You can move this thread because I'm not sure where it goes.

In this day and age, I think most girls wear make up. They all look "pretty" and nice. But I feel like I am a outsider. I don't wear make up because I prefer the natural look. I should avoid watching modern music videos because when I watch them, I don't feel normal. It's hard to explain. I am not a modern girl. I don't dress up like "trendy" and I don't wear so much make up that I look like a barbie doll. There's no such thing as "normal". I should be me. I should believe other people who think I am pretty and my boyfriend told me even his friends think I am cute and sweet. I don't even have enough money to buy trendy clothes or to look "cool". I guess the media is a mind controlling thing The media tells us what to wear and what to like. I guess people can make up their own minds. Anyway enough with the rant ish. I am not normal. I rather be happycheeks.

Haha Happycheeks I am glad you said this! I am just gonna be Anika! I just wear what I like I really don't care. Sometimes I want makeup sometimes I don't. Just pay no mind to media, most media is not normal if you ask me.

Originally Posted by Anika

Haha Happycheeks I am glad you said this! I am just gonna be Anika! I just wear what I like I really don't care. Sometimes I want makeup sometimes I don't. Just pay no mind to media, most media is not normal if you ask me.

You're right. Sorry if I have offended you. It was just a rant and wanted to get it off my chest.

[venusss]

You chose not to wear make up.

I chose to wear it. Lots and lots of it. Pink eyeshadow, glitter in daytime and smokey eyes to go to class.... I have been called "drag queen trapped in woman's body".

It comes to personal choice. Screw the media.... they tell us too many contradictory things. Find your look, one you feel comforatable with and stick with it.

No need to fit in a group. I am a feminist who wears lots of make up and sometimes goes dressed head to toe in pink. Been told I undermine the efforts of feminist movement....

and as for clothes... check flea markets and outlets. You can find truly cool clothes there. Even trendy Don't have to, but that's how we cheap *** fashionistas do it

Originally Posted by VenusHalley

You chose not to wear make up.

I chose to wear it. Lots and lots of it. Pink eyeshadow, glitter in daytime and smokey eyes to go to class.... I have been called "drag queen trapped in woman's body".

It comes to personal choice. Screw the media.... they tell us too many contradictory things. Find your look, one you feel comforatable with and stick with it.

No need to fit in a group. I am a feminist who wears lots of make up and sometimes goes dressed head to toe in pink. Been told I undermine the efforts of feminist movement....

and as for clothes... check flea markets and outlets. You can find truly cool clothes there. Even trendy Don't have to, but that's how we cheap *** fashionistas do it

And that's okay. I have nothing against that. I just feel ugly when I see girls with make up prettier than me. I just need to learn to think I am pretty without make up.

Thank you for posting this. I don't wear makeup, never have, and I feel no reason to. I don't feel comfortable in it, so why do something that doesn't feel right to me? I wear what's comfortable as well...if I like how it feels and looks, then I choose it. I don't try to look like society's "ideal woman", although I am sad to say that many young women today try desperately to achieve that impossibly "perfect" look that the media portrays.

Originally Posted by melissa.recovering

Thank you for posting this. I don't wear makeup, never have, and I feel no reason to. I don't feel comfortable in it, so why do something that doesn't feel right to me? I wear what's comfortable as well...if I like how it feels and looks, then I choose it. I don't try to look like society's "ideal woman", although I am sad to say that many young women today try desperately to achieve that impossibly "perfect" look that the media portrays.

You're welcome I was only ranting but venting is a good way to let it all out. You are right about young women trying to achieve the perfect look. I agree with everything you put.

[AvidReader]

You sound very wise, happycheeks!

Originally Posted by AvidReader

You sound very wise, happycheeks!

Thanks

Natural beauty is fantastic! I really commend those who want this, like you, Happycheeks! I feel if people are happy with what they do though, I'm happy for them as well. Happiness and freedom of expression are irreplaceable.

Not offended at all Happycheeks. I am glad you are finding yourself and learning to be comfortable in your own skin! That's a big task.

Originally Posted by Anika

Not offended at all Happycheeks. I am glad you are finding yourself and learning to be comfortable in your own skin! That's a big task.

It can be hard but I'm trying.

[KathyM]

(((Happycheeks)))

I know how hard it is to be comfortable with your own face when there is so much pressure out there to be perfect - and the definition of "perfect" keeps changing. IMO, the goal isn't to achieve perfection and the "oohs and ahhs" from strangers. The goal is to be able to look at yourself in the mirror and like what you see. The goal is to be able to walk out your door and feel confident, inside and out. If you can achieve this, it won't be as important/necessary to seek the approval of others.

I used to have a pretty face, and I also enjoyed wearing makeup. People would tell me I was pretty. I tried not to take it to heart because I knew beauty fades, and I had a mother at home who constantly cried about losing her beauty. It seemed very selfish and shallow to me. I had a lot of respect for women who could age gracefully without trying to stay 21 forever.

When I was diagnosed with the same illness as my mother ( a rare form of amyloidosis) that afflicted my mother, I got a taste of her medicine. I no longer have a pretty face - medical literature describes us as freaks with a bloodhound-like appearance and places us at a "socio-aesthetic disadvantage" because of the way the illness attacks the face. People (strangers) used to make rude remarks and jokes about my mom's face/appearance whenever I'd take her out in public - now they make jokes about me. I can't wear make-up - it wouldn't help anyway. My forehead is falling over my eyes. My teeth are breaking and falling out.....so is my hair. Due to the illness, plastic surgery is out of the question.

When I look in the mirror, I'm horrified at what I see - but it's MY face. I'd rather have my face than no face at all. I'd rather have the face God gave me than anything a makeup artist or plastic surgeon can create. For me, it's only going to get worse. I hope people (society) will be able to stand me - I have serious doubts.

Take a look at yourself in the mirror one more time. You ARE beautiful, and you always will be - despite the trends that come and go.

Originally Posted by KathyM

(((Happycheeks)))

I know how hard it is to be comfortable with your own face when there is so much pressure out there to be perfect - and the definition of "perfect" keeps changing. IMO, the goal isn't to achieve perfection and the "oohs and ahhs" from strangers. The goal is to be able to look at yourself in the mirror and like what you see. The goal is to be able to walk out your door and feel confident, inside and out. If you can achieve this, it won't be as important/necessary to seek the approval of others.

I used to have a pretty face, and I also enjoyed wearing makeup. People would tell me I was pretty. I tried not to take it to heart because I knew beauty fades, and I had a mother at home who constantly cried about losing her beauty. It seemed very selfish and shallow to me. I had a lot of respect for women who could age gracefully without trying to stay 21 forever.

When I was diagnosed with the same illness as my mother ( a rare form of amyloidosis) that afflicted my mother, I got a taste of her medicine. I no longer have a pretty face - medical literature describes us as freaks with a bloodhound-like appearance and places us at a "socio-aesthetic disadvantage" because of the way the illness attacks the face. People (strangers) used to make rude remarks and jokes about my mom's face/appearance whenever I'd take her out in public - now they make jokes about me. I can't wear make-up - it wouldn't help anyway. My forehead is falling over my eyes. My teeth are breaking and falling out.....so is my hair. Due to the illness, plastic surgery is out of the question.

When I look in the mirror, I'm horrified at what I see - but it's MY face. I'd rather have my face than no face at all. I'd rather have the face God gave me than anything a makeup artist or plastic surgeon can create. For me, it's only going to get worse. I hope people (society) will be able to stand me - I have serious doubts.

Take a look at yourself in the mirror one more time. You ARE beautiful, and you always will be - despite the trends that come and go.

I'm sorry to hear about that. So the moral is to be comfortable with myself. I am pretty I guess. I shouldn't try to be perfect. but me

You are perfect ~ perfectly yu!

[Fuzzybear]

((((((((((((((( happycheeks ))))))))))))))

Originally Posted by Fuzzybear

((((((((((((((( happycheeks ))))))))))))))

Thank you

[dooples]

I always think "what is normal?" I know I do not fit into any of standards of society. But I am me...and sometimes I don't even do ME right....everywhere you look is pressure to look this way or be this skinny, or feel this way. What I do know is, in my younger days I can say I was pretty. I got plenty of attention, help and just plain kindness. As I have grown older and my looks have faded and I am no longer a size7, I feel quite invisible.

Originally Posted by dooples

I always think "what is normal?" I know I do not fit into any of standards of society. But I am me...and sometimes I don't even do ME right....everywhere you look is pressure to look this way or be this skinny, or feel this way. What I do know is, in my younger days I can say I was pretty. I got plenty of attention, help and just plain kindness. As I have grown older and my looks have faded and I am no longer a size7, I feel quite invisible.

I'm sorry that you feel this way. Don't follow the pathetic ideal way to be. It's not good trying to be something you're not.

[Fuzzybear]

[Sanada]

I used to wear make up when I was a goth. It was quite funny cause guys thought I was a gal sometimes.
Then I met my ex lover (10-11 yrs we spent together.).
She looked like tank girl (the graphic novel character). She deff did not wear make up unless it suited her. She was massively not in to make up. It did not stop her beauty shining through. We did make an odd couple while we were wearing our fav fashion influences. Me (a guy) with make up, her 'o - natural'. .

[Fuzzybear]

Originally Posted by Fuzzybear

Thank you fuzzy

[Brokenwings73]

You sound very sure and secure of yourself! Kudos! I do choose to to wear make up bug now I'm 38 I didnt so much care when I was in my 20's. I don't believe I the word normal to begin with! What exactly defies normal? Be you br happy and keep doing what your comfortable with ! U rock!