GREED

Many of you know that I have a friend who died from cancer a few weeks ago. I did everything that I could to help him in his life, including helping put his affairs in order. For him that meant making sure that his second wife was taken care of financially but protecting her from exploitation. He made a family trust. I took him to the attorney, I helped him. We spoke of it and this is what he wanted. When she is no longer with us if there are resources in the trust they are to be disbursed to his children and his step children.

I thought it was a wonderful thing to do. He owned his home and another proerty at the time of his death, both listed in the trust.

He had made mention that a lot of people would be upset when he was gone for the way he left his affairs. I honestly did not think so.

Well, again I am struck by the fact that people can act like poo and I don't see it coming. Three of his 4 kids,who never sat with him, never visited, never took him to medical appointments, not step kids are very angry and demand that they get "their share" now. They have been miserable and mean to the wife and the son who cared for him. It hurts my soul because it seems to take away from all of the love and giving that was part of my experience with him, his son, his wife.

I called the attorney today to inform and he was great. The trustee is a business person whom my friend knew for a long time and the family has been tormenting her. The attorney is going to have ONE family meeting and explain the trust and tell them the way it is. If they want to contest it, good luck, and hire attorneys to do so.

It is funny in a way as I saw a family in probate yesterday battling about the inventory of an estate that was basically clothes and old worn out house hold furnishings. People never cease to amaze me.

Being estranged from my family I expect and hope that I am not named in any will. If I am, I plan on declining. I would like to have copies of family pictures is all.

i truly want nothing of that family that shares my genes. I expect nothing. I am sincerely amazed and shocked. And very sad.

((( wisewoman )))

Your friend was wise too...he knew what was in their hearts.

This happens all the time, even in families that swear it won't. It is very sad.

You said, "hope that I am not named in any will. If I am, I plan on declining."

I say take it and give it to charity. It might buy a little child a smile or a warm coat.

Take care,

Petunia

How very sad. And how very caring of you to assist your friend as you did.

(((wisewoman)))

gg

hi!

That is a wonderful idea..to take the money and give it to charity. That something good came out of something perhaps painful?!



~Dottie

IT's good work that you do. Yes, it never ceases to amaze us! I have all my affairs within a trust.. as does my mother. I helped my mother, but am thankful that the attorney spoke to her alone without me for the final decisions... that way, the family can accuse me all they wish (if they so choose) but I will not be guilty! LOL

I agree with you....it is 100% pure greed

Thanks guys, had dinner with my friend's son and his wife. He is dealing with the greed thing. We had laughs. Man, make sure everyone that you advance directives are fully in place if they are health or wealth related it doesn't matter.