[dpadilla89]

My dad called me up today right away asking where my mom was. obviously, he knew she was at work. i go, whats the matter? Hes like...your mom's taking me to court!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I'm like, why? all nice and calm..and hes like....deb, its ALL ABOUT MONEY to your mother!! But, i understand why my mom is taking him to court, because, he hasnt paid the 'right amount' in like, over 10 years. heh. he should be paying more and in those ten years my mom never asked to go to court for that. anyways, my dad made me feel really bad, idk who to talk too, so i came here. my dad made me horrible, it justs disgust me. i said to him, i DO NOT want to get involved...and he does it anyways, keeps on going and complaining about MY MOTHER. grrrr. and then hes like, were going to have to cancel your party tonight (fam. over for my belated bday) and then i called my mom and told her what had happened and shes like..hes a jerk for getting you involved thats why i didnt tell you right away, i didnt want you to worry or have it be on your mind. and she thinks its pretty selfish about him cancelling my thing tonight because its ALWAYS all about him. hes a jerk....i cant stand him anymore....ughhh.
And i found out in my family session the other night that when they were married together he used to abuse her. that makes me so0o0o0o mad! i want to get back at him, like have my mom bring that to court...lol..but its prob. not gona happen. it just makes me mad because he once to ME, pinned me down to the ground and put his hands around my neck. Just because i started freaking out that i was going back for my fourth time to the hospital. and he got pretty agressive and started screaming his head off towards me. ughhh...idk what to do....im so frustrated right now. i feel like crying. he makes me wana cry and cut. grrrr.

deb

[Lexicon78]

I'm sorry your dad is doing this to you. My mom used to do the same thing to me about my dad...and it was all about money money money. Especially around income tax season. He shouldn't have put you in the middle of this whole thing.

Hang in there. I'm sure that everything will turn out for the best. Stay safe.

[January]

Hi DP,

You need to concentrate on taking good care of yourself and let them work out these problems. Try not to let them. If your Dad tries to put you in the middle again, try to make some excuse to get off the phone.

My best to you,

Jan

[Maven]

It's wrong of your parents to put you in-between their problems. You don't need an excuse to get off the phone. Say, "Dad, I'm not going to be involved in this." Then hang up. If he calls back and you pick up (you don't have to), hang up again. If you're with him in person, walk away, ignore him. Be firm, stand your ground. Make BOTH your parents understand, you simply will not be involved in their squabbles. This is their problem. If your father threatens or attempts to hurt you or your mom, call the police. I know you might feel guilty, but it's false guilt. They have no right to involve you in their problems. If your father owes your mom money, he needs to grow up and take responsibility. If he paid her like he should have, then he wouldn't be going to court, or at least the court would find in his favor. He caused his owns problems. Let him deal with them. If he persists in bothering you, don't say a word to him. Let him yell and b****, and you just go on about your business.

[mrb020377]

my mom waiting until my younger sister was 15 before she took my dad to court for back child support. my brother now 30 and i ( now 28) were already out of the house... he is on a fixed income....881.. a month and 440 of that goes to her.... she has no kids at home now but she takes it anyways..... I hate that they are putting you in the middle.....it is not fun...