[desirae]

So why are you here?

I would have posted this in the Questions of the month column, but that seems to be the Doc's territory, so I came here instead.

I wanna know what people's intentions are here in Psych Central. I want to understand why so many people here return and share themselves with the rest of us. I'm interested because I don't know why I am here.

Desirae

[hereiam]

because i can come here, not be judged (for the most part) and remain completely anonymous. ive met the best of people and the worst of people here on these forums, and i wouldnt change it for the world. everyone is real and honest, unpredicable and unique. it makes this place diverse and awesome.

i came here for myself, but it was the people here that kept me coming back.

[SleepsWithButterFlies]

For me I am here for support for ME, to give support and for entertainment in that order

[Myzen]

Hi Desirae,

I'm here because I was low and isolating, and I decided to climb inside my laptop computer!

Now I'm back out in the big world, that sometimes bites me, and I can rest here whenever I need to.

The great bonus has been finding that we are all quite similar here at PC, sharing the same stuff, so there is a sense of belonging and contributing to help others.

It's good.

Cheers, M

[pegasus]

lonely

[joyfulg]

Well I am here because I am bi-polar and happen to be manic, can't sleep. Decided to search the web and find if I could find other people like me-I guess I hit the jackpot. Hopefully now I can find support and offer the same.
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Good thoughts,

M.

[SerenitysWave]

So why are you here?

<font color="purple"> Very good question Desirae.
1. Support
2. Validation
3. Understanding
4. Information
5. A place to belong

All reasons so far that I am here .</font>

[DaveyJones]

I found PC on a day I thought I would not survive. I was trying to stay busy waiting for an appointment at the pdoc's...I was immediately taken in by the community, and wrapped in love and caring. And then you all made sure I went to the hospital...I have to come here...I owe too much!

DJ

[Fuzzybear]

yeah

[_embrace]

I wanted to try and lessen my social anxiety by posting here often and giving support to others. I don't really post as often as I wish I did, but I find even just reading the posts others make comforting.

I do wish I could offer more support, but I find it very hard to actually hit that "continue" button. Ah, well. Sometimes I win =).

[Fuzzybear]

glad you are here

(I have that too although I am in denial, I hate labels and all that go with them )

I have learnt not to care what strangers think of me though on here

With "friends" it is a different matter

grrrrrr
Fuzzy

[katheryn]

i come here because i find it helps sometimmes to get things of my chest , it is nice to be able to talk to ppl who understand and not to be judged and it feels safe

[pegasus]

Message for Myzen--------------------------

Did`nt know where to post this.

THANKS FOR YOUR SUPPORT!

[Rhapsody]

Trying to RECLAIM the once sane mind I had and then lost about eight years ago, after having a mental break down, due to the death of my daughter, marital problems, emotional wounds, and most of all trying to sort through my sexually abusive past... not to mention rejection from the people I loved.

LoVe,
Rhapsody -

[LMo]

That is a great question!

I have no idea why I'm here. I ask myself that all the time. I guess I just like it here. From a support perspective, I should have left a year and a half ago, but... I'm still here.

[SeptemberMorn]

Good question! I've been asking myself the very same thing!

[mrb020377]

I came here by chance one day. I looked around and found that I didnt have to feel alone any more... I felt like i had found a place where i could be me and not be judged. I for once in my life felt normal......
I love this place... there are so many people here who understand you and they are soo caring..

[LMo]

I should say that I came here originally because I needed help/education about how to handle my situation with my then-boyfriend-now-husband, who was deep in a severe depression episode. It took a long time to get him out of it, but we succeeded, DEFINITELY thanks to my friends here!

I come here for a few different reasons:

1. there is no groups here in town that are spcifically for DID. My past therapist was going to help me start one but for a group specifically geared towards and for a mental disorder there has to be a certified and or licensed professional involved and she has a son who like mine is a special needs and challenging child so she couldn't commit herself beyond her already busy work schedule.

2. There is a "support" group here for sexual abuse (be it adult or when we were children, first time rapes or multiple times) here in town but the group doesn't fit me. The way that group is set up it is more for beginners on the healing road: immediate crisis situations, basic no one will fix me vents, underlying competitions of who is the sicker ones of the groups with each person trying to out do the person before them in crisis modes, and In my opinion the way they have it set up these unqualified women are practicing amature psychiatry/ therapy based group not a support group with their go around the room and everyone has about 5 minutes and then they move on to the next person regardless of the situation so that EVERYONE gets their 5 minutes whether or not they want it. If the person needs more time they pull that person aside out of the room for indivdual help to get to the bottom of the problem, and they spend the first 15-20 minutes reading a paper of about 30 rules, most of which is common sense and people learn in kindergarten - no racial comments, take turns, tell someone you are leaving dont just get up and go .. Im past those stages. My focus is more on how to help myself not others fix me and I should not have to be sicker than I am just to find what I need when I need it.

3. I know that there are alot of people who don't have DID that believe the rediculas versions of DID being about possessions, and other stupid ideas protrayed in the mass media fo television, movies, certain fictionalized books.

It was that such nonsense that scared me into denying my diagnosis and refused to stay in therapy for it and then when I finally had no choice on therapy because of my son being placed in foster care I had no choice but to disclose and take care of my DID.

in the process it took alot of weeding through that garbage and locating professionals in the field for me to have the professional truth about what this disorder is and how to treat it. One night I got good and p*s***d off at how hard it was for me and my therapist to find the help I needed in part because of a show that was on that night that was portraying DID as a man being possessed by the spirit of a mass murderer.

I decided right then and there I couldn't keep quiet any longer. If my telling my story helped one person with this disorder then it is worth it. And my telling my story helps to fight the abuse the mass media and DID want to be's do to this disorder and those with the disorder because my telling my story helps one person and that person tells another person and slowly ....maybe not in my life time and maybe not in my sons lifetime ....but at some point true DID's won't have to go through what my therapist and I did to find out what this disorder is and how to treat it because of DID want to be's and professionals in the field that do not disclose certain aspects of this disorder so that they can weed out the want to be's.

[jbug]

I come here to give and receive support. I love the people here and when I'm not able to come in as much as I'd like I miss you guys. I wish I would have been able to come in last night but my computer was being stupid and not able to let me on the 'net.

Jbug

[(JD)]

I first came to Psych Central from a link regarding suicidal thoughts. I came here to "kill time instead of myself." I have used it that way quite a lot, especially in chat in the first year here.

I keep returning because of my human need for interraction. "Man" is a social animal. I continue to "use" PC to work on my social skills, which I had all but lost due to isolation (due to my disabilities - physical, emotional, and psychological.) I think I balance out the support I receive when in a flare or darkest of depression, with support for others here when I am able, and when they are somewhere with which I'm familiar.

We are all on a journey. This site is a crossroad for everyone who reads it. Once you come here, your path changes in some way.

[jmo531]

Originally I came here because I felt extremely alone. I had no idea that places like this existed. Thank goodness they do though.

I found people here who understood and supported me in my time of need and I in turn give support. Although, I have my times when I like to goof around here a bit. I think sometimes we have to laugh cause if we dont, we will cry

So in summary I come here for:

To recieve support

To give support

To learn things

To make friends

To goof off

[Lexicon78]

To not die...

To be supported...

To support others...

[nothemama8]

I came here because I needed something more than the support group here in my town could give, this forum has the DID forum which has helped me understand myself better and I have found soooooo many wonderful understanding friends here
Angie