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Aug 11, 2013, 07:03 AM
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down and sore and confused.
I feel like I've been beaten up. but that's just that I'm too sensitive and.... I won't engage in putting myself down further. Isolating hurts. Having friends (IRL or online ) is... (?) How do you learn to trust? My trust has been broken and violated time and time again... Since early childhood. 
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Aug 11, 2013, 07:23 AM
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I'm not sure if this will help but I have this theory that if you trust yourself then you can deal with the possibility of betrayal without it causing you to distrust everyone. Many people are inherently untrustworthy but many are not. I think it's impossible to live a reasonably normal and satisfactory life without trust, despite all the betrayals we will face. I don't think you can learn to trust... just have to trust and accept the consequences will sometimes be good and sometimes bad. If you trust yourself it will all work out.
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Aug 11, 2013, 07:45 AM
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The trouble is I think there are people that play on our trust. I've been taken in, in the past and got burned badly. Yeah it hurt but I'm still alive. I don't know if this helps you Fuzzy.
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Aug 11, 2013, 01:06 PM
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Are you able to tell us more about your circumstances? Sorry you are hurting....
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Aug 11, 2013, 01:27 PM
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I used to be too trusting in some cases. Then I realized that and moved the boundary for what's trustworthy. Create standards people have to live up to before I trust them. If the standards aren't tight enough, move the standards. Maybe mine are too tight, but at least I feel safe. Maybe you can try that. It is possible to get some control. Realize that betrayal is about them more than about you. And go slow, trust little bits at a time so there isn't a neverending river of hurt as a result, just raindrops.
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Aug 11, 2013, 01:58 PM
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I think there is a lot of wisdom in what's been said here, but I like what George said the best. One of the things that I am beginning to learn for myself is that as long as I am willing to meet my own needs and take care of myself I trust myself, and I know that if something happens and I am let down it will be painful, yes, but I will be okay because I have learned or am learning to take care of myself.
Isolation is very painful. I've been isolating a lot lately. The outside world is too much. But today there is a thunderstorm. There's hope for me yet.  I hope you feel better soon...
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Aug 11, 2013, 04:30 PM
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Quote:
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((((((( Fuzzybear! )))))))
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Aug 11, 2013, 04:38 PM
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| Fuzzybear, kindachaotic, pegasus
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Aug 12, 2013, 02:43 AM
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I am right there with you Fuzzybear, I have a real hard time trusting also. I think George has some wise thoughts there...We do have to trust ourselves and also remember like deelooted said...We have the power and don't ever let anyone have your power! I know it is hard but try not to isolate to much it really doesn't help and does make it harder. I try and at least come here sometimes even if I am not communicating much with anyone else. Take care my friend remember you are not alone.
Hugs and good thoughts coming your way!(((((((Fuzzybear)))))))
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Aug 12, 2013, 07:27 AM
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Fuzzikins, I am sorry you are feeling low. I hope you feel better soon. I want to offer you my perspective on trust. If it helps you, I will be glad. If it does not or you think it is crazy, I will apologize in advance.
I understand about betrayal of trust. After having several severe shocks to my system by other people, I decided to build my own competencies so that I did not need to rely on others and/or (depending on the situation) so that I could more easily detect who was likely to be less sincere or less able to follow through on whatever he or she was promising. I think we have to be unafraid to say "this is not for me" and more trusting of our own judgment in continuing to hold out for decent treatment from others. I do not rush into relationships, and would rather spend time with myself than with an untrustworthy person. |
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