[lynn P.]

When I was pregnant with my youngest, we (my husband) had an experience with a company that was negligent. It went on for 5 yrs, went to court and won but the company appealed....and they won. Since they won, we would be stuck with their legal costs. We then had nothing to lose and had to take it further but lost that too. It was all over in the papers and news ...ended up being totally humiliating. We even had to declare bankruptcy because we couldn't pay the other sides legal costs...we almost lost our house.

This was a total humiliation for me and my oldest went through having kids make fun over this in elementary school. My husband wasn't embarrassed as much, because he still thinks he was right plus he's has an ego big as a house. Fast forward 12 yrs later, my oldest is in grade 11 now. A friend texts her and says the law class has an assignment of various law cases and one of them is our case with our name. This is a gross invasion of my daughters privacy and sets her up for kids bullying her and putting her through hell.

I intend to go to the school 1st thing Monday morning to ask how on earth this teacher, thinks its fine to discuss in detail this case..... when my daughter goes to this school. She will also be taking this course next term with this teacher. I'm so mad beyond belief.

[Wren_]

wow Lynn I really hope you can get that stopped! horrible enough to have that happen but for it to be dragged out like that in your daughters school is terrible; there is plenty of news without need for that
I remember once on a school test ages ago a question referred to a news article on the death of one students parents and the student was in that class so totally thoughtless and unkind as is this

That is horrible! Just awful. I hope you can get this stopped.

[H3rmit]

I'm surprised they would do that and not realize (or care?) that the family is in the school. I hope you will have a good result with sorting out this thing.

[Lmats]

Oh, that's horrible! I'd be so mad if I were you too! I can't believe the school wouldn't even bother to check into that a bit more. I hope everything gets sorted out for you!!

[Travelinglady]

What's with this insensitive teacher? For goodness sake!

[healingme4me]

The school, really needs to display, a little more compassion, for your family. Other cases could be covered. I'd feel hurt and angry, myself

[Open Eyes]

Lynn, you need to go right to the teacher and discuss this, if you do not get satisfaction then go to the principal, if not there go to the superintendent. Go as high as you need to, this is wrong and your child is still underage and doesn't deserve the backlash that can come from this.

((Hugs))
OE

[sabby]

While I certainly agree that this is not a good thing and it should not be allowed, I hope that you can consider that it's possible this teacher and/or school may not have put 2 and 2 together to know this was about a students family.

If your children's names were kept out of the limelight, they may not know. I mean, how would they specifically?

(((((((( Lynn & family )))))))))))

Slow down a bit. The teacher may have absolutely no clue that the case involves a family with a student currently enrolled in the school since apparently this isn't your daughter's teacher. I certainly don't know all the students in my school. Certainly bring it up to the principal and ask that your husband's case be taken off of the assignment and substituted with a different case, but it is probably completely coincidental on the teacher's part. I suspect the teacher will have no problem substituting a different case.

[lynn P.]

Thank you to everyone for the support and I appreciate all the responses. When I wrote this I was at the height of being upset but I've calmed down now.

Thanks Sabby and 1914sierra for the other point of view. I plan to go tomorrow and speak to the principal and hopefully the teacher. I've considered this may be totally unintentional of the the teachers part, because he is new to the school. The high school part is actually a small number of students because the school is only 2 yrs old. My daughter even worked as office assistant during the summer and has a great relationship with all the staff....they love her. I never lose it when I'm discussing something serious and will state the problem, then listen.

The assignment was a print out of several cases and its already been handed out. For my daughter this is opening all the flood gates for her again or its like pitbulls being released. The reason this is so triggering is because the media had a feeding frenzy 5 yrs ago. Kids in her elementary school tried to make fun of her dad to my oldest. It was an embarrassing case because the media didn't support us. H was claiming mental stress over this case and all this is detailed in the case. This was all incredibly stressful and embarrassing for me and my daughter. They would tease her and tell her "your dad is crazy". Some of those kids are in that class. There isn't much the teacher can do because those students already took the assignment home Friday. A friend of hers emailed it to us. I will tell the principal or teacher what happened and see what he has to say. My daughter will be taking this course next term. I'll let all of you know what happened tomorrow and promise to handle this with grace.

[lynn P.]

I went to the school this morning with my daughter and spoke to the principal. We showed her the paper with a page long description of this case, with our last name on it. She said the teacher is new from another province and this was totally coincidental. He probably picked it because it was in the media all over Canada - media loves this kind of thing. She apologized and said she would try to take all the papers and destroy them. She also pointed out, she will tell the teacher if he wants to give examples of real life cases in the future.... to run them by her first, because you never know if students families might be involved.

When we 1st heard this, we were very triggered and upset.....when that happens people tend to react worse. Even in the heat of a moment I'm not a person who swears or yells, but this is a good lesson to calm down before speaking to anyone. So I'm very pleased this went so well - all the staff are wonderful at this school. Thanks to everyone who responded to this.

[sabby]

I absolutely understand how this affected you and your daughter! I also understand that when things happen that really trigger us, there is usually a reason that we haven't considered because we are so stressed over it. That's why I tried to interject what that reason might be.

I'm glad you were able to find some calm about it all and that you had a good response from the school regarding this issue. Mistakes and missteps happen in life and it's communication that can fix those things! Good for you!

[Wren_]

glad it all turned out so well Lynn

[Travelinglady]

Thank goodness the teacher didn't turn out to be the insensitive clod we (well, maybe me, anyway) was thinking he might be! Yes, it's good to communicate before jumping to conclusions.

[Rohag]

***relieved***
((((((( Lynn P. & daughters )))))))

Maybe they were unaware that this relates to your daughter, and it's just part of the syllabus. I'm sure they would be willing to make the necessary changes under these special and unique circumstances.

[lynn P.]

Thanks again to everyone. Illegal Toilet - yes I took the wise advice of Sabby, 1914sierra and like you said...... to find out if this was accidental. As mentioned yesterday, the teacher is new and was unaware my daughter was at the school.

Update - the principal spoke to the teacher right away. The class was supposed to take up the assignment yesterday in class. They were given a list of different cases with description and were supposed to label them Private Case or Public Case. He took everyone's print out and ripped that page out of everyone in the class.

The principal made the excellent decision - if future legal examples are given she should approve them first. My daughters friend is in that class and said the teacher looked a little flustered yesterday. My daughter will be taking this class next term. Lucky she wasn't taking it this term, since it would catch her off guard. The touchy part of this is, several students who bothered her years ago over this, were in that class. I'm very happy the Principal was wonderful and this school is great. My daughter is very happy at this school.

[January]

((((((((( Lynn P and Daughter ))))))))

I'm so glad everything turned out so well.



Jan

[Perna]

I'm glad things turned out as well as they did and also glad it happened a few years ago so the kids making fun in elementary school taking the class now might have forgotten some of the details and/or "grown up" a bit. I'd be a little anxious if your daughter is taking the class next year with that teacher, that the teacher will be thinking "oh, the girl with the problem. . ."