[Anonymous32445]

I am constantly questioning my identity, but not depressed by all means. Is it true that people cannot get angry with anybody because they have never stepped out of my comfort zone and stepped into the real world? This is the case with me, but if someone says something to me which is rather negative I interpret as a nasty remark and I end up thinking about it for a long time.

I want to know about everything; I don't think I know anything about anything; for example, History, Politics, Geography, Biology, Physics etc. I'm not quick witted or intelligent and I sometimes wonder if I even have a sense of humour. When I try to talk about humour to people, they never give me the answers I'm looking for.

I wouldn't say I am satisfied with my maths competence; I don't know any basic maths problems and I keep forgetting how this could hold me back in the future. I wouldn't say I'm angry about it but I do think it's something that needs to be addressed.

[Anonymous32445]

I don't know what makes me laugh, I don't know what my tastes are. I don't have any hobbies or talents, I don't do anything with my life. I'm one of the most unluckiest people in the world; people will then say "at least you've got a roof over your head" but that's hardly relevent. What matters is that my life is poor and I need to be part of those who are capable and have a purpose. I'm always making excuses to do things and I lack motivation to start; I can't just randomly start on something completely new such as learning a language in the situation I'm in.

[Anonymous32445]

All in all, anyone who has a good life would not want to be in my shoes right now. The lucky ones in this world have knowledge, a fantastic education, confidence, assertiveness, social skills, wealth, indepedence, engaging in hobbies, etc.. (I'm certainly not one of them)

[Open Eyes]

The "lucky ones" learn to "know thyself" and also "love thyself" first and they don't really need to "have a lot of wealth or other things" to make them happy either. When I say "love thyself" I do not mean in a way that says you are better than everyone else either. Love thyself means to give yourself a chance to learn and thrive in your life and to stop being "hard' on yourself if you can't seem to meet up to everyone else's opinions about "what is a successful life" or "who is more valuable because they have all those things you list". None of us are "perfect" and if we spend our life trying to be that way, we wont have a "life".

(((Hugs)))

[Anonymous32445]

Originally Posted by Open Eyes

The "lucky ones" learn to "know thyself" and also "love thyself" first and they don't really need to "have a lot of wealth or other things" to make them happy either. When I say "love thyself" I do not mean in a way that says you are better than everyone else either. Love thyself means to give yourself a chance to learn and thrive in your life and to stop being "hard' on yourself if you can't seem to meet up to everyone else's opinions about "what is a successful life" or "who is more valuable because they have all those things you list". None of us are "perfect" and if we spend our life trying to be that way, we wont have a "life".

(((Hugs)))

Thank you. I wish I had someone in my life who is like you, I'd turn to them almost immediately.

[Open Eyes]

(((Hugs))),

Oh you are welcome, there actually "are" a lot of "nice" people out there and some very nice members here as well. It is important to come to learn that the very first place to begin is with ourselves really. It is important to also try not to put ourselves down or allow ourselves to feel inadequate if we come across others who seem to have this list you talk about. I have dealt with that all my life and I have found that if I work on myself and just work on learning an improving myself in a way that is forgiving and kind, I always make "gains".

People all grow at different rates, and we are really all unique so it is not being fair to "self" if we keep putting ourselves down because we don't happen to be in what is considered the "flow of success". Most of the people that really gave us "wisdom" were people who were "unique" and took time to "develope their separate understandings of life and human nature".

If we take time to consider our own unique qualities and step back from the "race" of what others try to "keep up with" and we learn to "accept that we are just going to be unique in someway" other people are more willing to want to know us. The reason for that is because we "all" just really want to be "ok" with ourselves and have permission to learn and even make mistakes without feeling bad or unworthy.

Success is more about learning who you are and whatever you do have that you like to do, take pride in it and in yourself while doing it. Life should not be about trying to "measure up" to what "others" think or do, it is finding the "you" that has your own unique gifts.

(((Hugs))))

[Open Eyes]

Also, if I think about "myself", I have always been "interested" in how human beings behave and the whys. I tend to see the things about others that I "like" and I make sure I tell these "others" too. When I do that, it opens up for me "learning" more about that "other" person and in doing that I learn.

Now, here in PC for example, right now in my country we have an election going on.
Well, some of my friends here have a different opinion than I have about who they like and what party they want to "support". Now, just because I may "not" agree with that friend, if we are "good" friends, we just agree to "disagree" and we focus on the other things we "agree about".

Will finish this later gotta go.

[Open Eyes]

“If a man is called to be a street sweeper, he should sweep streets even as Michelangelo painted, or Beethoven composed music, or Shakespeare wrote poetry. He should sweep streets so well that all the hosts of heaven and earth will pause to say, here lived a great street sweeper who did his job well.” quoted by Martin Luther King Jr.

I love this quote.

[Anonymous32445]

Nothing's changed.

[Anonymous32445]

Over 7 months, I've achieved nothing.