[beauflow]

i have been hesitant to post about voids. .. I don't know why-- Voids has been another topic on my mind lately...

Been reading a few things... just thought I would share some..

And not sure where exactly this goes, for me PTSD? Emotions? Better Self Esteem? Other Treatment? So move where it shall be needed.


http://www.ahalmaas.com/Articles/schwartz.htm

" "Everybody around you, wherever you go, is trying to fill holes, and people feel threatened if you don't try to fill yours in the same way. When a person is not trying to fill his holes, it tends to make other people feel their own holes. This occurs because you are going against the current, and the contrast will be felt. You don't go along with many of the things people want to do and like. And that makes people feel uncomfortable."

"We could do meditations, certain exercises, and everybody could feel wonderful things. However, these will not last unless the person actually confronts his deficiencies, his holes, and goes through them. It is not a simple process, nor a short or easy one."

pfft... "simple" my behind.. but still-- some things can be taken from it
http://www.positivecalm.com/filling-...d-inner-peace/

It is good to acknowledge what the missing piece is and actually accept the current situation without attachment or resentment. By acceptance of what is and by being OK with it, we are creating a space for healing to happen.

#3. Filling the void.
You can’t fill the gap between what you have and what you are being and what you want to have and be, by focusing on what is missing. We can fill the void by accepting everything that we currently are and have. By focusing on things that we are able to influence and do in this current moment. By really making everything that we currently treasure in life bigger and more dominant to the point that we can simply forget that what is missing. So to fill the void we have to deliberately focus on all we can find in our life that we like.
Once we can do that, we immediately join the flow of life and our point of attraction changes, this is so important to know my friend.
Once you feel naturally uplifted you will not reach for those harmful substances, which can make your life a misery.

and heck why not another??
http://dosesofhope.wordpress.com/201...illing-a-void/

Whatever your void is, you can’t run away from it forever. It will eventually catch up with you and knock you down.

FILLING THE VOID
Now that you recognize your void and hopefully shared it, the next step is finding healthy ways to fill it. Most people have a void and insecurity in some area of their lives, so be assured you are not alone. When filling your void, be sure to keep balance in mind since even positive activities can become unhealthy and addictive. One of my favorite fillers is exercise, it doesn’t matter what type of exercise, just get active. Fill the void with a hobby, home project, volunteering, or any healthy passion that you have which gives you joy. I find that giving back to the community and serving others in need can be a wonderful void filler.

[pachyderm]

I think filling voids with present-day activities can help some, if not solve everything. Some of these voids you may be able to fill with more understanding of yourself and others in time; some may never be completely filled. That is what I think.

Richard Hell and the Voidoids - "Blank Generation" A great punk rock song from the 1970's.

I belong to the Blank Generation. I can it or leave it each time.

Here's my take. Focus on your strengths and admit your weaknesses (voids) to yourself and, if necessary, to others. Find creative ways to fill the voids but don't focus on them because focusing on your weaknesses (voids) is a way of putting yourself down and can lead to depression.

[beauflow]

((Pachy and {un}Happy Guy))

Thank you for your replies on this. Please know that I overall Do agree with you.

I have just been pondering on weather or not "how i fill those voids" are productive or not; then reading more into Voids on other views- I can honestly say I see both sides of this coin of depression and enlightenment with "being aware of the void"...

I don't want to be too convoluted with my writing, and I will try not to be.

Pachyderm mentions
"filling voids with present-day activities can help some, "

If you would had met me 6 or so years ago, those present day activities were getting high every waking moment on good ol' THC, and planning what to "try out" on the weekend (Try out something much harder than marijuana that is).....
If any one at that time told 20 year old Beauflow she was trying to fill a void with the drugs- it would be a "no" to them verbal, but a inner question she'd been asking herself already at times, and at other times being sideswiped of the whole picture.

This being an example of a counterproductive void filling-- an example of she had thought on certain voids for far too long, leading to belittle herself, leading to depression and an out lit to it all- substance abuse.
Sideswiped from herself, she forgot to see the good in things.

Today a present day activity of a Beauflow is crocheting--
I wonder at time if that is productive with filling voids in some way....
--As in not only am I learning a "trade" and being productive with making something (hopefully useful!) I get to think a lot in a calm manner- let thoughts come and go, think on some and let them pass, some times even make analogies as I crochet with life and the projects......
Even on that note- Some times while crocheting and thinking, i find empty spots with in me (oh why was so upset about (blank)-- due to lack of something with in or from childhood, etc.)-- This is here is where Unhappy Guy's post comes in hand- not to dwell on it, find creative ways....
Present day (as in today) I Tend to see more good things these days too, and I think that the mention of "flow" with one of the articles, does have some influence with that.
Meaning, at some point, even while doing drugs I realized I was doing something negative to myself, and wanted to try a different route to go to fill the void.... Cleaned up, and is living a different type of life style; giving another view-- changing that flow of life to which a Beauflow came from....


but then I wonder as well if some times some of the things that I do, are filling voids but yet counterproductive still (subconsciously) ... I am not (or I think I am not) really materialist but sometimes I do go and buy clothes for "just cuz"- this can make 'oh so happy' some times- but yet... it does not last forever... as the first article mentions along the lines of, we could do things to make us feel better, but the void comes back.
I wonder at times if this here would be a form of "blocking" and filling that void with something but not what it is really needs.

the enlightenment part I think is partially already said here- with admitting the "weakness" to self... just because it may be a weakness, does not mean it has to be a negative thing-- after all- I think i am human, and know humans are not perfect it gives me some light on what perhaps to work on.

**Edit Here** One more thought too is--
and As Pachy has mentioned
"some may never be completely filled"
Perhaps the mere fact of acknowledging that void, accepting it-- even if it can not be filled-- Perhaps even accepting the fact that it can not be filled, perhaps?..... (on some things I think that may be ok, but then again- i question myself a lot)

Though, I think as I get older and growing and understanding more (as Pachy as made sure to say)--- I may understand a bit better (perhaps?).. I don't think this is the end of my thinking on the topic for me 's

[pachyderm]

Originally Posted by beauflow

Today a present day activity of a Beauflow is crocheting--
I wonder at time if that is productive with filling voids in some way....
--As in not only am I learning a "trade" and being productive with making something (hopefully useful!) I get to think a lot in a calm manner- let thoughts come and go, think on some and let them pass, some times even make analogies as I crochet with life and the projects......

Sounds good to me!