Is it okay to have not much friends in real life?

Hello ^_^ Welcome to the forum. Maybe you're friends are really busy or they don't like going out. Doesn't mean they are bad friends

Because of my mental disorders I have only one friend. I just don't have an outgoing personality. I may spend a lot of time in solitude yet I don't feel lonely. I like to get out and be around people from time to time.

I feel if solitude is causing sad feelings, then maybe its time to take a risk and practice meeting new people.

I'm not a outgoing person as well and one person complains to me about not going out. She doesn't understand me. Not much people understand people who have mental health issues. I guess it's okay to spend time on your own.

I have a hard time feeling connected to other people and thats ok. I keep busy with little projects at home, I like artsy things, and that keeps my mind in a good place.

That's good As long you're happy

We all have different needs when it comes to friendships. Sometimes our need aren't the same as our desires though. I always desire more friends, but I love the ones I have, although aside from one, they don't call me. I accept it as I know that when I call them, they endevour to spend time with me. It isn't what I want, but it is what it is.

I don't have any hang out friends. Other than having a couple people at work im friendly with. I just stay at home and play on the computer or watch tv when I have the concentration for it.

I used to play World of Warcraft every waking hour I was at home. The game was hugely addictive but sadly here lately I have found that stressful. So pretty much computer and tv now and again.

Oddly I am ok with that (my T is not) but it's what is comfortable with me. When I'm around people it's really uncomfortable thinking they are watching me or wondering what they are thinking.

I don't have any "real" friends. My husband is my best friend and only true friend. I would rather be around animals than people though. People say they love you unconditionally but when it comes down to it thats usually not true. I have hurt many people in my life and have been hurt a lot so its ok with me not to be close to anyone. I do get lonely sometimes and wish I had just 1 close girl friend that I could hang out with and trust to be myself around. I can relate to how you are feeling.

Are you okay? I'm so sorry that you've been having such a rough time, and have had thoughts of suicide. Please stay safe. Some kind spirited people have replied here and I'm sure they all understand. What your going through isn't fun. It's nice that you do have some friends here at psych central though. Maybe that will help.

These are thoughts that I struggle with, too. Just making myself known...

I've been told in therapy that anyone who has made 2 or 3 real, true friends in their entire lifetime is doing very well.

Me, I have a lot of friendly acquaintances, but no hang-out or go-shopping friends. My husband is my best friend, and my daughters are right up there too. So I count myself blessed, because there is my "2 or 3."

I enjoy the company of the friendly acquaintances, wherever and whenever I happen to see them (mostly church) and don't worry about whether or not they are "real" friends.

I can't seem to find any friends myself. I have grown apart from my high school friends who still seem to be stuck at age 17, and I don't make new friends well. I don't trust people, don't like the friends THEY already have (which is another obstacle, people usually have their friend circle chosen by adulthood), and I don't feel like I can relate to too many people. Especially people with "normal" lives because mine is so f**k*n Crazy! I hate having my boyfriend as my only friend, because when HE has something to do and I don't, I start to flip out and get mad at him when it's not his fault I'm all messed up in the head.

Grr! I wish I could just rid myself of this. I wish you more luck than I'm having!

I am sorry to hear it

I don't have a lot of friends, but the friends I do have are really good friends. We don't even see each other a lot - they're busy with their lives, but we stay in touch by email and phone, and I know that if I ever was in trouble and needed help - they'd help me, no questions asked. I sometimes miss having just hanging around with friends to go out and socialize with but I'm really shy and just don't make friends that easily. I'm lucky though I go to a really nice AA group and I'm getting to feel more comfortable around the women there and some of them are becoming friends. So between my AA friends and my real close friends, i usually do ok. I still get lonely though sometimes.

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I have many friends in the internet, but none of the (previously thought that is) in real life. I am disappointed in people, so I decided to spend time here. In virtual. I really hope I'm wrong. And I hope that there is a genuinely good people with whom I shall be happy to make friends.

Sorry for my bad English. I am trained..

I really hope I'm wrong. And I hope that there is a genuinely good people with whom I shall be happy to make friends.

It's okay, I understand you. I have friends on the internet and I don't like the ones in real life. I prefer to be alone. I don't like the people around where I live. Stuck up and backstabbing people they are.

I guess the main thing is ... are you happy being alone? There is nothing wrong with that. If you're not familiar with it, check out the book Ferdinand the Bull by Munro Leaf. It's a children's book, but it really resonated with me, and I have a copy in my living room. You can find it on Amazon along with lots of interesting comments about it. Some of us ... and I do mean us ... are happy being alone.

But if you wish you had more friends, what is preventing you from that? If you don't know, maybe spending some time with a therapist would help.

happycheeks, I hope you are doing well and I thank you for this thread. the other night I had a dream that everyone had friends but me, and I felt like something was very wrong with me. but I can't help it, I just get stressed out when I spend too much time around other people. I hope that you and I and everyone who needs to can make some friends. thanks again and take care

I rather have a few genuine friends than lots of friends that I'm not so sure of. I don't know what it's called, but thereare a few people in this world I feel a deep connection to. I understand why some people believe in past lives even though I don't. I think it is because of this deep/ otherworldly connection. It's like we are vibrating on the same frequency(and believe or not I'm not a new agey person) anyway, I prefer quality over quantity and I seriously doubt life is meant to be a popularity contest. Surround yourself with people who support you and validate who you really truly are meant to be.

hang in there :O) I also don't have lots of friends i'll pray for you god is with you

I had a friend - for over 6 years - that I lost in the Spring. Well, it might not have been real friendship; though at times it was. This friend asked for favors - more of me than I would have asked of her. On one occasion I said no, but, instead of just leaving it at that, like I wish I could do more easily, I went into giving her a lecture. Lecturing her about her expecting too much of me. So she disappeared from the family wedding. ung up and that's the last I've heard from her.

I don't regret the rupture. This "friendship was time consuming. Now I am making better progress. Now, I can focus on me and important decisions that I have to make. In the past one of us would pick up the phone and, before you'ld know it, we were back into our world, laughing and gossipping and having funny things and comforting thngs to say to each other. Not this time. Having someone hang up in your ear is a form of contempt. It had happened too often. I am happier having more time to me.

I do not have any other friends accept my fiance since we have moved to a new state and feel very lonely. Think of the times when you were enjoying some friends and you may realize you are not a loner, friendships sometimes come and go throughout life as changes happen with you and others.

rainwater

I don't have any friends of my own. All my "friends" are my husband's friends who wouldn't give a darn about me if it weren't for my husband. I miss not having a girlfriend of my own but because my life revolves around my husband, would find a friendship like this hard to maintain.