I don't exactly know what people expect out of the chat room.
Do they want to hear other people agree how terrible the world is?
Or do they want to distract themselves from their overburdening thoughts and be cheered up?
Would they rather just talk about feeling sad and hopeless?
I don't know anymore.....i feel out of place there.

[Kellyann]

sometimes people just need to vent. sometimes people are just looking for a friend, someone that understands what they are going through, someone not to judge them. Sometimes, they just want to chat about stupid things. Everyone has their own reasons I guess, we all do what we do to get through the day.

[(JD)]

<font color="blue"> IMO this is exacly why there are several rooms... and why there are some basic guidelines about using them. Everyone has the right to ask for the topic to be changed... if it seems most of the room is enjoying the chat, then it might be time to move to a different room (but I'd still ask, because often ppl would rather all members engage.)

Whining chats, or such...IMO ... really need to move to the support room or a private room.

Sometimes more than one chat occurs in the same room at the same time... either ignore technically those not in your conversation, or just pay attention to those responding to you. That's why using different color font is so useful!

Sorry I haven't been around in chat for a week or so... Hope to chat with you soon gtr!

[Rhapsody]

GTR - what can I say but it often varies, depending on the person or the events that have taken place that day.... just go with the flow.


LoVe,
Rhapsody - ((( hugs )))

[drunksunflower]

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<font color="blue"> IMO this is exacly why there are several rooms... and why there are some basic guidelines about using them. Everyone has the right to ask for the topic to be changed... if it seems most of the room is enjoying the chat, then it might be time to move to a different room (but I'd still ask, because often ppl would rather all members engage.)

Whining chats, or such...IMO ... really need to move to the support room or a private room.

Sometimes more than one chat occurs in the same room at the same time... either ignore technically those not in your conversation, or just pay attention to those responding to you. That's why using different color font is so useful!

Sorry I haven't been around in chat for a week or so... Hope to chat with you soon gtr!

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That's a really good post Sky.

I don't know, I see both advantages (good place to vent) and disadvantages (in a way it can perpetuate negativity) to the chat room.

It would be nice if ppl respected the roles of the different rooms more

[EJ711]

Guitar Player,

The one time I think we were in chat with other people, I found you to be extremely uplifting and light-hearted.

Thank you,

EJ

[drunksunflower]

Yay EJ!!! that bwoy rocks da part-ay

[MyBestKids2]

I am sorry to say I haven't run into you in the chat room yet. I have only belonged to PC for a short period, but have probably been in there 50x. Some people are down, some people are up, and I try to react to each differently. I have only been in there once when someone was asked to change the subject. We are usually supportive and care about each other just as you all do out "here". The few times I wanted to "cry" and went to to the other chat room, no one ever came in. Please give the chat room another chance. Some of us are in there just trying to be sociable, and caring.

[deepblue]

gtr player

i am glad you posted this because i feel that even though the conversation we had was a debateable one i felt i understood your side and how you see it and how i saw it being a personal experience of our topic,but please i felt somewhat enlightened by our chat. i have never spoke to anyone with your condition so there fore took a rather abrupt nature of defense on my side

look forward to chatting with you soon

sorry if i offended you

keep smiling

Thank you for your response deepblue.
I have been thinking about it and perhaps you are right.....everyone in chat is not interested in hearing how nice the world can really be, or how each day is a new start...i'm sure they know that already without me reminding them.....they are just having difficulty making it happen and sometimes I forget that.
And yes, I do not or did not have the same experiences as you or others have, so maybe I was wrong in assuming people want to be "cheered up".
I just have a hard time agreeing with people (well ok, women....) that all men are bad, not to be trusted, etc., and life is not worth living.....
I just don't feel that way.
I have never abused anyone in my life and never will.
I just thought if you knew that there are really men out there that are decent and respect women, perhaps you would feel a little safer or hopeful, that's all.

[Rhapsody]

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I have never abused anyone in my life and never will.
I just thought if you knew that there are really men out there that are decent and respect women, perhaps you would feel a little safer or hopeful, that's all.

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Hey - My friend Gtr....

Yes, it is good to know that there are men out there that are decent and respectful, and we do know this, but sadly most of us have yet to experience that for our self... having is better than just knowing.

And Yes, while you and many of men will never harm another, please keep in mind that there are more ways than sexual / physical to abuse one with.

YOU are GREAT!! in my book and I really like talking with you.... take care.

LoVe,
Rhapsody -

[drunksunflower]

Yes he is

Keep in mind, you women who don't trust men because of bad experiences that you were hurt at the hands of a PERSON.

Not at the the GENERIC hands of MEN.

And yes, I can talk, because I have had a horrible experience myself.

But the people who have helped me the most have been my MALE friends.

If it had been at home ... thanks to my MALE friends ... that person would not be alive today.

So I trust men ... the men in my life are beautiful, trustworthy, knights in shining armour types.

I have had my MALE friends save my little sister from her abusive boyfriend ... I cannot say how, but they were as angry, if not more, than I was at what was going on.

So MEN are fantastic ... and you cannot tar half the population through one experience.

End of story

[mssumom]

Even as I am dealing with an abusive exhusband and among other things just got the 6 stitches taken out of my head on friday, I know logically that the majority of men are not like that but I don't trust my judgement anymore to know the good from the bad when it comes to getting involved in a relationship so I just don't do it. The guys that I work with....awesome and very caring, all good family men and would do anything at any time for me. I have plenty of guy friends, don't hate all men even though my personal relationship experiences with men haven't/aren't great.......gtrplayer I hope to get to know through posts and chats. I can always use an example of one more "good" guy friend to balance out the rest of my life!! Hope this makes sense and I didn't ramble to long........thanks to all

Lori

[Puggie]

Is OCD common?