How Do You Move On?

It's the weekend. I'm bored and lonely and alone. And when that happens I start to think about a trauma I went through in August of 2011. I feel angry, hateful, hurt, sad, in pain, ashamed, regretful. There was a good period of time where I didn't think about it much. It felt like progress. Maybe this is just part of the process. How do you get over something? How do you forgive and forget, and walk away? How do you let go, forever? Is it possible?

It's so cliche to say time heals all wounds but it does. I suffered greatly years ago when I thought this life wasn't worth living. But I survived. And even though I am lost right now, I pass the days and nights by talking to my peers, making friends and trying to enjoy what life has to offer. Sometimes I don't know how I made it through but I did.

Try to live in the now. Get up. Move around. Go outside. Breathe some fresh air. Keep posting here too, it will free your mind and help you explore outside yourself.

Chin up my friend!

Im going thru a different situation but dealing with the exact same feelings. I have had periods of reprieve where I thought things were passing and i felt better but then it comes up all over again and i feel like im back pedaling. I guess everything is a process, I dont understand it and i get frustrated and mad at myself. I want it to go AWAY. A therapist and good friends help me out.

Well, I'm not sure that we ever really can move on - as in forgetting it ever happened. Because it did.

We can certainly learn to move with it, better incorporate it in a healthy way into who we are. Trauma has the potential to change us. It's take awhile to get used to the new us.

It's sad, but it doesn't necessarily have to be a bad thing, this change.

Weekends are hard. Lonely times are hard.
Maybe your mind goes to the trauma because you are thinking of moving on, but the memory of the trauma is scaring you and keeping you from being able to do that. Then it can escalate because now it's causing more trauma in the here-and-now.

I think we move on by creating new experiences. Then we have new memories for our minds to visit But that isn't easy, especially when we feel frightened of the new experiences.

Perhaps you could choose something you like to do, and do that when your mind begins to re-visit the trauma experience. A diversion, yes, and a new memory created. It can be a hobby you enjoy at home, a short walk, things like that.

Thanks everyone, I really appreciate your advice and support!

Go somewhere there are other people, the library, the gym, start a project that involves other people (join a club/take a class). If you have something to do, you won't get as bored or feel as lonely or alone.

It will always be there but with time you will learn to live with it. I lost someone very close to me a few years back and I thought about that person every single moment of the day for around 17 months... You can do it! Join a gym release some hormones