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Sep 02, 2013, 06:50 PM
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My fiance is driving me crazy, I don't know what to do anymore.
I read many things about all personality disorders and could not find one that best suits his personality. If he suffer from a mental disorder I'm willing to help him. We have been together for 2 years, we have the most terrible fights over his lies. It's not compulsive lying, he lies to please people, he goes out with people and says he was home taking care of his ill mother... I did not know he had a problem.. After another big fight he told me he has a problem, he lies a lot to please people, its like a chameleon. . . I think I am only seeing the tip of a big iceberg! His personality is like this: Highly concerned about how he looks and appears, Acts overly friendly with strangers, example: he exchange phone number with the cashier. he want's to be best friends with everyone. Lies very easily. Lies a lot! Too much. He says he is home but he is out with his friends, he tell his friends Im a very bad person. but when he is in front of me he treats me like a god! Extreme need to please others, all the time! Its too much.... Seeks to be accepted and loved by everyone! Does not know how to say no to people. Very low self esteem Changes his opinion when in different groups, like a chameleon. What can it be? |
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Sep 02, 2013, 07:55 PM
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for some people its a learning disorder for some its a physical health issue for others its any number of things.. the line in the sand is that we cant tell you what this is. only your fiance and their treatment providers ie the fiance's medical doctor, therapist or phychiatrist) can say what this is in your fiance.. my suggestion let your fiance know what you are thinking maybe they can shed some light on this or they are willing to see a treatment provider that will be able to say whether this is normal, or a mental /physical health problems. |
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Sep 02, 2013, 10:24 PM
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Amandalouise is right. We can't diagnose here--there could be many explanations for his behavior. I, too, would suggest you see if he will talk to a doctor or therapist for an evaluation.
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Sep 02, 2013, 10:33 PM
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Welcome! Obviously we can't diagnose some one over the Internet, tho it's fun to speculate
 I think your right! Your just seeing the tip of the iceberg. well put indeed. There is most definitely more to this picture and story! By what you mention it could be any thing or nothing. And don't limit it to just personality disorders. Could also be a mood disorder such as bipolar. You won't know for sure. Is he moody? Does he go off in rage? Every violent? Criminal record? Reckless driver? Spends money like a drunk sailor? Disappears for days or weeks? Even though we can not diagnose or say with any certainty what's going on. I would not discourage you from researching. Just keep in mind that often all these signs can be easily explained by drug abuse too! Could be a combination of both, then the doctor tries to figure out what came first. It's a long process. Patience.
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Sep 02, 2013, 11:04 PM
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I don't know- I'll be honest.
From the information you've provided, it just sounds like he's a jerk and not very nice to you and does whatever he wants, even talking trash about you- and you try to come up with any reason you can to excuse him. That's a natural defense. But not everyone has clinical issues that they need to work through, as was suggested. Some people are just jerks. They just use people, do what they want. They simply lie to get what they want. They aren't passive chameleons, they are active manipulators. Obviously, just one possible scenario, but maybe one you should consider. I'm not certain there is an acceptable reason, for ME anyway, that my fiance could provide to me why he would talk crap about me to his friends and then treat me well when around me. You likely have a different perspective as you actually know the situation and details intimately. I don't know your fiance or you, but maybe try to step out of the situation and look at it from another angle? |
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Sep 02, 2013, 11:30 PM
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He sounds like my father.
The description would almost perfectly fit. I don't think my father has a mental disorder, he's just a douche. That's just my opinion on my father. I don't know anything about your boyfriend or personality disorders. |
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Sep 03, 2013, 02:50 AM
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If he is your fiance and presuming there are wedding plans....... do you really want to live with this person for the rest of you life?. Trust sounds it is already out the window. Think very seriously before you take the next step.
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Sep 09, 2013, 02:27 PM
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Sep 09, 2013, 03:14 PM
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Lying and talking behind your back is a good reason to leave this person. He definately needs a doc and t. maybe meds would help if he does get a diagnoses
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Sep 10, 2013, 05:03 PM
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Don't marry him because you feel bad, or think he's "going through something" even if he does have a mental disorder or illness, it's never going to be he's just "going through something.
If now, I would postpone the wedding, you want to be completely conferrable with him. And lying is never a good thing.
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