As a young boy, I used to be attracted to women, but when more and more girls started to antagonize, criticize, tease, and taunt me, i began withdrawn from them. i started liking guys because they were much easier to get along. However, there's one thing that I hate about males even though I'm a male.
Males have been standoffish, distant, and not always very sympathetic. They don't seem to be the sentimental type and if another guy goes aww he would be pegged as gay or feminine. Why is society like that? Pink used to be considered gay, now we see guys dressed in pink. There's nothing wrong with that.

[~Christina]

I'm not sure I understand your post/question.

Are you sexually attracted to males? nothing wrong with that or are you wondering why males tend to not show as much emotion as say some females will?

Are you looking for a love relationship ? or just friends to hang out with?

I know. I go off topic a lot.
First I wanted to say that back in middle school I met a lot of girls who always said a lot of mean things to me. Before, they were super nice, but once I started to hang out with them more, they started to get all weirded out, like why am I not with my guy friends? Well because I didn’t have any. Why are you with us all the time? Dude, quit following us already, stalker. There was a lot more than that but that’s only a few. It would be pointless to go back in time and remember all the nasty stuff they said.
Then I started to draw near to guys. That happened when I was sitting next to this guy, who was super short. He was cute, I told myself. I started to look at other guys who were just as handsome.
I was like what’s going on? I used to be attracted to girls. All of a sudden, I’m into guys. I asked myself if this had to do with the fact that most girls had turned me off with these offensive remarks.

Then we graduated from middle school and my feelings for guys still haven't faded. Right now I'm starting to notice girls a bit more, but not as much as I used to. I don't want to be attracted to guys, but I can't help it.

[uncreativeartist]

I don't think you have a choice in who you like. You can argue with yourself that you want to like one and not the other but your mind and body is not going to lie. Eventually your mind, body and heart will get what they want.

I can see you being turned off of girls, that's the key word though girls. What you need to do is meet women. You are basing life decisions on a bad experience don't let yourself do that. You need to see what and who is out there.

Nothing wrong with being straight or gay or bi you like who you like and don't worry about it. If someone doesn't like it that's their problem not yours.

I hope you can find what you need and are looking for and don't let that one experience and girls cause you problems.

Originally Posted by uncreativeartist

I don't think you have a choice in who you like. You can argue with yourself that you want to like one and not the other but your mind and body is not going to lie. Eventually your mind, body and heart will get what they want.

I can see you being turned off of girls, that's the key word though girls. What you need to do is meet women. You are basing life decisions on a bad experience don't let yourself do that. You need to see what and who is out there.

Nothing wrong with being straight or gay or bi you like who you like and don't worry about it. If someone doesn't like it that's their problem not yours.

I hope you can find what you need and are looking for and don't let that one experience and girls cause you problems.

If I don't have any kids, who will I spend time with?

[~Christina]

If you don't mind my asking ... How old are you ? It would help me put things in perspective a bit more.

[uncreativeartist]

Originally Posted by heyitsme7

If I don't have any kids, who will I spend time with?

I don't get your question. I don't think I mentioned anything about kids. Or are you talking about having kids? There is always adoption, a lot of good kids are given a crappy life. What better way to help someone and be their support?

Originally Posted by uncreativeartist

I don't get your question. I don't think I mentioned anything about kids. Or are you talking about having kids? There is always adoption, a lot of good kids are given a crappy life. What better way to help someone and be their support?

Yes that's what I meant, that is in the future. Yeah but wouldn't you want someone that's your own, and not someone elses?

Originally Posted by ~Christina

If you don't mind my asking ... How old are you ? It would help me put things in perspective a bit more.

I am always thinking ahead of time, about my future, my aspirations, everything.. I worry too much. I don't let myself decide when the time arrives. I may change my mind in the future. I may be definite in my decision making now or later. I don't know.

[~Christina]

Everyone wonders what they will do when they grow up, That is normal no matter what your age. I'm 46 and I am still not sure.

You need to balance things out .. live in the here and now and while you are living your life your future will start to form with out you even being aware.

Everyone seems to be in a hurry to grow up and make huge decisions in there lives. Just Live

Yep, I agree, because then in the future, you might change your path in life and looking back you wish you weren't so definite.

I should just let time determine what will happen. However, that does not mean I should just sit there and expect it to be given to me.

[uncreativeartist]

Originally Posted by heyitsme7

Yes that's what I meant, that is in the future. Yeah but wouldn't you want someone that's your own, and not someone elses?

There are ways for you to have your own kid other then the normal way. You may be asking the wrong about having their own kids. I have never nor do I ever want kids. Also even if I did I don't have any desirable traits to get or keep a woman.

Originally Posted by uncreativeartist

There are ways for you to have your own kid other then the normal way. You may be asking the wrong about having their own kids. I have never nor do I ever want kids. Also even if I did I don't have any desirable traits to get or keep a woman.

Then what happens when you age? How can you live alone?

[~Christina]

You make "living alone" sounds horrible.... That isn't always the case, and having children doesn't automatically mean they will be right there with you.

Obsessing over what may happen years down the road takes away the life you can have now.

Live your life now in the present.

Originally Posted by ~Christina

You make "living alone" sounds horrible.... That isn't always the case, and having children doesn't automatically mean they will be right there with you.

Obsessing over what may happen years down the road takes away the life you can have now.

Live your life now in the present.

I agree. It can rob me of joy sometimes.

[spondiferous]

Life doesn't sort itself out automatically. It takes, well, a lifetime. You sound like someone who's probably got - and possibly has always had - heightened perceptive abilities and sensitivity, and notice a lot more than the average person. Whether you like guys or girls is irrelevant. It sounds like you are into both. Me too. It's cool. More options.
Living alone is alright. Prior to meeting my fiancee I was single and celibate for four years, by choice. It was amazing. I got a lonely a time or two but that loneliness was easily filled by self care, hanging out with friends, doing things I enjoyed, and just getting to know myself. It sounds like you're sorting out a lot of things about yourself and feel conflicted about a lot of stuff. Don't rush it. Just enjoy the process. You only get to be young once. You only get to be any age once. One day at a time.

Originally Posted by spondiferous

Life doesn't sort itself out automatically. It takes, well, a lifetime. You sound like someone who's probably got - and possibly has always had - heightened perceptive abilities and sensitivity, and notice a lot more than the average person. Whether you like guys or girls is irrelevant. It sounds like you are into both. Me too. It's cool. More options.
Living alone is alright. Prior to meeting my fiancee I was single and celibate for four years, by choice. It was amazing. I got a lonely a time or two but that loneliness was easily filled by self care, hanging out with friends, doing things I enjoyed, and just getting to know myself. It sounds like you're sorting out a lot of things about yourself and feel conflicted about a lot of stuff. Don't rush it. Just enjoy the process. You only get to be young once. You only get to be any age once. One day at a time.

Well hopefully I can hang out with friends who aren't too crazy about partying and getting drunk all the time. That's against my views. I don't like partying hard.

[Yoda]

Originally Posted by heyitsme7

Well hopefully I can hang out with friends who aren't too crazy about partying and getting drunk all the time. That's against my views. I don't like partying hard.

Good for you. I hope you meet some new people who are nice.

[uncreativeartist]

Originally Posted by heyitsme7

Then what happens when you age? How can you live alone?

Me I just get older like everyone else. I have lived alone or been alone a lot over the years. For the most part I prefer it.

Originally Posted by uncreativeartist

Me I just get older like everyone else. I have lived alone or been alone a lot over the years. For the most part I prefer it.

I wouldn't. suppose something happens and I'm the only one, unarmed... you never know when these things may take place.

Two is always better than one.

I think that before I even became gay, like I didn't realize that I was until 7th grade, I was interested in some feminine books, like some japanese books or something. Plus, I also bought a hello kitty necklace, and wore it which was a pretty feminine thing to do. But i only bought it because I thought it would look nice. Gosh, that was so ... Even girls teased and laughed at me. Wow...strange isn't it? But at the time I liked girls so i don't get how it was..