at the time.

Thanks, I'm no longer in contact with him.