I know there are plenty of successful people in the world, and smart people, but it only bothers me that SHE is smart and successful. I look her up on google and read about how she is doing and I feel like ****.

A lot of this has to do because I am the biggest loser i know. I am in my 30s and i live with my parents and I don't even have my own car or any friends. Part of this is due to social phobia, and then there are other anxieties which have affected me but I don't think I would be as good as her even without them.

I would like to stop thinking about her altogether.

Who?

Stop googling her, avoid at all costs, and occupy your mind with other things (how to improve your low self-esteem, for starters). It's the only way. You'll forget eventually.

[Travelinglady]

I don't know why you are obsessed with her, but it's obviously not helping you. I agree with Michael. Try to "erase" her. Don't even look her up on google, etc. Try to think that if things had been different, the two of you wouldn't even like each other anyway.

[gillgirl]

Whoever she is doesn't matter anymore. I agree "erase" her, just say no to Google. It is time to focus on you right here, right now. If she is not part of your here and now, no matter who she once was, she is not needed to make your life move forward.

Easier said than done, I know. Hugs!

i was just lying down and i realised that the reason I don't see her anymore is probably because she moved to the other side of the country. I googled her last night and her name turned up in another state.

Was she sweet and in her vest? Did she have an addiction? Did she have horrors in her head that her tongue dare not name? Did she get a gun? Was she done with Sergio? Was she famous? Did she run?

[Katieandme]

Everyone telling you to forget about her is easier said than done. I know - been there, done that. It's hard to get out of bed in the morning. But, one day, you are going to wake up and go about your day, and without even realizing it, you're going to feel better. And then the realization is going to hit you that you are not thinking about her anymore - haven't since you woke up and set about your day. But the greatest realization will be knowing that 'she doesn't love you - and that's perfectly okay - because you don't love her either'. You've finally caught up to where she was 2 days, 2 weeks, or 2 months ago, and you're going to feel great, and liberated, and ALIVE again. It's just going to happen. It's something you have no control over. Think I'm making this up? You are not the only person who ever felt this way. Literally trillions of people have felt this way at one time or another since mankind first walked this earth. Someone even put exactly how you are eventually going in an article - 'Upon Realizing You No Longer Love Your Ex' - Google it.

But the best thing you are going to feel is relief. Relief that you didn't do something stupid that you would later regret - whatever that may be - contacting her, bothering her, making an *** of yourself, hurting yourself, whatever. And that's when you are going to start enjoying life again.