my monkey mind

Silencing The Chatter
Taming Monkey Mind In Meditation

It's been called the monkey mind - the endless chattering in your head as you jump in your mind from thought to thought while you daydream, analyze your relationships, or worry over the future. Eventually, you start to feel like your thoughts are spinning in circles and you're left totally confused......(there's more to the article about meditation..but it is very lengthly)

I've been experiencing "the monkey mind" lately. I'm having a personal crisis and it really does cause a lot of endless chattering in my head. I am sure that it has been affecting my sleep patterns, fatigue and my appetite. I have come to the conclusion that I have to take control of the chatter.

I will not let what is going on with me define me as a person. I am no longer going to worry about other's reactions. I am going to address my responses as each change occurs and then detach from it and move on. I'm not going to whine and I am not going to *****. There are situations, in all of our lives, that involve change and questions.....I have to access and decide which changes and questions that I can or cannot deal with. Sometimes, I'll have to make adjustments in my ideas of what I can do and what I can do. The trivial stuff is going to have to fall by the wayside.

I've had two good counseling sessions with two different women. I know what I have to do. I am moving and I think that is going to help. No geographical cures but I think it will help a lot.

There are no magical "cures" for any of our problems. Whether we are dealing with our children, our pets or something that is really serious. I'm sucking it up and I thank you for your caring and your listening abilities. Having an online family really, really rocks! But not more than Van Morrison, Charles Barkley, William Hurt, Harry Dean Stanton, J.J. Cale, Willie and Waylon, All My Children , having my own darkroom again, (at last)coconut cream pie, (during crisis management)becoming a bonafide Texan and going back to my "hippy/willie/ways".......

Just kidding about the rocking!! xoxo Pat

I am attempting to replace the subwoofer in my car...but unless I change the amplifier, I will only blow the speaker again, due to "rockin!" I understand!!!

All those cliche's 'one day at a time' 'baby steps' etc..

IMO moving = or any big change = can mean, if nothing else, a notice to the brain that we're starting over with a clean slate! TC (((fayerordy)))

OK, guess I'll shut up about the dog.

There's a time and a place for everything, Shirley. You don't have to shut up about the dog completely.

Pat that's some great posting! Give me a few to digest it, think about my "monkey mind", and apply it to myself. I KNOW there's something in that for me.

you don't have to shut up about the dog...if you need support, people will give it.

that was about my pets...my cat, mikee, didn't come in last night and i freaked out.....i finally found him in the backyard with a baby bird that he had killed and was guarding! i freaked again. i spanked him and brought him inside. he had sneaked out when i came home for lunch.( then i laid in bed and felt enormous guilt for the baby and the parents. i couldn't sleep. no doubt rest is more important to me right now. i have to detach, from stuff, and work or clean or pack.)

i have to quit freaking about those pet things and deal with them. mikee no longer goes outside til the baby birds have flown. there are four nests in my backyard of mockingbirds. i can't deal with the pet hair in the house. instead of freaking out about them...... i secured the pet yard and they are now staying out there.......it's just pet things. it isn't what is defining me as a person.

i'm saying what i am going to do and am doing. that's what the thread is about. "the monkey mind"........http://www.dailyom.com/cgi-bin/browse/browse.cgi

i want to emphasize that i created this thread to talk, with PCers, about where i'm at and i thought it might help others to define their spots also. (like tomi....)i'm always grateful for any "nuggets" that someone gives me.

when i feel that the time is appropriate, i'll share what is going on with me. now is not the time.

this thread is not about anyone else asking for support for their problems. i fully support asking and getting!! xoxox pat

Hey Pat, I ain't no carpenter, I don't want to be a social worker anymore so where am I? Exploring. I hung a door for my son's room from the building recycling place. Took down the old one and threw out the molding etc. The rest of the upstairs has simple trim and that stuff was beat so I went and got my simple pine today and wowee what an adventure. I wasn't careful enough and didn't think enough ahead. I made the two side trims too long and already had them nailed up and then realized it wasn't going to fix the gap at the top when I put the top board on. Well, off to the store to buy a few more supplies and alast it has a trimmed door. Rough but done. I am going to paint it though to cover the boo boos. Got oops paint for a dollar so I guess I can deal with that.

Anyway, there is so much I want to do. Now I am resting my very sore back and waiting till I feel well enough to go paint it. The kids are coming back tomorrow so... I wish I could hang out with a carpenter and learnb stuff and not have to do things that hurt my back.

Today I am the handy man/wo who isn't so handy but...got the job done.

Take care Pat, I like where you are going with your thoughts and what you need for you. Be well.

Wow. What an awesome post!

Hugs,

Jan

WW....way to go on the handywork! that is a sure way to shut the monkey up!!!

i'm impressed. doors are really hard.........patching sheetrock ain't all that much fun either...........get your rest...........p

Thanks Pat, I hate patching with a passion but not as bad as enamel paint which I got accidently. At least it's a nice color! Be well.