Are You Invisible -- to Yourself?

madisgram · Sep 30, 2011, 03:12 PM

when i first began therapy imagine this-i was invisible to myself! i needed to learn how to love and respect myself. i find the list very helpful in determining if we are valuing ourselves first, loving ourselves. hope this article will spark some discussion about how we can validate ourselves.

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Do you sometimes feel invisible to others regarding your feelings and needs?
Ellen was brought up to be invisible. She was taught to be very tuned into others feelings and needs, but to never have any of her own. Her family made it clear that her job was to give to them, but to never expect anything in return. As a result, Ellen learned to be totally tuned out to her own feelings and needs. It was as if she, as a person, didn't really exist other than to be there for others.
When Ellen's feelings and needs did surface, she would tell herself that they weren't important....

How often do you end up feeling unappreciated, unseen and not valued? How much of this is a reflection of how you treat yourself?
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/margar..._b_980081.html

Sep 30, 2011, 06:24 PM

Good article - thanks for sharing. A lot of those certainly apply to me. I especially liked this:

"If your own feelings and needs are invisible to yourself, they may end up being invisible to others. It's unrealistic to constantly put yourself aside, and then expect others to value and respect you. "

I'll need to think on that for a while. Good stuff.

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