[bebop]

I tell you what! I was just in chat and a newbie was there. rude comments being made and newbie left. what is this place coming to? geesh the comments made were about bad breath and boogers...how adult is that?

[(JD)]

Sorry to hear this, I had to leave (just prior to this?) because the tension in the chat room was too high for me.

TC (((bebop))))

And to the newbie (((((hugs)))) come back, PC is really a great place.... just once in a while a member is overwhelmed... ???

[mlyn]

There was more than that being talked about. Depends on what you pick up on.

[LMo]

if there is bad behavior in Chat, please save a copy of the transcript and PM it to one of the moderators.

I agree with Mlyn, it depends what you pick up on. I think many people go to chat to forget about their problems, and just have fun. I see nothing wrong with that, as long as it is not hurtful or slanderous towards anyone. I have been in chat before where things got a little too wacky for me and I had to leave the room because I couldn't relate and I didn't feel like talking about a problem I was having because of the mood of the room being too overtaken by juvenile behavior, and the fact that no one seemed to care or want to listen to what I had to say. Other times, I have found great comfort and support. I guess it depends on the chat. I think it's fine to be silly now and then, but when people come in needing helpful advice or just someone to listen, others should be respectful. After all, that is what chat is for. I have witnessed many more disgusting things being talked about other than bad breath and boogers! And this isn't the first time juvenile behavior, as Bebop put it, has occurred. I personally apologize if I"ve ever offended anyone by getting caught up in acting silly. I just want to be supportive of others, as I hope they will be towards me.

[SleepsWithButterFlies]

I was not there but I AM a fan of silly as long as its not while someone is osting in distress...I don't know if this was the case or not but silly does have its place..I think many of us NEED more silly and not to take everything soooo seriously

After thinking about this situation I have to say that the whole thing (as far as this one chat session) was silly, it was not a big deal, no one was being rude, the silliness was playful and there were numerous topics discussed. Humor is a part of being well and if we don't at least have that, then what are we even here for.Of course discretion should be used and rules for this chat should be followed, but occasional silliness (as long as no one is being ignored that needs help) is essential and is part of being human. I try not to take everything so seriously or else I would really be in a bad place.

[bebop]

I agree being silly is ok...just I found it offensive the things being said. I am no prude and I do enjoy having fun. but my concern was/is a newbie was in the room and those are the ones we have to think about sometimes more than having fun.

[SeptemberMorn]

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I found this to be VERY true yesterday when I ventured in. I don't mind conversations about buggers but I do mind it when I'm blatantly IGNORED! My entrance into the room wasn't even acknowledged!

Out of SIX people, Bethy is the only one that didn't ignore me.

[bebop]

(((tomi))) I hate when that happens. I haven't really been around in awhile but it just seems the caring is going out the window. I miss you guys

I agree, there is a time and place for everything. First priority should be supporting one another and listening, as well as sharing. Hope to see you again in chat, Bebop.

[SeptemberMorn]

{{{{{{{Bebop}}}}}}}} We'll just have to have a reunion of us "old timers" in Social Chat sometime!

[SeptemberMorn]

Anyone that goes into chat expects, at the very least, to be acknowledged even if they don't need help as such.

Yes, silliness is needed and is welcomed, but not to the exclusion of those that come in, in the middle of the conversation. Someone may be feeling a little down or lonely and nothing highlights that low mood or loneliness when they aren't even acknowledged when they come in... especially when they speak to group in general repeatedly and no one answers!

Bottom line, it's a matter of good manners to at the very least acknowledge a person and not ignore them completely! The chat wasn't that busy or that fast that all of who were there couldn't have looked a wee bit farther than their nose! To me, that was RUDE!

[bebop]

Tomi thank you for those words!! and yes a reunion is in order!!

[(JD)]

A REUNION YAY!! Maybe right before the Tuesday chat??? We could all kind go over the written and unwritten "rules of chat."

Whadyathink?

I rarely go into the chat because I often feel ignored. It seems that the social chat is a bit cliquish. could be me though, but i had to point out my experience too.

[SleepsWithButterFlies]

I never go there but I think its just a case of common sense...and being kind its really that simple

[lenjan]

Not only is social chat a bit cliquish, I once got kicked out of support chat when I needed support bigtime, because the two people in the room wanted it to themselves.

No chat for me, thanks.

[PetulantWolf]

Yikes! I wasn't there but I can be a goofball. Some of are medicated and I know when I get anxious I start talking and its difficult toshut me up...A little ADHDish too.
ANYWAY, if Im ever ignoring someone who would like support please say so- I often dont pick up subtleties. I'm blunt and I need someone to be the same way...
In chat you dont get a lot of the cues as in person,:body language, tone of voice etc and things get misunderstood . Gee I wish I knew who the booger person was, LOL...
If you need an ear PM me...Ill do my best. Many of you had been there for me...HUgs

[(JD)]

Hmmm.. while we're at it then.... IMO it's also rude behavior to come into chat high on drugs (including alcohol) when you are being abnoxious. It's a problem trying to tell someone they aren't making sense or maybe need to not be in chat... because noone wants to be rude themselves, and it is a chat for everyone.

I don't think anyone minds what state any of us are in if we are able to maintain civility... "high" or not... you know? able to keep rules like not hog the chat, say things that don't ever relate to the ongoing chat etc.

I like it that we members are able to go into the social chat room, away from the ENTRY to chat room (Psych Central chat room) ... so silliness is more accepted.

[PetulantWolf]

Im having trouble getting my meds adjusted...its not like I go out drinking and come home and chat....When I first take paxil it makes me high....

[bebop]

personally I don't like cliques. If I am in a room and others come in that is perfectly fine with me...if I wanted a private chat I would make a private room. If I have ever been uncaring to anyone please let me know and I will try my best to fix it. I don't like to be around uncaring people. I spent my childhood with that and even now some of my relatives are like that so I have nothing to do with them.

sky I think your idea is a good one. meet before doc time.

[PetulantWolf]

And I think its safe to assume we all have issues...if you dont speak up how is someone supposed to know....if you say it in a nice way you can help them be more appropriate....easier said then done but still a possibility...rather then condeming them...

[(JD)]

That's exactly it.... care.

(((justsignmeupalready )) that wasn't directed at you nor anyone in particular... and it is fine to come to chat with meds on board... most nearly all of us members here do....and many times we have a problem with the meds. I think we all can deal with that in chat, imo.

but.. sometimes ppl take meds and drink and become unruly almost seemingly "on purpose" and it's evokes the same feelings as someone who threatens ... helplessness and frustration.... that's what I mean.

[Rebound]

Sheesh. Same ol' same ol'. It didn't take long to be reminded of why I stopped coming here. Well, nice seeing you all again, I guess.