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Nov 11, 2011, 12:05 PM
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My Mom died in July
We were incredibly close People are reaching to me I'm not responding I have not an IRL friend I go to fb and have actually met irl local friends there but don't post Don't want to look stupid I don't know how to respond to their offers of help and have 82 friend and half of those are cousins lol - really, almost I don't know how to reach back My husband is worried sick How do I let people help?
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Nov 11, 2011, 01:38 PM
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(((((Liberada)))))),
It hasn't been that long, it takes time to grieve something like this, it is normal to be depressed and feel lost. You have to have whatever time you need to grieve and everyone grieves differntly and ususally there are stages of emotions that one goes through in a reaction to a loss like this, it has to run its course. But I do think you should get grief counceling to help guide you through this very emotional time. Open Eyes |
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#3
Nov 11, 2011, 03:42 PM
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Grief support chat here at PC has helped me through the grieving process. My Dad died in 12/2007, and Mom 1/2008. I was too stunned and in shock to process the grief. It takes time, but understanding the stages has been beneficial. Best regards, "tohelp..."
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Nov 11, 2011, 03:46 PM
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Talk a little to your husband and whoever you can. Maybe find a grief counselor if you think that would help? It really hasn't been all that long.
I have helped myself through really bad experiences with reading. Maybe you can find emotional support there. Can you maybe write literal little notes of thanks to cousins/others, just say you're doing okay? Anything that you can think to do that is a little bit outside your own hurting heart might help and reassure others. I don't think fb would be easy for me either, if you say/do something for one there, you have to do it for all or they respond and you feel like you have to respond to their response, etc. and that may be too hard right now.
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Nov 11, 2011, 09:05 PM
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It almost sounds like a bit of a defense mechanism. You lost someone close to you and maybe you are afraid of allowing yourself to get close and open up to someone else? This is something similar I've done for years after my mother passed.
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