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Oct 01, 2011, 11:05 AM
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It takes me forever to get started doing something new, and once I'm into it, it takes me forever to stop. I also get irritated when people try to make me start or stop something. What is this, other than the law of inertia at work? ADD? OCD? IDK.
TIA, HS
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Oct 01, 2011, 11:37 AM
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I have that, at my last job they called it, Reason for Termination.
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Oct 01, 2011, 12:17 PM
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For me, I don't have a lot of time to really work on projects & I do a lot of thinking through it in my mind before I ever start. My problem is that unless I know I have enough time to really FINISH the project, I usually don't want to start it......then once it's started, I refuse to quit because there isn't anything worse than a partially finished project that I can't find the time to get back to.
Was just discussing this in therapy the other day. I have been seriously having a problem getting any of my "to do list" things finished. So this one day, I was working on one of my "to do" list items that needed to get finished. I worked on it 24 hours straight.....without eating or taking a break other than a 5 doggie potty walk & even that was a short one. My med patches were supposed to be changed that morning & food??? didn't bother because there wasn't anything that didn't take time to make. By the time 2am rolled around, I was a mess. Couldn't figure out whether to change the patches or get some food because I was shaking so bad. I worry so bad that if I stop a project before it gets finished, I won't be able to find the time to finish it again because some other higher priority project will force it's way in my life. Nothing worse than a house full of 1/2 finished projects....not sure that NO even worked on projects is just as bad as that bothers me also. Just know that it bothers me more to have something partially finished without the time to finish it than to just have it sitting as a complete "to do" on the list....seems harder to get back to something partially finished than to start something completely new because it now has a huge priority placed on it.
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Oct 01, 2011, 12:22 PM
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I believe it's called being a procrastinating perfectionist.
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Oct 01, 2011, 12:37 PM
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halfswede, do you have a therapist working with you or a confirmed diagnosis? it may help you and offer you insight on how to deal with your concerns.
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Oct 01, 2011, 12:55 PM
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It's weird, but when I started this thread, I was thinking of relationships that I didn't want to get into at first, and then when I did, I didn't want them to end. But you all have pointed out that this tendency of mine can apply to anything--work, home, school, social life--and it probably is a form of perfectionism.
Madisgram, I do have a T, but I haven't brought this up with him. I will try to remember to next session. Thank you all. HS
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