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Sep 12, 2012, 10:08 PM
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I've been training the past two weeks to work as an elementary school as a health and nutrition mentor. It's been triggering a fear in me that I haven't felt since I was a little kid and I've been remembering things I did wrong and things kids said. We did an exercise today to line up as to whether you identify as a victim or a bully, and I was at the extreme end of the victim and I realized that all of my fears of not being good enough, failing, letting people down, and my fears of screwing up my teaching position all stems to bullying that has been going on from elementary to high school. I want to give my everything to these kids, but I'm worried that my fairs will cause me to screw up and not have the right amount of energy or doing the activities wrong or having the kids think I'm a terrible tutor.
I am currently therapist-less until end of September/October as I will be getting a new temporary therapist. I'm worried I'm not going in the right direction, but my mom's telling me I'm doing great and that she's proud of me. Not sure if this is a rant, but how do I get over my fears and being unsure of myself? |
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Sep 12, 2012, 11:18 PM
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Hi there, I am a 2nd grade teacher and had to overcome a lot of fears and insecurities on my path to becoming a teacher... Are you naturally good at working with kids? I assume yes, it sounds like it! I learned to separate it a bit over time. Meaning I am able to leave my personal feelings about things at the door when I work with kids. I'm not sure how to explain it better than that... It took time to do that, and I'm not sure if that makes sense.
As for how to get over your fears and gain confidence? I think it's just getting in there and doing the work. If you are good at it, and I trust you are, then it will come to you. And working through the bullying issues once you get back into therapy will help too. I don't know if any of that is helpful... But, since I'm a teacher I'd love to talk about it more sometime as you get in there and start working! If you ever want to PM me I'd love to hear how it is going for you!  Good luck. I hope it goes well for you!
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#3
Sep 13, 2012, 12:14 AM
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Bullying can lead to rejecting oneself. I learned that the hard way.
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Sep 13, 2012, 10:12 AM
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Yeah bullying can effect ones mental health...I myself don't think I could be any kind of teacher, being in a classroom full of kids would be too triggering. I also have another traumatic experience related to 'school' so yeah even college wasn't something I could handle.
I wish I could be of more help, but I really don't know how to overcome it. |
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Sep 13, 2012, 09:57 PM
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I don't know how to get over the fear but I truly think that if you use what you learned as a victim to and how it felt to be a victim to help those kids maybe you can turn it around. Maybe you can use what you know as a tool to recognize bullies and stop other kids from hurting as you did then and do now and in doing so you might hopefully minimize the fear. Your new therapist will help you with that as well. Good Luck
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Sep 13, 2012, 10:52 PM
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Elementary school aged kids love their teachers. Just relax and have fun. They will respond in return. Your experiences as a child will provide you the empathy needed to understand those children that are also subjected to harassment, and it will be a powerful thing for you to "confront" (within reason) any bullying issues that you see in your class. I think you might find that this experience turns into one that will help in your own healing. Go get 'em, Mr. Skipper!
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Sep 15, 2012, 12:13 AM
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I ain't no Mr! I'm a Dr!
 I have a very special quality of empathy, and I am very in tune to how others feel. I tend to take it very personally when others respond negatively if something is not going right or as planned, and I am worried the kids won't like me (because kids tend to have favorites). |
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Sep 15, 2012, 01:45 PM
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That special quality of empathy will come in handy, I have that too. Kids really pick up on that. I also take things personally, but not so much with kids as I do with adults. I hope you find that too. And in my experience kids like people who love them. If you are kind and have fun with them they will love you! That's my experience at least I'd love to know how things are going once you get started.
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dailyhealing "Although the world is full of suffering, it is also full of the overcoming of it." - Helen Keller Strange how people who suffer together have stronger connections than those who are most content. –Bob Dylan “If you can't fly then run, if you can't run then walk, if you can't walk then crawl, but whatever you do you have to keep moving forward.” Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.
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