[madisgram]

in therapy i came to realize the many things i did were self-sabotaging. before that i'd say how did this happen? becoming an alcoholic, the same. drinking to avoid myself. sober for some time now. sometimes i'm even aware of self-sabotaging behaviors but would rather do that until it becomes unbearable for me to continue.

We all get in our own way occasionally and some people do it repeatedly. Self-sabotaging behavior results from the same cause, a misguided attempt to rescue ourselves.

Are you sabotaging yourself? Some people drink, some procrastinate, others are just way too modest. How do you get in your own way?
1: Dodging Emotions: The Help That Harms

We often get into trouble trying to escape intense negative feelings.
Everyone does it sometimes. Some do it regularly—shoot themselves in the foot or put obstacles in their own chosen path. Behavior is self-sabotaging when in attempting to solve or cope with a problem, it instigates new problems, interferes with long-term goals, and unsettles relationships.

"I Did All the Things I Wasn't Supposed to Do"
Self-sabotage is not an act, it's a process, a complex, tragic process that pits people against their own thoughts and impulses. Though we all make mistakes, a true self-saboteur continues to try to fix those mistakes by top-loading them with increasingly bad decisions.

http://www.psychologytoday.com/artic...e-enemy-within

[mala]

Hi madisgram,
I think that people do self sabotage, but its really good that you are aware of it. I didnt realise that I self sabotage, because its my own mind ie unless an alternate thought comes about, then how can I know whether Im sabotaging myself. I think most of it is to do with absolutely no self worth with some people. I dont think you should be annoyed with yourself for drinking to forget your problems -. The way the world is, people personalities are becoming homogenized like milk! I dont know what the answer is, wish I did, but I do think that David Icke is right. I dont think reptilians rule but there is some truth to what he's saying, I cant figure out what it is, possibly and likely to be aliens. Everyone says to practise meditation ; dont worry about it and go to practise with a good practiioner.
Mala

Excellent article. Thanks for posting it.

I am a procrastinator! Time to get off of PC and do something more productive??!!

[Gus1234U]

a timely and well written reminder to us all, Madisgram~! for me the next step is Self Approval~! best wishes,, Gus

Thanks, madisgram.

[phoenix7]

sigh.....I do this all the time ... - I am like a leaky boat - i fix one hole and another leak threatens to sink me- and all the time - im the one who's making the holes...

[sewerrats]

The prefered word is self medication , if you carnt find peace, who but one,s self is there to look to.

[Rhiannonsmoon]

I think I've been doing this for years Madisgram. Just only recently realised and trying to repatriate myself. But I'm still a nutter, no question...ask my family...the ones left that is.