[ADDithers]

I wonder... I have been impulsive all my life... I can look back and see big and small decisions I made were without any fore thought at all... and, consequently, I misjudged the consequences or cost of most of these decisions; my life is littered with unfinished projects. Fortunately I didn't lose every time... even a broken clock is right twice a day so today I am not destitude, but I am trying to get a 'game plan'.

I guess I need to also say that in life, I took big risks; I won big, and I lost big, but I didn't go bankrupt, except.... now I am burnt out & have swung to the other side of the spectrum, and cannot make any decisions at all - that is, besides brewing a good cuppa coffee. I sit and veto every idea I have; it all costs money, which I don't want to spend (not wanting to throw good money after bad). I am too indecisive to even go anywhere.

am I alone?

helloooooooo out there!

[shazza]

Hi, No you are not alone, as i can relate to what you have said.
Now,i do my best to manage my impulisive behaviour, i do have B.P.D and other issues to manage as well, but its not easy. At the moment i have become stuck in life again , i have no friends, i rarely go out by myself.
I do see a therapist and i am glad i have found this site,as i can only realy talk to my therapist and i check out this site every now then.
As far as making decisions, i try to set goals for myself, but most often, i usualy talk myself out of what ever my intentions were.
And, yes sometimes, i feel like saying.... Hello , is anybody out there. Wish you the very best.

[ADDithers]

Thanks for your response. Me, I quit setting goals - because I don't want to commit to anything, I have lost all my motivation, I want as little as possible on my plate. Even the last Christmas season with family - even though I love them all, the biggest hi light for me was when everyone left & it was all over lol

As for friends, I have a few, but can't bear being with any of them for very long. I do admire people who have lots of friends, but I am not willing to expend the energy to develop friendships.

I do believe though what keeps me from depression is, I've learned to get pleasure out of little things.- & I always realize things could be worse - so I'm thankful I'm not sitting in a prison cell like Bernie Madoff !

[Umbral_Seraph]

Well, I'm quite the opposite, not impulsive at all. I do, however, have an extremely difficult time with making decisions since with many things I just don't care. A lack of motivation to do anything has made alot of my life more difficult than it should. That's not to say I don't spin odd and elaborate ideas around my head.

[ADDithers]

Originally Posted by Umbral_Seraph

That's not to say I don't spin odd and elaborate ideas around my head.

No lack of dreams here. I just cannot judge what is reasonable (doable) and what is unreasonable - so I sit & do nothing. I am so weary of starting to do something & then in the middle of it saying, 'what is the world was I thinking?' The devil is in the details

[ADDithers]

Originally Posted by ADDithers

No lack of dreams here. I just cannot judge what is reasonable (doable) and what is unreasonable - so I sit & do nothing. I am so weary of starting to do something & then in the middle of it saying, 'what is the world was I thinking?' The devil is in the details

I list something on Craigslist then never answer the phone cuz I've changed my mind about selling it

I dream about travel but cannot put anything into action -

I have projects around the house I cannot get started on - there are so many loose strings I just say forget it

[Umbral_Seraph]

I wouldn't say that all of those ideas are unreasonable. We're simply ahead of our time.

Indecision has hurt me a lot.

I look back on a lot of wasted days, months, years. What I have wanted to do is go back to school and study something, anything. I put this off saying I need to get a job, except I haven't gotten myself a job at all. In the time that I have been unemployed I could have easily at least done a course of some kind and learned something and improved my employment outlook.

I look back on the last four years and I could have even done a university course and I would not be any further back financially than I am right now.

So in that sense, I feel the last four years of my life is potentially wasted, and I owe it to indecision.

[ADDithers]

Originally Posted by Illegal Toilet

Indecision has hurt me a lot.

I look back on a lot of wasted days, months, years. What I have wanted to do is go back to school and study something, anything. I put this off saying I need to get a job, except I haven't gotten myself a job at all. In the time that I have been unemployed I could have easily at least done a course of some kind and learned something and improved my employment outlook.

I look back on the last four years and I could have even done a university course and I would not be any further back financially than I am right now.

So in that sense, I feel the last four years of my life is potentially wasted, and I owe it to indecision.

When it was time for me to prepare for my career & get an education (40 years ago) instead I took the advice of Timothy Leary & tuned in, turned on & dropped out. Consequently I ended up working twice as hard for half as much - self employed entrepreneur.

I know there are people that have gotten an education & still cannot get a job, but my advice is, if you think things are tough with an education, you're really fighting the odds without education.