Excessive Bragging

Hi All,

I have one "friend", who I limit my exposure to because of her bragging. Also either her life is about ready to totally fall apart, or she has just been sent a blessing directly from God and she is now walking on clouds. Well today I picked up her call, hoping for an interesting conversation (her life is pretty interesting), and by the time I got off the phone, I felt like I had been run over by a Mack truck!!!!! If anyone can find a smiley that has been flattened, that is what I feel like. Anyway, I told her I didn't want to hear any price tags about three times, but she went on and on with price tags, like $285,000 anyway. She also can talk non-stop -- making it impossible to interject.

That's the last thing I needed to hear today, when our budget looks like a battered and torn flag. I wish my husband would go back to work.

Any feedback?

Thanks for listening guys.

EJ (flattened by truck, waving a white flag for some
relief from this bragging friend. Not answering any
more of her calls for awhile -- not safe for my
self esteem)

I'm sorry she does that to you. Some people are all about money, and put their worth in it. Our society helps promote that view. You might try telling her, "If you mention price tags (or whatever else might be bothering you that she talks about) one more time, I will hang up," and actually do it, if she does.

I know of a perfect Smiley ... Rhapsody posted it on another thread ( for you) of which I cannot remember right now.

Yes, it would be very safe not to answer her calls for awhile.

Some people delight in rubbing other peoples noses into the ground. Look in the mirror, you are doing great and it is all relative. I am sorry for the stress.

there is nothing worse than having to listen to people going on about the cost of things and how much money they have. Its not a polite topic of conversation

Maven,

Thanks for your response. I thought in retrospect, I should have hung up. I did send her an e-mail after our call to say not to call if she wants to brag about money.

EJ

Thanks Sabrina, Wisewoman and All the Girls, for your wise responses.

My mother brought me up not to talk about money. We grew up in an area of the world, where there was a LOT of old money. My mother always said that if you talk about money, it tells people you just got it, or never had it before.

Thanks for your encouragement.

I can't believe how run over I feel. I feel like a turtle in the road that had a huge truck straddle it, and I'm feeling like "What was that?" -- lol.

Between the crazy ex-military woman at work, and this particular "friend", I need a vacation -- lol!!

EJ

That one maybe?

People like that are mean and self-centred. I'm sorry that you had to hear all of that and deal with her.

Some people just don't get that their words can hurt, and some just don't care.

*hugs*

She must be my bf's sister! He does that incessantly! Drives me freakin crazy!!!! And it also invalidates me and makes me feel like poo poo!

Thanks, Canders, for understanding.

Yes, Lexi, I felt totally invalidated. It's like she ran through with a GIANT INVALID stamp, which she mashed me with, and ran out.

I WILL NOT pick up a call from her again for a long, long time.

EJ

Hi EJ, sounds like a good move to me, sounds like you are being invalidated all over the place lately. Sorry it's all happening but you are a tough nut. It occurred to me that your computer geek is no different then my old computer geek at my old job. The need for expanding programs, data and usage grew faster then he could and thus we got the attitude. I learned to spend a few minutes talking with him casually whenever possible and then ask questions as needed. Definately and ego thing but I did like the guy.

Howdy EJ

I would suggest setting time limits for your conversations and start the conversation saying that you may have to end it short because you are expecting a visitor or appointment...etc.

Dubz

Stay away from that woman!

Hugs,

Jan

Audrey,

Thanks for your response, her behavior is "plain rude". I can't tell you how many times I've told her that, and she still continues to brag, and act important when she brags. I've been a loyal friend to her, and am more than happy to hear her good news, but not when it is spoken all in the form price tags. She said I wouldn't understand, if she didn't use prices. Now that's an insult to my intelligence. I have been praying for months that her husband would find the right new position.

Thanks for listening and understanding,

EJ

Wisewoman,

Thank you for the tough nut compliment!! I have felt so piled on this week, I hadn't thought about the treatment from the online coordinator as being invalidating, but you're exactly right!!!!

I worked like a dog last semester, my first semester teaching ever, and earned "Excellents" on all the criteria on the student evaluations.

Then I start working with this lady, and she has been communicating with me like I'm some kind of stupid, low life. Oh well, I think I will not need much more contact with her. Thank you, God. Thank you.

Hugs, EJ

Dubz,

I'm not taking another call from her at this point for at least a month. I got too badly burned yesterday.

I will use your strategy if I ever talk to her again.

(((((((Dubz))))))))

EJ

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EJ711 said:
If anyone can find a smiley that has been flattened, that is what I feel like.

EJ (flattened by truck, waving a white flag for some
relief from this bragging friend. Not answering any
more of her calls for awhile -- not safe for my
self esteem)

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maybe one of these?

Jennie -

Those are cute!

Thank you!

EJ

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allthegirls6 said:
there is nothing worse than having to listen to people going on about the cost of things and how much money they have. Its not a polite topic of conversation

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Totally agree - very good point

I don't like people asking me how much I earn, etc.

EJ I hope things get better xx

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EJ711 said:
Thanks Sabrina, Wisewoman and All the Girls, for your wise responses.

My mother brought me up not to talk about money. We grew up in an area of the world, where there was a LOT of old money. My mother always said that if you talk about money, it tells people you just got it, or never had it before.

EJ

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Exactly - very nouveau riche. Tacky.

I think that's all my bf cares about...it's always the topic on his mind!

GRRRR!