Ok so there is this guy....

that I really like. I've never loved anyone before (my t says narcissists can't love) but I am so in love.
The problem is is that I don't want my mental health to get in the way, eg my emotions etc.
I know I'm a total nut case, but I want him to love me for me, not because of sex like past relationships. But I afraid because he might find out that I am a nut case and things will fall through like every other time.
What can I do?

Has your T officially d(x)ed you as narcissistic or histrionic or both or neither?

You said you want him to love you for you. You can start by showing all of your true colors to this guy. Mental health issues and all. If he thinks you're a nut case and bails out, then he isn't the right one to "love you for you". And then you'll have saved yourself a lot of heartache instead of hiding the real you, letting yourselves both fall in too deeply, and having him find out later.

If he really loves you for you, then he'll be compassionate about your mental health stuff and help you work through it.

What do you love so much about him, anyway? What's he all about?

You don't have to bear your soul right away, but I don't think it would be such a hot idea to try and hide your problems from this guy. If you're upfront and honest with him, there's a chance that he'll back off; but if you manage to hide this from him long enough to establish a relationship, what's he going to do when he finally finds out?

My advice would be take it nice and slow. Develop the relationship as friends, if there is romantic inclination on both sides it will show through and starting off friends will give you some assurance that he is with you for you. I don' t think we need to wear our diagnosises on our sleeve, especially because of the stigma, but we don't have to avoid meaning it. Treat it as if you need glasses. Talk about mental health issues in the media and news and see what his views are indirectly. You may be surprised and if he says something insensitive you can know without divulging your health.
I was where you are so many times before I met my husband.

Good Luck and remember to treat yourself well so others can follow your example.

Danielle V.