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((((((((((((( WI )))))))))))))

Hon, stop it. Just stop. You're hurting yourself.

Love and hugs,

Jan

It still does not justify what she did to you. Nothing does. This really wasn't your fault. No matter what you said.

Shirley, your not at fault, without this happening we would not be pulling together , what I wonder is how many ppl she scamed out of money here

{{{{{{{{wi fighter}}}}}}}}}}}

Please don't ever think that what happened was your fault. No one here could have ever predicted that a disagreement on a support board could have caused such a vindictive act. I am sure that at times we have all disagreed with posts that have been made and simply decided to not read anymore, or put a certain poster on ignore. There are remedies in place here to help us out when we have problems with a post/poster. The action taken against you was beyond the realm of understanding.

Instead of beating yourself up, you should be proud that you were strong enough to fight back against this. You have helped to make all of us safer by doing so. The way you have handled what has happened to you has left me in awe. You show a great amount of class. Thank you.

wi honey if it were not you it would have been anyone else in this place that she got angry with for whatever reason. it is the kind of person she is. please don't blame yourself for that. it was her not you!!

Thank you everyone.

I think the thread has sort of veered away from the original topic though, hasn't it?

Hang in there Wi...You are going to make it through all of this.
We will all come out stronger and safer then before it happened.
I am still all shook up...
But You cannot blame yourself for another's actions.
Amen!

Well, Ive been gone a few days and while I knew about the W_I problem Im shocked at what Ive read now. I dont know what to say except that it seems like the worse thing all round has happened.

Its made me sad and totally confused about this site.

atg

I'm still shook up too, even though I sound like I'm not. Can't show any anger, you know, might transfer to the dog.

I could understand if I'd posted my full name, address, phone number, website to a satellite picture of my neighborhood, and full medical records in here, but I didn't.

I was happy about something, and sharing my happiness with others, who were also enjoying the happiness. It's like I'm not supposed to have something happy happen? I know that's not true, but that's my first, brief thought when I start to think about this.

Who in all of their internet safety vigilance would think that it could be dangerous to post a dog's picture and website link that describes her? I think it's a given that you don't give out info about your kids and your exact location, but something like this? And for someone to file that in their brain and go to a friend, remember which thread, find the exact post, and contact a person who could take something away, and give me something that I didn't want or need - a feeling of physical harm - just baffles me.

I'm only glad that it was something like this instead of a different person losing something that would drastically alter their quality of life.

Just want to clarify the physical harm comment. Yes, I feel like I was physically violated, not bodily, but in my brain and my heart. I sat here after hanging up the phone on Saturday and it felt like my brain was getting stabbed with an ice pick and an icy hand was ripping out my heart. My chest felt crushed and I couldn't breathe. And all I could say over and over was WHY? WHY? WHYYYYYYYYYYY?

Honey, your quality of life has been altered.

I know it is normal to want to take this on yourself -- I would be doing the same thing -- but PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE know this is not your fault. Not in the slightest, teeny-tiny bit. You were a VICTIM of a pathological person. You did NOTHING to earn what has been done to you.

Every button I have has been pushed on your behalf. Please let me know if there is anything I can do to help. When I can't make myself feel better, I like to try to help others do so, if I can.

Love, Candy

Yes, it was one member against another, but let's not forget that the ANIMAL AGENCY, which is NOT a member, is the one that came on and read the posts and on top of that, reacted stupidly!

If this was a Members Only forum, the animal agency couldn't have come on site and read.

Shirley, you weren't the only one that upset her on that thread!! You were just the unlucky one she picked on! If it hadn't been you, it would have been someone else. She was acting weird after her supposed surgery, anyway.

Shirley, she said a friend at McDonald's GAVE her the food! She probably conned them out of it like she conned us! It wasn't YOU.

You know what this situation kind of reminds me of - When I blasted the abuse that I was under by going public. The abusers threatened everything on earth and even those that were not involved rallied against me (no this part does not remind me of it but what happened next does)

When I went public I felt like I was to blame for all the fighting and so on. my head went through all kinds of what ifs and I should haves. But the bottom line was it was the abusers that did wrong. I come from a very large family but only a select few were abused. I tried to locate why the abuser got me what I do and so on. the truth was that it could have been any one of the family members or others outside the family that got hurt. I just happened to be the one that was the abusers release. Kind of like those of us that are self injurers we have our preferences of releases but when push comes to shove and that immediate release of retailiating against ourselves is needed we use what we have access to.

Nothing I did warrented my being abused. It was the abusers choice. sure when I blew the lid off of the abuse by exposing the situation and for a bit everyone was in an uproar - some against me and didn't believe me and others for me and my going public helped them to stand up for themselves, end their abuse being perpetrating on them and for as many family members that were against me there were just as many that my abuser got to.

My going public caused quite a stir but so many people were helped and because the abuse was out in the open everyone learned how to take care of themselves and that abuser could no longer find his victims so easily.

You did a wonderful thing her wi_fighter. You exposed an abuser. not only did you protect yourself from further abuse but the perpetrator can no longer abuse you, and cannot find her victims here.

Also for many of us here this is not our only on line therapy or support group. You know what that means - If this person is a member of any of those other communities thanks to you and your bravery we will be able to recognize the situation should she attempt to do the same there and know how to prevent her from making us her victims there too. Girl now all over the web you will probably be seeing posts saying hey guess what we had a situation on one of my on line support groups with out names this is what happened and this is how to not fall prey to this type of persons evil claws.

your bravery of exposing an abusers is saving not only the 9000 plus members here but will save millions around the world.


wi_fighter

Thank you so much for keeping this sight safe and abuse free.

I was wondering the same thing... That would be a double whammmy if she took money and she didn't need it...

Gosh, now I am wondering if she can get back on Psych Central to just read... Maybe it would be a good idea to have to register here before anyone can read the posts here...

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OK everyone, let's try to calm down a bit so this thread doesn't get locked or removed.

Breathe in, breathe out, ohhhhhhhhhm, ohhhhhhhhhhm

I was afraid someone would take it the wrong way!!

Yes I agree, but the other side of me says boy maybe she is making a list of all the folks that are saying things about her and just waiting for a chance to strike again.......Gosh, is that a sign of becoming paranoid or what??? Goes back to my corner .. lol

this is in no way an "eye for an eye" situation......

I prefer this one myself.

Unguard Wi...