[darkeyes]

Just want the world to know, that one of our world's greatest person's left this earth 11/26/02, it is a year now and I miss him so much, beyond words.
This post is not for sympathy or attention, it is to honour my dad, Edward John Ohland born 1/3/24 and left us 11/26/02

" Daddy, I miss you and will love your forever, and forever is a very long time "

Dad was a man who loved nature, and all animals great and small. . .I guess that is where I got that from, ha!ha!
Though you never met him, you would have enjoyed being in his company.

Thanks for listening to me my friends here.

In giving advice seek to help, not please your friend
SOLON

[Serenity]

{{{{darkeyes}}}}}} I'm glad you posted this....and how appropriate on a day to give thanks for the things we are thankful for. He sounds like a wonderful man, DE.
I am verymuch a Daddy's Girl and I will always be. I cannot be with him this year and I miss him. He was diagnosed with PSP(a rare terminal disease with no cure and insufficient treatments) Even though I think of him every day...your post reminded me midst my stresses today t onever forget and be thankful, so thank you.
I hope your Holiday is filled with family and love and be thankful for the wonderful memories he gave you
Happy Thanksgiving Darkeyes

[heatherm]

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My thoughts and prayers are with you today and everyday hun. May you remember the happy times you and your Dad shared. I lost my Dad in 1985 and there still isn't a day that I don't think of him either. There is always a special bond between a father and his daughter. He is our first love and forever in our hearts.

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Heather

"In three words I can sum up everything I've learned about life - it goes on."
~~Robert Frost

[Fuzzybear]

Darkeyes, you are in my thoughts every day, and especially today. Thank you for posting this,

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Much love,
Fuzzy

[deepthinker]

It has already been one year? Do you remember when your daddy left this world D.E and you thought you would never cope and be able to move on? It pleases me to see you still standing here and ever so strong sweetie.
Miss you and shall keep your dad in my thoughts for today.
Love Deep xx
*snuggle hugglez*

It all depends on how we look at things, and not how they are in themselves. C.G Jung

[darkeyes]

Thanks to all of you, you all are very much the reason for my continued strength, don't know if that is the right term for it, but you have all been a shoulder, an ear or just here for me, and that is priceless. I hope I can always provide you too with comfort, never be afraid to call upon me, please.
Yesterday, was the first day I had returned to dad's gravesite, for it had not been made "finished" until Oct., the veteran's plate was mounted with his name (marker) much later than it should have been and I also feel the cemetary is either understaffed or downright lazy, cause I know it doesn't take that long especially when the cemetary had recieved the finished plate/marker from the vets.admin back in February, plus it being a cemetary that does not allow above ground monuments this labor was that much easier and less time consuming, ah, whatever, it was at least decent now to see his name in bronze rather than this cardboard fish market aluminium stake in the ground, fallen on it's side
I placed a beautiful evergreen with pinecones grave blanket
with burgundy bow there in respect for dad.
The weather was beautiful, but yet bittersweet, alongside dad were other relatives, my grandfather (mom's stepdad), uncles,aunts and some cousins, it was sad but comforting to know they are all together and in a "special way" have never really left us and will be in our hearts and memories forever.

Thanks again y'all for listening to me, you are very special to me, more than you'll ever know.

In giving advice seek to help, not please your friend
SOLON

[heatherm]

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What a comforting gesture you made with the evergreen for your Dad. I am glad you are doing ok hun....it is hard and I admire your strength. You are in my thoughts.


Heather

"In three words I can sum up everything I've learned about life - it goes on."
~~Robert Frost

[bptoo]

Dear darkeyes,

What a wonderful way to remember your Dad. He is beaming with pride at the way you have carried on with your life, I can assure you of that. He sees the daily trials and tribulations you face with great strength, and says "That's my girl". You've done right by your Father's memory, I hope you never doubt that. I hope that if I'm ever faced with a tragedy like this, that I can face it with the strength and grace that you have.

Knowing what you deal with everyday of your life, and manage to survive, I can say this most truthfully, you are my hero.

All my love to you,
bp

"Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away."

[darkeyes]

Beep,
Thanks so much, that is the nicest thing anyone has ever said to me, really
BTW do you know any military stuff? On dad's plate next to WWII veteran it said TEC 5, does that have to do with a division? He was in the Army and stationed several places including the Phillipines.
Anyone out there know what TEC 5 means?

Beep, thanks so much for your support and kind words, gosh, the way I am feeling I needed that about now

Love,
DE

In giving advice seek to help, not please your friend
SOLON

[Rapunzel]

DE,

I wasn't here a year ago, but thanks for sharing your memories with us. I hope you are enjoying the good memories. Your love for your dad shows when you talk about him.

Was he in the Army Air Corp? My husband says it's a guess, but TEC 5 could refer to his rank.

Hugs,
Wendy

<font color=green>"Loneliness does not come from having no people about one, but from being unable to communicate the things that seem important to oneself, or from holding certain views which others find inadmissible" Carl Jung</font color=green>

[soscared]

Hi Darkeyes
That was SO nice to see your post for your Father,
He sounds like the kind of Dad anyone would want to have, and he's lucky to have had you for his Daughter.
What you did at the Grave Site was beautiful and I'm sure he is looking down on you whith PRIDE.
I know I would be if I were him.

[Serenity]

TEC 5 has to do with rank and pay grade...he was prolly around a Sargeant or Staff Sargeant grade God Bless
Jennifer

[valbends]

i'm sorry for completely ruining this post, but it made me sad.. lately i realized, well i've always been a daddy's little girl and i lost my dad over two years ago. anyways... lately i realized that i was not as much of a daddys little girl as i thought... i realized that we rarely did anything together that i didn't go running to him when things were wrong, and that i really never appreciated all that he was... he was the one that felt like he should be gone, but i realize he was the one who kept things together and everything... i mean i know that no one in my family really ever did what we should have or how we should have but he really kept things oin orfder for the most part... i just miss him and wish he had been stronger, but i guess he is gone for a reason... and it IS what he wanted.. i just feel like, i dont know, like he did so much, but yet i did so little, and like i dont know like things are just weird.... i just cant dsescribe it... i'm gonna go hide now

Through each others weaknesses we find comfort.

[darkeyes]

Val, we are not perfect and I do not think anyone ever really knows the right things to do during a time of losing a loved one, but if you felt you were "ruining" this post you had the option to DELETE your post/reply which I WISH YOU WOULD, just go to "edit". Otherwise I am sorry to say this but I kind of feel that was your intention, by you having that ability to recognize the possiblity in the manner your started your reply.. This post in memory of my dad was just that, not to bring anyone down and sad.
To have someone part of your life for 46 years and loved them I personally feel a public memorial is due that is all, and I felt it being a year since his death I wanted to express this, not looking for any great attention or sympathy, just a time for dad.
So again if you felt you ruined this post and obviously you did or you wouldn't have stated your first sentence with that statement, you can still DELETE it if you wish, maybe it would be a good idea to start one of your own about your feelings, it just may be a good idea to anyway, to help you get away from something that caused you sadness while keeping this original post more of a memorial post to honour my dad as it was intended.
Sorry, this was a sensitive moment and was a memorial meant for Edward J. Ohland, my dad.
I'd like to suggest if you wish to do a memorial for your dad, please do it as a seperate post from mine, it may help you keep yours more personal while at the same time construct from your heart of things you want to say about your dad, I do not mean any malice, just respect for my dad and his time of death. Hope you are able to understand this.

In giving advice seek to help, not please your friend
SOLON

[inthedark]

I know that the memories of losing someone so close will keep them in our hearts forever. Thank you for this post. I know the feeling of missing someone dearly.
I lost one of the closest people on earth to me(and the closest thing to a father that I will ever have) almost 8 years ago. Sometimes when I am really stressed out I dream about him. I think about those dreams, and to me, I feel that is his way of letting me know that he is looking out for me. The first year is always the hardest. Your father sounds like he was a wonderful person.
Take care
Inthedark

[Fuzzybear]

I think bp was spot on with his reply (as usual!). Thinking of you de,

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Love,
Fuzzy